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coby
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I mean close friends. Maybe I always met the wrong ones and Holland is a bit like Sodom and Gomorrah. I had some when I was married from church who were decent, but when they gave me flowers for my birthday my ex got jealous and gave them to the neighbour lol. Guess I never learned to be just friends. They said it on youtube that it was impossible.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA
I spoke to a man on a dating site for 3 weeks, had one nice date. We apped and called the whole day through. Then I had to shut up for 3 days because he was with his just girlfriend who slept at his place in another room, they went to a violin concert. He had dinner with another female friend. Ehmmmm no thanks. I hope he doesn't wonder why people friendzone him if he treats women like friends. He had enough female friends. Didn't want to become part of his harem. But then I may be oldfashioned, my ex and I never went out alone with someone of the opposite gender.
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Tintin
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Well, no. I think that's wise not to meet up one-on-one (in private) with someone of the opposite gender. My situation is different. I have a couple close girl friends, but I don't have a girlfriend. If I did, I would cut back on the friendship level to friends, but not as close as before, that's for sure.
My best friend is a guy.....
Boundaries are important in friendships.
I think you said it pretty accurately. Just because you feel a certain way (even though your feelings are valid), doesn't mean it's factual. I think you just might not have learned how to be friends with the opposite gender..but you are coming off as it being fact. And it's just not factual. Women and men can be friends.
Yes, because you should ALWAYS believe what YouTube tells you.
We had some leftover pimento cheese (homemade, not that junk in a plastic container... they don't even use real cheese in that stuff!) Hmm, what to do with it? Sandwich? Nah, too normal. Dip for chips? Hmm... closer, but too much trouble to dip a whole meal.
So I melted the cheese down, crumbled up the chips in it and had potato-chip-pimento-cheese "nachos."
So I melted the cheese down, crumbled up the chips in it and had potato-chip-pimento-cheese "nachos."
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coby
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Lol in that case with an ex who wanted to be friends I was glad I listened to them though. I had no idea so then I always ask google and youtube. They know everything.
That explains so much. You base your beliefs off of the Internet. Makes total sense now
And we all know that everything on the Internet is true. Lol.
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me: i can't work today because my throat hurts.
boss: that's the imelda i know!
my throat really does hurt. 1st day back at work, and this happens.
obviously, it's a sign we should have been closed another day. why doesn't my boss believe me?
boss: that's the imelda i know!
my throat really does hurt. 1st day back at work, and this happens.
obviously, it's a sign we should have been closed another day. why doesn't my boss believe me?
I am highly offended that you ignored my plea of food, Melita..........me: i can't work today because my throat hurts.
boss: that's the imelda i know!
my throat really does hurt. 1st day back at work, and this happens.
obviously, it's a sign we should have been closed another day. why doesn't my boss believe me?
I thought we were friends....
My heart hurts today. It would have been my mom's birthday today. I can't handle round two of all of this. =\
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sydlit
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Father in heaven, please bless our sister lil'christian with your sustaining grace and love.
Remind her, Lord, that the separations we have here are only temporary, because of the resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ, and that the day is coming when we will not only be united with you, but our loved ones as well, but Lord, even so, these times of sorrow here can seem like eternity as we wait, because the longing in our heart can weigh us down and overtake the truth and joy we will have in the sweet by and by, as they say, as I even now am experiencing, having had my best friend just disappear from this site, and I have no way of finding out what happened, if she chose to leave, or if something really bad has happened to her, Lord, and my heart is grieving over her and not knowing anything, the separation and darkness is so depressing, Lord, and tho I am trying to put on the armor and the joy and fight the good fight, Lord, I am so wanting call it quits, and so we both need you now, Lord...my lil'christian sister and me, too, Lord, if you could please grant us the comfort of the ever-abiding presence of your Holy Spirit, we need your love, Lord, and we know we have it, we have you, by faith, but if we could feel your presence more closely, Lord, we ask, this is our desire and our prayer, in Jesus' name we thank you, Lord, amen.
Remind her, Lord, that the separations we have here are only temporary, because of the resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ, and that the day is coming when we will not only be united with you, but our loved ones as well, but Lord, even so, these times of sorrow here can seem like eternity as we wait, because the longing in our heart can weigh us down and overtake the truth and joy we will have in the sweet by and by, as they say, as I even now am experiencing, having had my best friend just disappear from this site, and I have no way of finding out what happened, if she chose to leave, or if something really bad has happened to her, Lord, and my heart is grieving over her and not knowing anything, the separation and darkness is so depressing, Lord, and tho I am trying to put on the armor and the joy and fight the good fight, Lord, I am so wanting call it quits, and so we both need you now, Lord...my lil'christian sister and me, too, Lord, if you could please grant us the comfort of the ever-abiding presence of your Holy Spirit, we need your love, Lord, and we know we have it, we have you, by faith, but if we could feel your presence more closely, Lord, we ask, this is our desire and our prayer, in Jesus' name we thank you, Lord, amen.
