Understanding Envy

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Harboring envy in the heart is dangerous. I'd even consider it addictive. Envy rewards its victim for advancing up its ladder of success, while simultaneously shaming them for not being good enough. Envy masquerades as a genuine desire for self-improvement; yet, behind the smoke and mirrors, it is nothing but a cycle of self-destruction.

Envy is limitless, for nothing ever satisfies an envious heart. Constant improvement isn't done for personal or spiritual growth; it's done to stay relevant in the eyes of the world: it's done to exalt oneself above others and present a facade of high worth and groundedness.

Envy consumes; it devours precious time that could be spent walking in the purpose of God, and instead, it urges the possessor to chase after useless goals. Envy is a distraction from the greater calling of God.

Over time, envy exhausts a person's spirit and eventually their entire body. Its reward system depends on praise. Compliments are sought out, but when none are given/ are directed elsewhere, envy demands the individual to push harder til the admiration of others returns. Envy gradually insists on doing more and eventually raises its expectations to limits that are not feasible and/or sustainable. Envy drives a person to compete in a race that has no finish line. The only way out is to completely abandon its frivolous pursuits or die trying to finish its unnaccomplishable tasks.

The more one understands envy, the more it shows itself as a characteristic of the Adversary.

" The thief comes only in order to steal, kill and destroy; I have come so that they may have life, life in its fullest measure."
John 10:10 (CJB)

Envy is a thief. When it enters our hearts, it steals our identity and ability to reason (James 3:13-16), it kills peace (Proverbs 14:30), and it destroys relationships (James 4:2–3).

An envious heart corrupts a person in numerous ways. One of those ways is through a stolen identity and a lacking ability to reason.

"Next, I realized that all effort and achievement stem from one person’s envy of another. This too is futility and feeding on wind." Ecclesiastes 4:4 (CJB)

Most of the time, envy manifests itself in unhealthy comparisons that lead to reckless ambitions. For example, Person A notices and admires a quality or object Person B possesses. But instead of rejoicing and being happy for the other, bitterness and jealousy sets in Person A's heart because now they believe their self-worth is diminished for not obtaining whatever it is Person B has.

It's thought processes like these that derail people off their God ordained path and onto a road that leads to a purpose that was never intended for them. Alongside this, instead of appreciating what God has already provided, a complaining spirit has begun taking the heart captive.

Anxiety plagues the soul of the envious one as their mind races with thoughts of not being enough. They reject the precious words of God regarding their identity and begin holding fast to the lies the world spits at them in the form of media. The further they stray away from God's will, the more frequent these negative feelings visit and the longer they stay. Instead of seeking Scripture for guidance, they seek gurus and experts on how to overcome setbacks. And instead of getting advice that stands firm, they receive suggestions that twist and bend according to the ever-changing and fickle trends of society. There is no peace or comfort in uncertainty.

"Now if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives to all generously and without reproach; and it will be given to him. But let him ask in trust, doubting nothing; for the doubter is like a wave in the sea being tossed and driven by the wind. Indeed that person should not think that he will receive anything from the Lord, because he is double-minded, unstable in all his ways." James 1:5-8 (CJB)

The object of a person's envy becomes a god that demands their devotion. Every waking moment is then consumed with thoughts on how to possess more. It is here where a person gradually separates themself from sound wisdom and progressively binds themself to ruthless agendas that satisfy their greed.

"No one can be a slave to two masters; for he will either hate the first and love the second, or scorn the second and be loyal to the first. You can’t be a slave to both God and money." Matthew 6:24 (CJB)

An envious person is not concerned with the things of God's kingdom. Their mind is too distracted by the beautiful highs and woeful lows of the world.

"They are headed for destruction! Their god is the belly; they are proud of what they ought to be ashamed of, since they are concerned about the things of the world." Philippians 3:19 (CJB)

Eventually, the envious person is crushed under the weight of their unrealistic expectations and strangled by strict regimens that are unhealthy to carry out long-term.

