Struggling with powerlessness .

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Suze

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I'm allowing myself to get overly upset about something but I can't seem to help myself . It will probably seem very silly to most of u so I apologise beforehand .
It's the grey cat I've been feeding now for about a year I think . He had an injured back leg which seems to have mostly healed though he still limos a bit . He now has a big problem with his right eye 😞 it's been injured or infected I don't know which but , it's bleeding and almost closed . I'm so upset to c him like this and beyond frustrated that I can't catch him . He flirts with me but at a distance , it's as if he wants my help but can't quite bring himself to trust me , it's so distressing to me to c him like this , in need of help but unable to trust me enough 😖 . I have to b honest , I'm struggling emotionally with this and it's getting me down a bit 😒 . He's far too cautious for me to approach close to him , he won't eat the food I put down until I leave him and go back indoors . He won't go near any kind of trap , he's too smart for that . Winters here in the UK r very cold and usually very damp , I'd love to b able to get him b 4 the weather turns bad here . Thank u , who ever u r , for listening to this . I've prayed about it a lot , no real definitive answer as yet .
I realise that maybe he just needs to stay a wild one and maybe I should learn to mind my own business . I have to accept that possibility . If any of u would like to pray for me , to b a stronger person , that I might remain sane and cheerful and close to my God , through Jesus Christ my Sinless redeemer ?
How have any of u guys and girls coped , when faced with something that's upsetting u but u r powerless to change it ? What helped u ? What was the outcome ?
 
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It is a dilemma isn't it? We have His desire to care for the Creation and then we have these situations, it helps me to know He creates life all the time and cares for the smallest of His creation, yet in this world quickly reaching fulfillment the adversary will still work to bring sickness, disease, accidents and lack.
Perhaps is was His desire to see if His Suzi would continue to be His hands and feet loving and caring for this one of His creatures and you pass with flying colors?
bless you sister:)(y)
 
We can only do those things God wants. That's difficult to accept but that's where faith and trust comes in. I know how shallow advice can be...I will be praying for you both.
 
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Suze said:
I'm allowing myself to get overly upset about something but I can't seem to help myself . It will probably seem very silly to most of u so I apologise beforehand .
It's the grey cat I've been feeding now for about a year I think . He had an injured back leg which seems to have mostly healed though he still limos a bit . He now has a big problem with his right eye 😞 it's been injured or infected I don't know which but , it's bleeding and almost closed . I'm so upset to c him like this and beyond frustrated that I can't catch him . He flirts with me but at a distance , it's as if he wants my help but can't quite bring himself to trust me , it's so distressing to me to c him like this , in need of help but unable to trust me enough 😖 . I have to b honest , I'm struggling emotionally with this and it's getting me down a bit 😒 . He's far too cautious for me to approach close to him , he won't eat the food I put down until I leave him and go back indoors . He won't go near any kind of trap , he's too smart for that . Winters here in the UK r very cold and usually very damp , I'd love to b able to get him b 4 the weather turns bad here . Thank u , who ever u r , for listening to this . I've prayed about it a lot , no real definitive answer as yet .
I realise that maybe he just needs to stay a wild one and maybe I should learn to mind my own business . I have to accept that possibility . If any of u would like to pray for me , to b a stronger person , that I might remain sane and cheerful and close to my God , through Jesus Christ my Sinless redeemer ?
How have any of u guys and girls coped , when faced with something that's upsetting u but u r powerless to change it ? What helped u ? What was the outcome ?
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First off....it's a cat. Cats are mostly horrible personality wise....completely indifferent or deliberately annoying....not much in between. When a cat bites you unexpectedly but not severe enough to break the skin it's showing you affection....and it believes that it said it once and if it changes its mind it will leave.

So....

You have to behave as if you do not want to pet the cat...or show it kindness. But still have food/ water available at the same time.
If the cat lays down as if it has fallen over...that's the cat saying it trusts you.
That's when you can fill it's food dish while it's within sight.

Cats are generally skiddish. Battle scars from stealing food, hunting squirrels or other rodents or rough play are normal for feral cats. (I have 3)

One of my 3 prefers the taste of blood to regular cat food. It would rather eat a bird than cat treats. But it also relies upon the cat food I put out for it as well.

Cats are cute and fuzzy creatures....having them around keeps the rodents and lizards away....but not raccoons, possums, skunks, or foxes.

Feral cats are never going to be domesticated....but that doesn't mean they are not good to have around.
 
