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192» Eph 5:22 . .Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
Husbands, in a manner of speaking, are a figure of Christ in the Christian
home. So then: wives ought to afford their husbands the same degree of
value, courtesy, and civility that they would give Christ were he their
spouse. In other words; it's not the husband himself who merits his wife's
best behavior, it's his position in the home. For example:
"Show your fear of God by standing up in the presence of elderly people and
showing respect for the aged. I am The Lord." (Lev 19:32)
Rising to one's feet for the elders among us carries over to revering God
because He too is an elder among us. God likely doesn't look His age but we
really should keep in mind that no one is older than He. (cf. Dan 7:9) Taking
this back to the beginning, Adam was made superior to his wife not because
of his gender, rather, because of his age relative to her age. (Gen 3:16 &
1Tim 2:11-13)
The Greek word for "submit" in this verse is the very same for submit in Eph
5:21, and never means that wives take orders from their husbands as if
marriage were an arrangement similar to a monarch and a commoner.
What we're talking about here is deference rather than obedience. An
attitude of deference is mandatory for Christians on both sides of the gender
aisle-- both men and women.
Deference is agreeable, approachable, tactful, and diplomatic. Deference
isn't confrontational, demanding, assertive, militant, dominating, nor always
clamoring "I am woman! Hear me roar!"
In a nutshell: deference is just the opposite of defiance. Christian wives
striving for equality with their men have not yet learned what it means to
associate with a husband as they would Christ.
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