"So, everyone who hears these words of mine and acts on them will be like a sensible man who built his house on bedrock. The rain fell, the rivers flooded, the winds blew and beat against that house, but it didn’t collapse, because its foundation was on rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not act on them will be like a stupid man who built his house on sand. The rain fell, the rivers flooded, the wind blew and beat against that house, and it collapsed — and its collapse was horrendous!” Matthew 7:24-27 (CJB)

Only Jesus can set an envious heart free and give it a new perspective. Through Christ, we need not worry about what the world thinks of us. Our worth is set only on what YHWH says. We are all born with unique talents, features, and characteristics, and we all go through unique challenges that give us unique qualifications for our own designated purposes. Therefore, instead of being envious of one another and trying to force our way into a role designed for someone else, let us thank God for the beauty of diversity and let us put all our focus and effort into following His will for our lives to the best of our ability.

“Come to me, all of you who are struggling and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30 (CJB)
 
Harboring envy in the heart is dangerous. I'd even consider it addictive. Envy rewards its victim for advancing up its ladder of success, while simultaneously shaming them for not being good enough. Envy masquerades as a genuine desire for self-improvement; yet, behind the smoke and mirrors, it is nothing but a cycle of self-destruction.

Envy is limitless, for nothing ever satisfies an envious heart. Constant improvement isn't done for personal or spiritual growth; it's done to stay relevant in the eyes of the world: it's done to exalt oneself above others and present a facade of high worth and groundedness.

Envy consumes; it devours precious time that could be spent walking in the purpose of God, and instead, it urges the possessor to chase after useless goals. Envy is a distraction from the greater calling of God.

Over time, envy exhausts a person's spirit and eventually their entire body. Its reward system depends on praise. Compliments are sought out, but when none are given/ are directed elsewhere, envy demands the individual to push harder til the admiration of others returns. Envy gradually insists on doing more and eventually raises its expectations to limits that are not feasible and/or sustainable. Envy drives a person to compete in a race that has no finish line. The only way out is to completely abandon its frivolous pursuits or die trying to finish its unnaccomplishable tasks.

The more one understands envy, the more it shows itself as a characteristic of the Adversary.

" The thief comes only in order to steal, kill and destroy; I have come so that they may have life, life in its fullest measure."
John 10:10 (CJB)

Envy is a thief. When it enters our hearts, it steals our identity and ability to reason (James 3:13-16), it kills peace (Proverbs 14:30), and it destroys relationships (James 4:2–3).

An envious heart corrupts a person in numerous ways. One of those ways is through a stolen identity and a lacking ability to reason.

"Next, I realized that all effort and achievement stem from one person’s envy of another. This too is futility and feeding on wind." Ecclesiastes 4:4 (CJB)

Most of the time, envy manifests itself in unhealthy comparisons that lead to reckless ambitions. For example, Person A notices and admires a quality or object Person B possesses. But instead of rejoicing and being happy for the other, bitterness and jealousy sets in Person A's heart because now they believe their self-worth is diminished for not obtaining whatever it is Person B has.

It's thought processes like these that derail people off their God ordained path and onto a road that leads to a purpose that was never intended for them. Alongside this, instead of appreciating what God has already provided, a complaining spirit has begun taking the heart captive.

Anxiety plagues the soul of the envious one as their mind races with thoughts of not being enough. They reject the precious words of God regarding their identity and begin holding fast to the lies the world spits at them in the form of media. The further they stray away from God's will, the more frequent these negative feelings visit and the longer they stay. Instead of seeking Scripture for guidance, they seek gurus and experts on how to overcome setbacks. And instead of getting advice that stands firm, they receive suggestions that twist and bend according to the ever-changing and fickle trends of society. There is no peace or comfort in uncertainty.

"Now if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives to all generously and without reproach; and it will be given to him. But let him ask in trust, doubting nothing; for the doubter is like a wave in the sea being tossed and driven by the wind. Indeed that person should not think that he will receive anything from the Lord, because he is double-minded, unstable in all his ways." James 1:5-8 (CJB)

The object of a person's envy becomes a god that demands their devotion. Every waking moment is then consumed with thoughts on how to possess more. It is here where a person gradually separates themself from sound wisdom and progressively binds themself to ruthless agendas that satisfy their greed.