Lil', I am so, so sorry. My heart hurts even reading this. I agree. This is a really, really lousy day.
I am discouraged beyond belief.
I was transferred to another job, and I just found out one of the guys at my old job is telling everyone he slept with me.
Nothing could be further from the truth. We never even talked once outside work. We didn't even have each others' numbers. And, I'm not even there anymore.
At first, I was uncontrollably angry. And then I just felt like God was saying to give it to Him. I'm going through a lot, so many things at once, and this was the straw that broke the camel's back. A long time ago I wrote a thread about sexual harassment and used a "character" who was "going through" something... Several people were critical because they said I didn't include enough information or that the main character in they story was probably misinterpreting or exaggerating.
I explained that I wrote the thread because this is EXACTLY how it happens--little by little--and you question your sanity and what happened and wonder if it's even making a fuss over. Apparently no one realized that the "character" in the story was me.
The thing that upsets me most is that this guy was the only one on the night crew whom I DIDN'T think was like that at all. I used to stop and ask him about his kids because out of all the guys I worked with, he seemed "safest" to at least say hi to.
The hardest part of all is that I'm telling myself, "Just shake it off. Shut down, shut up, and don't let it out , because it has no place to go. Don't talk to anyone, and whatever you do, don't trust anyone ever again." But oddly enough, I know I still will.
I just always have, no matter what's happened.
Along with everything else... I am down and out to the nth degree right now and not quite sure how to pull out of it.
Sorry for venting... I know this is probably too personal to be posting but I feel like I've hit the very bottom of the pit of despair, with a smile on my face for show, a mind that never rests because I never sleep anymore, and a life that resembles automation more than living because all there is to do, always, is get up and go to work.
I was transferred to another job, and I just found out one of the guys at my old job is telling everyone he slept with me.
Nothing could be further from the truth. We never even talked once outside work. We didn't even have each others' numbers. And, I'm not even there anymore.
At first, I was uncontrollably angry. And then I just felt like God was saying to give it to Him. I'm going through a lot, so many things at once, and this was the straw that broke the camel's back. A long time ago I wrote a thread about sexual harassment and used a "character" who was "going through" something... Several people were critical because they said I didn't include enough information or that the main character in they story was probably misinterpreting or exaggerating.
I explained that I wrote the thread because this is EXACTLY how it happens--little by little--and you question your sanity and what happened and wonder if it's even making a fuss over. Apparently no one realized that the "character" in the story was me.
The thing that upsets me most is that this guy was the only one on the night crew whom I DIDN'T think was like that at all. I used to stop and ask him about his kids because out of all the guys I worked with, he seemed "safest" to at least say hi to.
The hardest part of all is that I'm telling myself, "Just shake it off. Shut down, shut up, and don't let it out , because it has no place to go. Don't talk to anyone, and whatever you do, don't trust anyone ever again." But oddly enough, I know I still will.
I just always have, no matter what's happened.
Along with everything else... I am down and out to the nth degree right now and not quite sure how to pull out of it.
Sorry for venting... I know this is probably too personal to be posting but I feel like I've hit the very bottom of the pit of despair, with a smile on my face for show, a mind that never rests because I never sleep anymore, and a life that resembles automation more than living because all there is to do, always, is get up and go to work.
File harassment charges with HR and call him out for being the scumbag that he is, preferably with a witness. I'm sorry that happened to you and there is no excuse for his behavior. If I was working there with you, I would personally say something in front of him and his friends.
You're by far nicer than I. Something like this really is deserving of a good old fashioned butt whuppin. It may not exactly be the most Christian thing to do, but guaranteed the guy would think twice about spreading the fertilizer like that again.
Gary, thank you so much for your kind words.
Unfortunately, due to varying circumstances, I have no choice but to let it go. I just moved, took on a new job within the company, and these events occurred in a location across the state. I feel torn in situations like this because I want to be an example to younger women to stand up for themselves but at the same time, I feel powerless.
Even worse, it was my boss who wrote and asked me about it. This is one of the most discouraging things in my Christian walk--the fact that I don't hide things and I share a lot about my life, but in the end, everyone assumes you're just the same anyway. It's not that I'm somehow resistant to all the riff raff but isn't that part of what being a Christian is all about? That people know we stand for something different, and live differently than other people? I feel as if maybe I wasn't somehow "Christian enough" or something.
The part that bothers me most is that this particular guy was the one who seemed to be "the nice one". Holy Toledo. My judge of character needs a major realignment.
But Gary, thank you so much for saying you would say something in my defense--that really means a lot.
That awkward moment when... The thought of a "good old-fashioned butt whuppin'" is the only thing that makes you smile all day!!!
(P.S. Thank you, Oncefallen.)
I'm really sorry to unload so much on the CC community lately.
I've just kind of been so fretful and anxious... And it obviously spills over and out onto the keyboard.
seoul, that's awful. =\ If I were near I'd just say we should take a day off and just eat chocolate.