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Suze said:
I'm allowing myself to get overly upset about something but I can't seem to help myself . It will probably seem very silly to most of u so I apologise beforehand .
It's the grey cat I've been feeding now for about a year I think . He had an injured back leg which seems to have mostly healed though he still limos a bit . He now has a big problem with his right eye 😞 it's been injured or infected I don't know which but , it's bleeding and almost closed . I'm so upset to c him like this and beyond frustrated that I can't catch him . He flirts with me but at a distance , it's as if he wants my help but can't quite bring himself to trust me , it's so distressing to me to c him like this , in need of help but unable to trust me enough 😖 . I have to b honest , I'm struggling emotionally with this and it's getting me down a bit 😒 . He's far too cautious for me to approach close to him , he won't eat the food I put down until I leave him and go back indoors . He won't go near any kind of trap , he's too smart for that . Winters here in the UK r very cold and usually very damp , I'd love to b able to get him b 4 the weather turns bad here . Thank u , who ever u r , for listening to this . I've prayed about it a lot , no real definitive answer as yet .
I realise that maybe he just needs to stay a wild one and maybe I should learn to mind my own business . I have to accept that possibility . If any of u would like to pray for me , to b a stronger person , that I might remain sane and cheerful and close to my God , through Jesus Christ my Sinless redeemer ?
How have any of u guys and girls coped , when faced with something that's upsetting u but u r powerless to change it ? What helped u ? What was the outcome ?
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I’d have to say this is EXACTLY what my life has been like for the last year!! There have been these endless events that all have the same theme: Things I can’t change. Recently there was a news article about a woman who wanted to help cats. She didn’t spay and neuter them though and soon she had over a hundred feral cats. The human society took in these cats and spayed, neutered, vaccinated, (ect.) them and then was offing them to people for free as Barn Cats who would hunt rodents. I really considered getting a few but I couldn’t get past how cold it would be in the winter for them or more importantly how I wouldn’t be capable of taming them and having a meaningful relationship with them.
WHY this was a dealbreaker for me was because I just spent 7 years trying to get my best friend to stop all of his addictions. Overall this was successful to some extent. If you want to feel helpless, try competing for friendship between yourself and their addictions!! I made lots of progress actually but it was exhausting!! He was down to his last addiction, cigarettes! Not bad since he started with meth, high amounts of alcohol, pornography and high amounts of Sudafed. He moved away from the associates and family who did drugs and got a full time job. The same week he was going to start work he ended up in the emergency room. The doctor said he had to go to an oncologist. The next week they announced he had Stage 4 lung cancer. They gave him weeks to live. Because he was able to get into chemotherapy that week, he lived 6 more months. COMPLETELY POWERLESS. There was no other words for it. Powerless to relieve his pain. Powerless to make him stop smoking. Powerless to save his life. I was beyond drowning in grief, I was under water wondering why my broken heart hadn’t kill me. The day he took his last breath I told God, It’s up to you now, I give this all to you because I can’t make it anymore without you taking the reins. It’s been 6 months now and I still continue to tell God, “Your Will, not mine”, and he gets me through.
 
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I’d have to say this is EXACTLY what my life has been like for the last year!! There have been these endless events that all have the same theme: Things I can’t change. Recently there was a news article about a woman who wanted to help cats. She didn’t spay and neuter them though and soon she had over a hundred feral cats. The human society took in these cats and spayed, neutered, vaccinated, (ect.) them and then was offing them to people for free as Barn Cats who would hunt rodents. I really considered getting a few but I couldn’t get past how cold it would be in the winter for them or more importantly how I wouldn’t be capable of taming them and having a meaningful relationship with them.
WHY this was a dealbreaker for me was because I just spent 7 years trying to get my best friend to stop all of his addictions. Overall this was successful to some extent. If you want to feel helpless, try competing for friendship between yourself and their addictions!! I made lots of progress actually but it was exhausting!! He was down to his last addiction, cigarettes! Not bad since he started with meth, high amounts of alcohol, pornography and high amounts of Sudafed. He moved away from the associates and family who did drugs and got a full time job. The same week he was going to start work he ended up in the emergency room. The doctor said he had to go to an oncologist. The next week they announced he had Stage 4 lung cancer. They gave him weeks to live. Because he was able to get into chemotherapy that week, he lived 6 more months. COMPLETELY POWERLESS. There was no other words for it. Powerless to relieve his pain. Powerless to make him stop smoking. Powerless to save his life. I was beyond drowning in grief, I was under water wondering why my broken heart hadn’t kill me. The day he took his last breath I told God, It’s up to you now, I give this all to you because I can’t make it anymore without you taking the reins. It’s been 6 months now and I still continue to tell God, “Your Will, not mine”, and he gets me through.
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Thank you so much for sharing that ❤️ it's helped me put things into perspective a bit better . I wish and hope that others will share their times of powerlessness and how God helped them through it . I'm so very sorry for your loss 😞 it must have all been exhausting for u . Rest in the Lord ❤️ and thank you so much for your reply ❤️
 
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