"No one can be a slave to two masters; for he will either hate the first and love the second, or scorn the second and be loyal to the first. You can’t be a slave to both God and money." Matthew 6:24 (CJB)

An envious person is not concerned with the things of God's kingdom. Their mind is too distracted by the beautiful highs and woeful lows of the world.

"They are headed for destruction! Their god is the belly; they are proud of what they ought to be ashamed of, since they are concerned about the things of the world." Philippians 3:19 (CJB)

Eventually, the envious person is crushed under the weight of their unrealistic expectations and strangled by strict regimens that are unhealthy to carry out long-term.

"So, everyone who hears these words of mine and acts on them will be like a sensible man who built his house on bedrock. The rain fell, the rivers flooded, the winds blew and beat against that house, but it didn’t collapse, because its foundation was on rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not act on them will be like a stupid man who built his house on sand. The rain fell, the rivers flooded, the wind blew and beat against that house, and it collapsed — and its collapse was horrendous!” Matthew 7:24-27 (CJB)

Only Jesus can set an envious heart free and give it a new perspective. Through Christ, we need not worry about what the world thinks of us. Our worth is set only on what YHWH says. We are all born with unique talents, features, and characteristics, and we all go through unique challenges that give us unique qualifications for our own designated purposes. Therefore, instead of being envious of one another and trying to force our way into a role designed for someone else, let us thank God for the beauty of diversity and let us put all our focus and effort into following His will for our lives to the best of our ability.

“Come to me, all of you who are struggling and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30 (CJB)

Thank you, I am reminded to be dependant on God Father and Son alone
Wow is me Isaiah 6:1-7
 
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Absolutely, that is awesome! Sometimes it's hard to fully depend on Him, especially when we wholeheartedly believe a situation should play out a certain way (our way).

Just remember, a life of faith towards God is a continually surrendered life. When we fulfill this life of Faith and faithing, alot of those problems are none of our business anymore. We discover, in the relationship what is our business now.

Welcome to the group.
 
Harboring envy in the heart is dangerous. I'd even consider it addictive. Envy rewards its victim for advancing up its ladder of success, while simultaneously shaming them for not being good enough. Envy masquerades as a genuine desire for self-improvement; yet, behind the smoke and mirrors, it is nothing but a cycle of self-destruction.

Envy is limitless, for nothing ever satisfies an envious heart. Constant improvement isn't done for personal or spiritual growth; it's done to stay relevant in the eyes of the world: it's done to exalt oneself above others and present a facade of high worth and groundedness.

Envy consumes; it devours precious time that could be spent walking in the purpose of God, and instead, it urges the possessor to chase after useless goals. Envy is a distraction from the greater calling of God.

Over time, envy exhausts a person's spirit and eventually their entire body. Its reward system depends on praise. Compliments are sought out, but when none are given/ are directed elsewhere, envy demands the individual to push harder til the admiration of others returns. Envy gradually insists on doing more and eventually raises its expectations to limits that are not feasible and/or sustainable. Envy drives a person to compete in a race that has no finish line. The only way out is to completely abandon its frivolous pursuits or die trying to finish its unnaccomplishable tasks.

The more one understands envy, the more it shows itself as a characteristic of the Adversary.

" The thief comes only in order to steal, kill and destroy; I have come so that they may have life, life in its fullest measure."
John 10:10 (CJB)

Envy is a thief. When it enters our hearts, it steals our identity and ability to reason (James 3:13-16), it kills peace (Proverbs 14:30), and it destroys relationships (James 4:2–3).

An envious heart corrupts a person in numerous ways. One of those ways is through a stolen identity and a lacking ability to reason.

"Next, I realized that all effort and achievement stem from one person’s envy of another. This too is futility and feeding on wind." Ecclesiastes 4:4 (CJB)

Most of the time, envy manifests itself in unhealthy comparisons that lead to reckless ambitions. For example, Person A notices and admires a quality or object Person B possesses. But instead of rejoicing and being happy for the other, bitterness and jealousy sets in Person A's heart because now they believe their self-worth is diminished for not obtaining whatever it is Person B has.

