We're going back into a circle again. I have just posted more than enough Scripture to debunk that belief that God arbitrarily chooses who goes to heaven and who goes to hell. Why would I want to go to heaven if God chose to send my spouse to hell? It's a ridiculous belief that is not found in Scripture. I'm sorry, it's not personal. I have seen first hand God take a person bound in sin and set them free. I can tell you story after story. God does not choose people for destruction.
You should be more aware of what you write! Calvinists believe and relate very similar stories. Once a person is set free FROM sin, the flesh, the devil, THEN that person become free TO repent and believe the Gospel. Freedom is a two-edged; but you naive freewillers only see it as a single edged sword, i.e. free TO....do something.