I would say u r a 5 . Definitely not ugly but , nothing special looks wise . I hope u find happiness and , that u bring happiness to your other half .
What are you looking for?
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This raises a curious question - at what number on the scale does someone "classify" as 'ugly'?
I've never seen a minus 1 in looks , but I've met a few minus 1 personalitiesMinus 1
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I suppose that should make sense - because, any number on a scale of attractiveness should/would [still] be attractive to some degree.Minus 1
So - someone is "unattractive" at '0' and "ugly" at '-1' ?
My [general] definition of 'ugly' is that it literally "hurts" to look at [someone] ( i.e. -
); therefore, there are really very few people who are [truly] 'ugly'.To me - 'plain' and 'homely' are not the same thing as 'ugly'. I do not consider either to be "totally unattractive" - perhaps "just in the lower end of the scale" - there can/may still be some level of attractiveness present - "to each his own", "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", etc.
Will you still think this way after/if/when your wife of the future gets into the habit of giving everything of yours away to people she thinks need it more...???
Only someone who knows nothing about me would ask a question like that. And though I don't talk much about it, many here have born witness of me in this regard multiple times. Perhaps you didn't happen to read the relevant threads.
Ask many of the kids at church or w*rk about me in this matter.
Or find all the laptops that used to be mine. Or all the audio patch cables that are currently being used in the sound booth, the drum cage, or to connect a kid's guitar to his computer so he can use a laptop as an FX box. Or the bluetooth speakers. Or the flash drives that went home with a music project or program. Or the stacks and stacks of CDs for choir projects (that one is in the past, thanks to youtube and the prevalence of smartphones.) Or the mints at the church welcome center. I buy some things (mints, flash drives, patch cables, etc) in bulk just so it will be feasible to do such things.
Actually just tonight I picked up six more flash drives and eight bags of soft mints for dirt cheap. Yay for the auction house!
I'm not big on virtue signaling so I don't talk about this much. But (censored) (expurgated) my (redacted) if I'm going to let someone cast aspersions on my character in this area without saying anything at all.
Hmm... I think I should put a clarification on that reply I made last night.
If some newbie had rolled up and said that, I would have said something like "Haha! It would probably be the other way around. I'd be making HER nervous."
If one of my friends, who knows me, said that, I would know they were joking and I would return the joke. Like if seoul said it, I'd threaten to give Winston away to a needy child.
But YOU... You seem to enjoy throwing shade, as the kids say. I keep getting the impression that you take an almost gleeful delight in finding ways to make people look bad. Of course I have never met you in person, so I don't know for sure. Probably better so. But that is the impression I keep getting.
It gets annoying. So last night my annoyance runneth over.
Sounds generally reasonable to me. I love #3 and #4, especially. I married someone, thinking that some things would change with time, but they never did. In fact, some of the things I intentionally overlooked only became magnified with time (as mom warned me!). My former wife did a great job of "playing church." She really viewed it as much more of a social club, so we were diametrically opposed on that point. Please don't ever compromise with anyone when it regards faith in Jesus Christ and their being born again in the blood of Jesus (doesn't sound as if you will!).
I share your desire for the future spouse to get along very well with our parents. My former wife never made any real effort to mesh with my mom and stepfather. It bothered me a lot, even though I never told her. I think a lot of it had to do with the fact she was raised in a family with substantial means, and my parents were solid middle-class folks. My parents delicately put the warnings out there for me ahead of time, and I delicately pushed those to the side. Live and learn, huh? It's work, but it will all be well worth it in the end. God bless you and your efforts to find that significant other!
I'll grant you that I had never looked up the definition of "starter wife," but for many years I and my peers seem to have understood the phrase to mean that first marriage one had, whereby you learned the ropes and learned all the hard lessons...in preparation for and for the benefit of the second, more sustainable marriage. It was a tongue-in-cheek phrase as a way of saying that all the kinks got worked out of both parties during the first marriage, such that the second marriage ended up being the beneficiary.
None of that emanates from a Christian perspective, of course, but I always took it as just one of those "funny" things to say. And I don't know if that is more of an East Coast (or coastal) thing, either. I first heard it maybe 30 years ago or so??