It's thought processes like these that derail people off their God ordained path and onto a road that leads to a purpose that was never intended for them. Alongside this, instead of appreciating what God has already provided, a complaining spirit has begun taking the heart captive.

Anxiety plagues the soul of the envious one as their mind races with thoughts of not being enough. They reject the precious words of God regarding their identity and begin holding fast to the lies the world spits at them in the form of media. The further they stray away from God's will, the more frequent these negative feelings visit and the longer they stay. Instead of seeking Scripture for guidance, they seek gurus and experts on how to overcome setbacks. And instead of getting advice that stands firm, they receive suggestions that twist and bend according to the ever-changing and fickle trends of society. There is no peace or comfort in uncertainty.

"Now if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives to all generously and without reproach; and it will be given to him. But let him ask in trust, doubting nothing; for the doubter is like a wave in the sea being tossed and driven by the wind. Indeed that person should not think that he will receive anything from the Lord, because he is double-minded, unstable in all his ways." James 1:5-8 (CJB)

The object of a person's envy becomes a god that demands their devotion. Every waking moment is then consumed with thoughts on how to possess more. It is here where a person gradually separates themself from sound wisdom and progressively binds themself to ruthless agendas that satisfy their greed.

"No one can be a slave to two masters; for he will either hate the first and love the second, or scorn the second and be loyal to the first. You can’t be a slave to both God and money." Matthew 6:24 (CJB)

An envious person is not concerned with the things of God's kingdom. Their mind is too distracted by the beautiful highs and woeful lows of the world.

"They are headed for destruction! Their god is the belly; they are proud of what they ought to be ashamed of, since they are concerned about the things of the world." Philippians 3:19 (CJB)

Eventually, the envious person is crushed under the weight of their unrealistic expectations and strangled by strict regimens that are unhealthy to carry out long-term.

"So, everyone who hears these words of mine and acts on them will be like a sensible man who built his house on bedrock. The rain fell, the rivers flooded, the winds blew and beat against that house, but it didn’t collapse, because its foundation was on rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not act on them will be like a stupid man who built his house on sand. The rain fell, the rivers flooded, the wind blew and beat against that house, and it collapsed — and its collapse was horrendous!” Matthew 7:24-27 (CJB)

Only Jesus can set an envious heart free and give it a new perspective. Through Christ, we need not worry about what the world thinks of us. Our worth is set only on what YHWH says. We are all born with unique talents, features, and characteristics, and we all go through unique challenges that give us unique qualifications for our own designated purposes. Therefore, instead of being envious of one another and trying to force our way into a role designed for someone else, let us thank God for the beauty of diversity and let us put all our focus and effort into following His will for our lives to the best of our ability.

“Come to me, all of you who are struggling and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30 (CJB)
While your post is informative, it would be helpful to define the word whose effects you describe.

Envy is wanting something you don’t have and cannot legitimately obtain by upright means.
 
Just remember, a life of faith towards God is a continually surrendered life. When we fulfill this life of Faith and faithing, alot of those problems are none of our business anymore. We discover, in the relationship what is our business now.

Welcome to the group.

Very true. We gotta constantly ask ourselves how certain things we pursue will strengthen our walk in Christ as well as other's
 
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While your post is informative, it would be helpful to define the word whose effects you describe.

Envy is wanting something you don’t have and cannot legitimately obtain by upright means.

Thanks for the suggestion. Do you think it's correct to say that jealousy is the emotion while envy is the act of jealousy?
 
Thanks for the suggestion. Do you think it's correct to say that jealousy is the emotion while envy is the act of jealousy?
No; I see them as related but different. God Himself is described in Scripture as "jealous" but never as "envious". Jealousy has a legitimate application while envy doesn't.
 
No; I see them as related but different. God Himself is described in Scripture as "jealous" but never as "envious". Jealousy has a legitimate application while envy doesn't.

