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shineyourlight said:
So. I've realized something.

I was talking to my friend Bryan today at work and we were discussing friendships and relationships.

I noticed I give out a lot to everyone and try my best not to give up. I am just extremely people-oriented and relational with people. But, as soon as the other party pulls away and I can sense that, I pull away. It doesn't happen a lot, because typically people don't pull away...but whenever I sense that from anyone, I tend to. I fight for a little bit, try to contact them asking how they are doing or whatnot, but as long as it continues, I just back away completely.

I don't know if this is healthy or unhealthy. It's me trying to give them that space or just I become so apathetic about the situation that I give up trying. Haha.
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I actually do the same. When someone starts drifting away, I still text them to say hello how ya doing? But eventually I see them not talking to me as much, so I stop. At first, I get reeeeeeally bummed out, but then I get over it lol
 
melita916 said:
I actually do the same. When someone starts drifting away, I still text them to say hello how ya doing? But eventually I see them not talking to me as much, so I stop. At first, I get reeeeeeally bummed out, but then I get over it lol
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I think I just don't care haha. Unless we were getting closer or were already close, then it definitely hurts.

I don't know if it's a self-protection thing, or if it's honestly just a thing where I want to give them space. I just don't think friendships or relationships should ever be forced. I do feel, though, communication is key and if someone is pulling away, someone needs to communicate as to why it's happening just so there's understanding and closure. But, that typically doesn't happen lol.
 
AgeofKnowledge said:
"A dog barks when his master is attacked. I would be a coward if I saw that God's truth is attacked yet remain silent." -John Calvin
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Our Father said no barking at His children!!!! (James 1:20) :o

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shineyourlight said:
So. I've realized something.

I was talking to my friend Bryan today at work and we were discussing friendships and relationships.

I noticed I give out a lot to everyone and try my best not to give up. I am just extremely people-oriented and relational with people. But, as soon as the other party pulls away and I can sense that, I pull away. It doesn't happen a lot, because typically people don't pull away...but whenever I sense that from anyone, I tend to. I fight for a little bit, try to contact them asking how they are doing or whatnot, but as long as it continues, I just back away completely.

I don't know if this is healthy or unhealthy. It's me trying to give them that space or just I become so apathetic about the situation that I give up trying. Haha.
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melita916 said:
I actually do the same. When someone starts drifting away, I still text them to say hello how ya doing? But eventually I see them not talking to me as much, so I stop. At first, I get reeeeeeally bummed out, but then I get over it lol
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It's called self-preservation... or "I won't let you hurt me." In fact, it's our human nature to recoil from what we perceive as rejection. But only Christ won't disappoint. If we expect people not to ever disappoint us, we set ourselves to be hurt. Nobody will ever meet our needs like Jesus. His love never fails. :)
 
shineyourlight said:
So. I've realized something.

I was talking to my friend Bryan today at work and we were discussing friendships and relationships.

I noticed I give out a lot to everyone and try my best not to give up. I am just extremely people-oriented and relational with people. But, as soon as the other party pulls away and I can sense that, I pull away. It doesn't happen a lot, because typically people don't pull away...but whenever I sense that from anyone, I tend to. I fight for a little bit, try to contact them asking how they are doing or whatnot, but as long as it continues, I just back away completely.

I don't know if this is healthy or unhealthy. It's me trying to give them that space or just I become so apathetic about the situation that I give up trying. Haha.
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Usually if a person doesn't engage as much in the conversation then it's their end of concluding the discussion for those involved. At least, that's how I've seen it. Attempting once or twice to ignite the spark is considerate in of itself, and if they still withdraw or not give much for their discussion then it's safe to say that there's no further reason to have discussion from there. I could be reading this wrong and of course it can depend on whether if this professional-related or everyday type of interaction.
 
achildofGod said:
April update.
PRAISE GOD, she's on the way home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
They're about 25 minutes out, what a day this is going to be.
THANK YOU JESUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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This is very good news, Frank, I hope April is there by now and all settled in and having fun exploring her new digs :)

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JustAnotherUser said:
Usually if a person doesn't engage as much in the conversation then it's their end of concluding the discussion for those involved. At least, that's how I've seen it. Attempting once or twice to ignite the spark is considerate in of itself, and if they still withdraw or not give much for their discussion then it's safe to say that there's no further reason to have discussion from there. I could be reading this wrong and of course it can depend on whether if this professional-related or everyday type of interaction.
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Yikes! That's too much like human understanding. LOL :rolleyes: Seriously, I don't like jumping through mental hoops and all that analyzing stuff. I'd rather be forthright with people so they can be free to be who they are. I'd rather just treat people the way I wanna be treated and leave everything in God's hands.

We can't possibly know what's in someone else's heart. We don't even know what's in our own heart unless God's Spirit reveals it, remember? Our flesh (emotions) are all over the place like waves tossed about. Only the Spirit of Christ in us is unchanging.

What's so wrong with asking someone, "Hey, what's up? I haven't heard from you for awhile." It's waaay easier than trying to guess what's going on. :)
 
i had an online friend last year. he had to move out of the country due to work, but we stayed in touch. i stopped hearing from him (via email). i emailed him a couple of more times with no response. he was supposed to return to the states earlier this year, so i wrote asking him to let me know if he made it all right. i still haven't heard from him. so i got a clue and left him alone lol.

i would've preferred him telling me, "hey.. you're a cool cat, but leave me alone." lol
 
Totally random... I will silently rejoice when a new page begins so I will not be disturbed by accidentally seeing the dog attacking the boy again... addendum... hooray for cats :)
 
Well, I feel a bit awkward, I have had my phone and everything for about three months and just now I setup my voicemail. What can I say, I'm a slacker. Lol
 
One thing I've learned today: Mathematics makes me want to go on a murder spree...and I realize that I probably need anger management for expressing such.


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So, on my way back from the pharmacy I stopped by my dad's work as he was closing up shop and so he wanted me to close the garage door on the warehouse and it has to he done manually. Well, I misunderstood how heavy it was and it lifted me off the ground. I was lucky when I fell I didn't land on my bad foot, but it was fun
 
cmarieh said:
Well, I feel a bit awkward, I have had my phone and everything for about three months and just now I setup my voicemail. What can I say, I'm a slacker. Lol
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That awkward moment when I've never set up my voicemail on any phone I've had.
 
jsr1221 said:
That awkward moment when I've never set up my voicemail on any phone I've had.
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That would be weird, I did it just in case someone needed to get a hold of me and I was in class or at work and couldn't get to the phone
 
I am so tired of these migraines, it makes me want to cry and curl up in a dark room and shut out the world. Although, this is the first one in two weeks. Good night and I hope you all sleep well
 
cmarieh said:
I am so tired of these migraines, it makes me want to cry and curl up in a dark room and shut out the world. Although, this is the first one in two weeks. Good night and I hope you all sleep well
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drink lots of fluids! I recommend ice cold coconut water! Yum!!!
 
Just got home from the studio... feeling good... tomorrow will be crossfit, if they can fit me for the experimental class... feeling giddy!! hehehehehe
 
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