First of all, how did a comment made about another person's mother having a heart of gold with a practical measure of motivation suddenly turn into all-about-you?
How could you possibly come up with the "cast aspersions on my character" impression if your motives for post #3 were really actually pure-at-heart?????
How did anything that you do or have done come into this from a mere "praising" of a woman who you thought was 'beautiful' because of her actions???
This whole idea never entered my mind while writing post #269.
Second - how long have you been reading my posts and have not yet figured out that when I write a post that consists of a single italicized sentence - it often means I am putting something forth as an off-the-cuff and/or tongue-in-cheek type of question/statement? Yes, I also do that when making a [more serious] food-for-thought point/suggestion - intended to get the reader to think; however, probably more times than not I do it to be amusing/funny.
My using italics for the whole sentence means that it is intended for some kind of emphasis. If I were speaking to you in person, "normal text" would be "normal talking" while italicized text would be saying something in a way that indicates an intent of humor, sarcasm, etc. - whether being serious or funny, the italicized text is a "mimic" of what would be the style of speaking - apart from what is being said. Which is why it may be used in various ways to emphasize different things. You have to rely on other 'clues' to determine the full picture. After all, there are only so many available methods to use... (bold, italics, etc.)
The three question marks instead of just one usually indicates a 'pointed' approach to the question - like, 'give me a real answer'. Sometimes, it indicates an 'are you serious' kind of reply to a hard-to-believe or otherwise questionable statement.
So, yes - there was a 'serious' component to the question.
However, the question as a whole was intended to also be humorous - based on the idea of a mental picture in the mind of the reader - imagining a wife doing something like that while the husband is saying "No wait! Not that!" about everything she gives away. This was actually the central focus of the post.
Third - when are you going to tear down the wall you have put up between you and me? No matter what I say or how I say it, you always assume it is intended to disparage you. If anything, it is you who are way-too-cynical and prone to "casting aspersions" when the basis for it does not even exist. And, I think maybe you are a bit more into virtue signaling than perhaps you even realize. You are always trying to make yourself look good and others look bad. Some of your remarks in the quotes above sound exactly backwards. From my perspective, it is you who are always looking for ways to try to make me look bad.
From my vantage point, this is what is written on your wall:
"I will never allow myself to become friends with him - no matter what."
If you do not tear down that wall, how are we ever going to be able to be friends?
I think it is great that you try to do what you can to help other folks with computers, etc. - I try to do things like that to help others, too.
But, how did all of that even get into this picture??? What does that have to do with a "praise" comment about another person's mother???
You see - all of this stuff you posted - is only in your mind - it surely never entered mine.
Nothing I said was intended to "cast aspersions on your character" - please try to believe that.
Tell-you-what - when in doubt, just assume that I am trying to be amusing/funny and just not very good at it...
Only, reverse the numbers on the chart - right?Why not use one of those emoji pain chart things like at the doctor's office instead. Since numbers seem to be confusing.
Hi Gary.... that's a lot for us to have to remember, just so we can interpret your tone
. Do you think you could learn to use emojis more? They are more universally understood and there's quite a few to pick from 
. Hard to get mad at the face lol 
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The first thing every morning,
At the crack of dawn every day,
I'd like to hold a lady in my arms,
And woo her in a lovely way.
As I caress and cuddle her in bed,
and run my fingers down her spine,
while I kiss her lips, neck, and head,
I'd make love 'til it's breakfast time.
After rising from our floral feilds,
and once I cook my dame her meal,
if it's not a day where duty steals,
I'd spend it helping how she feels.
We would go out on adventures,
and decorate our home with love.
Being united in all endeavors,
our nest will be of gentle doves.
Lay your feet on my lap,
so I can rub your soles and thighs.
Join me in a bubble bath,
so we can relax under candle light.
If she was to cross me,
I would not so much as raise my voice.
I would never raise my hands to harm.
But if she were to cross me,
she had better shut her arms up tight,
she had better close her feet up well,
she had better hide her neck with her might;
because once my fingers got to them,
they would not stop dancing across her tender flesh,
until her lungs were well out of breath.