Yea, that is true about God being described as jealous. In my understanding, and please correct me if I'm wrong, isn't context important when it comes to jealousy as it does with anger? From my understanding, anger in itself isn't wrong. There's being angry in a justified manner (being upset when sin is being praised) and then there's unjust anger (being upset when righteousness is upheld). Then when it comes to jealousy there's righteous jealousy when something that is rightfully yours is being taken vs unrighteous jealousy when it's the fear of losing something that is not yours to someone else
And then in the case of envy, well that's just sin and can't be justified lol. I guess I'm thinking unjustified jealousy is envy
 
I think that envy is actually a part of a person's personality . The reason is that , I have never ever been envious of anyone or anything but , my best friend has always been so , we've know each other from being babies so I know her very well . The one thing I can definitely say about envy is that it is never ever satisfied , no matter how much an envious person has , they still envy the person who has more than they do , envy is a bottomless pit . It's a mind set , probably there from birth and it's very hard to shake off and get it out of your system of thinking . I may not suffer from the affliction if envy but , I have other faults that's for sure .
 
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I think the difference between envy and jealousy is this , we envy a person's things , things that they have , possessed or accomplished etc that we don't have , jealousy is being jealous of the actual person , even if the person hasn't got anything or done anything we r jealous of them as a person . I think jealousy is very malevolent because it can b irrational and it can lead to spiteful acts against the person that we r jealous of . Envy isn't great but it's usually about things / possessions etc rather than being directed at a specific individual . Just my thoughts about these two sad mind sets .
 
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Absolutely, that is awesome! Sometimes it's hard to fully depend on Him, especially when we wholeheartedly believe a situation should play out a certain way (our way).

I call planing ahead is good or well. Yet, when it gets in your way, and we expect what we had planned to go our way, and it does not. Depressed, anger and yelling begins in anyone with what I call "Unrealistic Expectations"
So plan, yes, yet do not expect it to go the way you planned. Trust God knows best anyways over anything that does not go as you thought should go that way, why Jeremiah 29:11
Faith is trust to God above it all, through anything going not well or well presently. When going bad, one, many think, what did I do wrong? now see Job in the book of Job, who continued to depend on God, no matter what. Can we? I bet we can we are given the free choice to choose to do that no matter what.
 
I think the difference between envy and jealousy is this , we envy a person's things , things that they have , possessed or accomplished etc that we don't have , jealousy is being jealous of the actual person , even if the person hasn't got anything or done anything we r jealous of them as a person . I think jealousy is very malevolent because it can b irrational and it can lead to spiteful acts against the person that we r jealous of . Envy isn't great but it's usually about things / possessions etc rather than being directed at a specific individual . Just my thoughts about these two sad mind sets .

Ah, I see. Thanks for sharing! For sure, you're absolutely right about jealousy leading to acts against someone. It can lead to gossip and slander. I guess envy tries to change the way the envious person looks by gaining attributes while jealousy tries to change the way everyone sees the person someone is jealous of by taking away attributes.
 
I think that envy is actually a part of a person's personality . The reason is that , I have never ever been envious of anyone or anything but , my best friend has always been so , we've know each other from being babies so I know her very well . The one thing I can definitely say about envy is that it is never ever satisfied , no matter how much an envious person has , they still envy the person who has more than they do , envy is a bottomless pit . It's a mind set , probably there from birth and it's very hard to shake off and get it out of your system of thinking . I may not suffer from the affliction if envy but , I have other faults that's for sure .

It definitely is a part of someone's personality, but in some cases, it might be a learned trait from early adolescent trauma or just life experiences. Ive struggled with it for as long as I can remember. I pray your friend will find freedom through Jesus.

Yea, I guess we could say that since humans are born with a sin nature, all perversions are there within us from the start yet to be acted on/awakened

It definitely is never satisfied. It's very similar to greed, indeed, lol. Praise the Lord that we can overcome negative mindsets by allowing His Spirit to renew our minds and set them according to the truths of God.
 
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