This is my take on things, lol:
I believe if Im walking with Christ and I have my eyes on Christ and Im trusting him and his timing for a mate in my life, when He knows that Im ready and my mate is ready, and also my mate has his eyes on Christ and praying and waiting and trusting God also, that God will unite us, bring us together, bump into each other, have us in the same place at the same time and we will be shown. Whether its spark, a common interest, talking about God, I mean.....something!!!! Only God knows and Im allowing Him to put all the pieces together. I trust God enough that in His time and his place that will happen.
I actually, personally don't find any comfort in knowing that there could be multiple people for me. I would always think that one could be easier, or better than the other or that I possibly chose the wrong person. Maybe each individual is different? That could be an option. Maybe with me, God is telling me to wait that he wants to bring the mate to me, but he might be telling Susie to go out and mingle.
Also, when I think of "the one", in a way I don't really think of ONE. I think more of the one that God wants me to be with, who he has chosen for me at that certain time, MEANING, if my mate was to die, God could potentially give me another THE ONE at the moment in life that matches up with me. I know it might sound confusing or contradicting, but its honestly not hard. Its trusting God and I get things happen with death and I know God can give us someone else to be with in life, not saying one is less than the other, but just different chapters and parts of our lives.
Ive been married before and can I say he was "the one", no, for multiple reasons. I didn't give him to Christ in our whole 6 year before we got married relationship. In fact when we did our counselling before marriage, I remember my preacher asking us to go home and make sure that this is who God has for us, and I remember being so scared to pray to God because I didn't want to hear a no. I never put laid him at Christs feet and allowed His will to be done, so I made that choice, because I wanted to be with him.
Now years later I came across this guy, who I didn't want to be. He just so happened to tumble across my life, who liked me and I wasn't interested. He was interested in me and finally after trying to pursue me for long and asked me to pray for God to open or close this door because I was showing no hope of us ever being together. In fact I didn't want to be, I wasn't ready and he was kinda on the dorky side for me. Well I went ahead and prayed that prayer and not with inthusiasm at all. Lets just say, my world did a 360 within weeks of that prayer. God started tearing down walls, made me see this man in a way I never thought I could ever possible, had friends and his friends and family tell us that we are God given to each other, which really blew us away cause we started praying together. What did it for me, is when I hard him teach Sunday school to his college class one day and I cant even explain it. God put this love in my heart that I didn't want to feel, that I never EVER felt in my life, even to my ex husband. It was a gift, it was a God giving gift of love towards this man that I fought to be with. I saw him from that moment in a total different view. That love has yet to go away as hard as I have tried to get rid of it.
So my thing is really, I chose to be with my husband because I Wanted it, but never had that spark, that peace, even tho he was a godly man. Then the man I didn't want to be with, God put a love there that I was forever shaken with and has yet to go away. Theres so much more to the story but, I just wanted to share with anyone who may not have had that seed planting love for ONE individual and it never go away, why is it ONE?