The last thing every night,
once we've snuggled each other to sleep in bed,
and we've finished off our fleshy delights,
I'd wish to lay there 'till my life's end.
At the crack of dawn every day,
I'd like to hold a lady in my arms,
And woo her in a lovely way.
As I caress and cuddle her in bed,
and run my fingers down her spine,
while I kiss her lips, neck, and head,
I'd make love 'til it's breakfast time.
After rising from our floral feilds,
and once I cook my dame her meal,
if it's not a day where duty steals,
I'd spend it helping how she feels.
We would go out on adventures,
and decorate our home with love.
Being united in all endeavors,
our nest will be of gentle doves.
Lay your feet on my lap,
so I can rub your soles and thighs.
Join me in a bubble bath,
so we can relax under candle light.
If she was to cross me,
I would not so much as raise my voice.
I would never raise my hands to harm.
But if she were to cross me,
she had better shut her arms up tight,
she had better close her feet up well,
she had better hide her neck with her might;
because once my fingers got to them,
they would not stop dancing across her tender flesh,
until her lungs were well out of breath.
The last thing every night,
once we've snuggled each other to sleep in bed,
and we've finished off our fleshy delights,
I'd wish to lay there 'till my life's end.
In that case we revert to the first plan I listed:First of all, how did a comment made about another person's mother having a heart of gold with a practical measure of motivation suddenly turn into all-about-you?
How could you possibly come up with the "cast aspersions on my character" impression if your motives for post #3 were really actually pure-at-heart?????
How did anything that you do or have done come into this from a mere "praising" of a woman who you thought was 'beautiful' because of her actions???
This whole idea never entered my mind while writing post #269.
Second - how long have you been reading my posts and have not yet figured out that when I write a post that consists of a single italicized sentence - it often means I am putting something forth as an off-the-cuff and/or tongue-in-cheek type of question/statement? Yes, I also do that when making a [more serious] food-for-thought point/suggestion - intended to get the reader to think; however, probably more times than not I do it to be amusing/funny.
My using italics for the whole sentence means that it is intended for some kind of emphasis. If I were speaking to you in person, "normal text" would be "normal talking" while italicized text would be saying something in a way that indicates an intent of humor, sarcasm, etc. - whether being serious or funny, the italicized text is a "mimic" of what would be the style of speaking - apart from what is being said. Which is why it may be used in various ways to emphasize different things. You have to rely on other 'clues' to determine the full picture. After all, there are only so many available methods to use... (bold, italics, etc.)
The three question marks instead of just one usually indicates a 'pointed' approach to the question - like, 'give me a real answer'. Sometimes, it indicates an 'are you serious' kind of reply to a hard-to-believe or otherwise questionable statement.
So, yes - there was a 'serious' component to the question.
However, the question as a whole was intended to also be humorous - based on the idea of a mental picture in the mind of the reader - imagining a wife doing something like that while the husband is saying "No wait! Not that!" about everything she gives away. This was actually the central focus of the post.
Third - when are you going to tear down the wall you have put up between you and me? No matter what I say or how I say it, you always assume it is intended to disparage you. If anything, it is you who are way-too-cynical and prone to "casting aspersions" when the basis for it does not even exist. And, I think maybe you are a bit more into virtue signaling than perhaps you even realize. You are always trying to make yourself look good and others look bad. Some of your remarks in the quotes above sound exactly backwards. From my perspective, it is you who are always looking for ways to try to make me look bad.
From my vantage point, this is what is written on your wall:
"I will never allow myself to become friends with him - no matter what."
If you do not tear down that wall, how are we ever going to be able to be friends?
I think it is great that you try to do what you can to help other folks with computers, etc. - I try to do things like that to help others, too.
But, how did all of that even get into this picture??? What does that have to do with a "praise" comment about another person's mother???
You see - all of this stuff you posted - is only in your mind - it surely never entered mine.
Nothing I said was intended to "cast aspersions on your character" - please try to believe that.
Tell-you-what - when in doubt, just assume that I am trying to be amusing/funny and just not very good at it...
Haha! It would probably be the other way around. I'd be making HER nervous.