tired of always being excluded

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kim12345

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Please pray that I will respond the way God wants me to. I am very hurt. For years numerous people have always excluded me.

My brother and his wife never include us in events. One time they ask us to go on vacation with them. We said ok lets plan it. Then they said they had to cancel because of work. Then they called us and told me they were so excited because they were going to the Caribbean with some other friends. I told them that was hurtful. They apologzied. Maybe they wanted to hurt me or they just do not like us.

Father n law is going away for his birthday. He invited his other son and his family but did not invite my husband and our family.

Been at my job for 1 year. The women all invite each other to their weddings and birthday parties. They do not invite me and I feel awkward when I am sitting at work and they talk about it. I am not bossy or catty at work. I am a team player. I don't know why they do not like me.
I can't figure out why people do not like me? I am trustworthy, fun, nice, encouraging. I dont understand.
I have prayed about this but no answer.
I need prayer how to keep my composure when I and my husband are Always excluded. Been Excluded my whole Life and I am not a bad person.
 
Subhumanoidal

Subhumanoidal

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It can come from a variety of reasons. You may put out, unknowingly, body language that turns people off. Or you may come across to others in a manner different than you perceive yourself (a problem i constantly deal with). I have an ex-gf, nice woman, but so entirely focused on her problems it's all she wants to talk about. So people tire of her constant complaining even though she has plenty of other positive qualities. You'll just rarely see them.
And, of course, other reasons could play a part. If there is anyone you know and trust enough to be honest with you perhaps it may pay to ask around and attempt to get Real answers. Just approach people with an attitude of 'i'm trying to understand' and not a 'what's your problem?' tone. Some may not give you real answers, but chances are at least one will. And that may be a starting point to learn what's going on.
Even my own dad, nice guy, Everyone likes him, but there are some things that people have learned not to say to him. And sometimes people don't want to deal with that, so it adds reluctance to invite him to things they would otherwise love to have him at.
I had to discover some things in a much harder way as well. As much as possible going to the source(s) is the best way to know what's going on.
 
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crmvet

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Philippians 4:19
 
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Godsgirl83

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kim12345 said:
Please pray that I will respond the way God wants me to. I am very hurt. For years numerous people have always excluded me.

My brother and his wife never include us in events. One time they ask us to go on vacation with them. We said ok lets plan it. Then they said they had to cancel because of work. Then they called us and told me they were so excited because they were going to the Caribbean with some other friends. I told them that was hurtful. They apologzied. Maybe they wanted to hurt me or they just do not like us.

Father n law is going away for his birthday. He invited his other son and his family but did not invite my husband and our family.

Been at my job for 1 year. The women all invite each other to their weddings and birthday parties. They do not invite me and I feel awkward when I am sitting at work and they talk about it. I am not bossy or catty at work. I am a team player. I don't know why they do not like me.
I can't figure out why people do not like me? I am trustworthy, fun, nice, encouraging. I dont understand.
I have prayed about this but no answer.
I need prayer how to keep my composure when I and my husband are Always excluded. Been Excluded my whole Life and I am not a bad person.
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Lord,
You know the pains of being surrounded by people, yet all alone. Help Kim as she works through this trial in her life. When the subject comes up give her the courage and boldness to speak about it in a way that others will listen and understand. Give her guidance in this area.
Amen
 
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levi85

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Lord bless kim12345, and this prayer, let you heal kim12345 from the hurt she received from being excluded by others. We also pray let she and her husband be included by others, and no more excluded, and let them all have a good fellowship, partjes, holidays together. Lord please bless, in Jesus gracious name, Amen!
 
EmilyFoster

EmilyFoster

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I’m so sorry to hear about your situation, Kim12345. I can certainly understand it’s very hurtful when you are not included by your close people. I’m praying that God will intervene, provide help and guidance as you trust in Him. May you and your family experience His hand of grace and peace that only He can bring into your circumstances.
 
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