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Yep, the reality is that there is no "the one" out there. Now I do believe that if God intends me to get married, that He has a person in His plans for me to marry, but really there are a number of women out there that I'm sure I would be compatible with. For me, if I do get married, "the one" is the person I say "I do" to.
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I feel as if I disagree. We think as humans we know and can try and figure it out, but clearly we arnt God and we arnt going to know everything. What makes sense and what looks right is what we go with, but its when you have to deeply dig down and pray for the answer you really want. Do I believe in soulmates? NO, just because its not mentioned in the Bible. Do I believe that I married the wrong person when I was 21? YES.....I knew I shouldnt of married him, i felt convicted before, even though I was with him for 6 years of my life and we waited and did everything the right way. I was walking down the aisle thinking of divorce when divorce never entered my mind before. But I did it because I WANTED TOO and that he sacrifced for me and was with me since 15. I MADE THAT CHOICE OF NOT LISTENING. In fact, the preacher who married us in our pre wedding counseling sessions, asking us to go home and pray and make sure that the person is who God wants us to be with. I didnt, because I knew I was going to hear a NO.
Now later in life, I meet a guy, who I DID NOT want to be with. Never had a thought in my mind to ever be with this man. After him trying to start a relationship with me, he finally asked me to pray and see for God to close or open this door. So one morning I woke up and did just that not thinking much of it, cause again, I didnt care really. THen the doors flew open from there. God used friends, family, coworkers, strangers and they all of a sudden started calling and coming up to me and telling me this is what they feel on their heart is the man Im going to marry and his family was doing the same thing. All Christians too! My heart started to change....I could feel my wall up that I had to the moon since my divorce start to fall and I was slowly building it back up and God kept tearing it down. God kept revealing things to me, through him teaching his SUnday School class, to a list I wrote 2 years before he ever walked in, and he was everything off that list of what I wanted my next husband to be like. My heart totally changed and a month of praying I knew.....by everything GOd told me and more than I have written here, that this was my husband, that this was the man God had for me. BTW we are even born the same day and year, we share the same birthday. I wanted to marry a guy named Brian Adam, his name is Brian Allen, I mean, its the weird little things like that, that people can take however they want. But within a month I was planning my wedding because I knew without a doubt, unlike the first one, wherre we dated for 6 years before planning a wedding.
What do you call that? I know alot of people will sit here and prolly say....WELL YOU SURE YOU HEARD RIGHT? IT COULD BE YOU IN YOUR HEAD. If I what I feel right now is true from God after seeking Him with everything I am, then I have to believe that God gives you someone, ONE, some ONE. I made the choice before to do MY WILL......
Alot of people, I dont think have felt the person that God truly has for them. Its an amazing feeling.....there is no doubt...its something you just lift up to God and allow him to work.
If Im wrong.....then I need to check my relationship with Christ. But considering I didnt want to even be with this man and GOd changed my heart.............it wasnt me........I dont know whats left to say......
Now later in life, I meet a guy, who I DID NOT want to be with. Never had a thought in my mind to ever be with this man. After him trying to start a relationship with me, he finally asked me to pray and see for God to close or open this door. So one morning I woke up and did just that not thinking much of it, cause again, I didnt care really. THen the doors flew open from there. God used friends, family, coworkers, strangers and they all of a sudden started calling and coming up to me and telling me this is what they feel on their heart is the man Im going to marry and his family was doing the same thing. All Christians too! My heart started to change....I could feel my wall up that I had to the moon since my divorce start to fall and I was slowly building it back up and God kept tearing it down. God kept revealing things to me, through him teaching his SUnday School class, to a list I wrote 2 years before he ever walked in, and he was everything off that list of what I wanted my next husband to be like. My heart totally changed and a month of praying I knew.....by everything GOd told me and more than I have written here, that this was my husband, that this was the man God had for me. BTW we are even born the same day and year, we share the same birthday. I wanted to marry a guy named Brian Adam, his name is Brian Allen, I mean, its the weird little things like that, that people can take however they want. But within a month I was planning my wedding because I knew without a doubt, unlike the first one, wherre we dated for 6 years before planning a wedding.
What do you call that? I know alot of people will sit here and prolly say....WELL YOU SURE YOU HEARD RIGHT? IT COULD BE YOU IN YOUR HEAD. If I what I feel right now is true from God after seeking Him with everything I am, then I have to believe that God gives you someone, ONE, some ONE. I made the choice before to do MY WILL......
Alot of people, I dont think have felt the person that God truly has for them. Its an amazing feeling.....there is no doubt...its something you just lift up to God and allow him to work.
If Im wrong.....then I need to check my relationship with Christ. But considering I didnt want to even be with this man and GOd changed my heart.............it wasnt me........I dont know whats left to say......
Rachel, you've brought up the concept of soul mates in every thread you've started. No matter how many times (or how many ways) you ask this question, the answer will always be no. They don't exist.
I understand you think that God told you that you were going to marry your ex. Maybe you will, maybe you won't, but that still doesn't make soul mates biblical or real. Please deal with the pain you're in instead of trying to create something where nothing exists.
I understand you think that God told you that you were going to marry your ex. Maybe you will, maybe you won't, but that still doesn't make soul mates biblical or real. Please deal with the pain you're in instead of trying to create something where nothing exists.
The thing is the term "soul mate" is so ambiguous. When I hear that phrase, I think of one specific person in the world that is perfect for you, and I don't believe that person exists. But if by "soul mate" you mean the person that God has appointed for you to marry, then sure, you can call it that. I don't doubt that God has pointed you towards this person, and him towards you. So get to know this guy, date him, see what happens. If you find it's not what you thought it was, then you can break up. But just proceed prayerfully and carefully so you don't choose to get married too early on again and put yourself in a compromising position.
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First your wrong....this has nothing to do with MY life. I was sharing with you "Christians" what someone who has heard and felt God say that you people have not heard and felt either yet or never. I love how alot of you people think that everything is something that we are supposed to know and make sense and there should be an answer to everything, when in reality, Im sure MY Heavenly Father in heaven is laughing. Maybe alot of yall should ask God for direction instead of trying to have an answer. This whole post was to see really how yall actually "think" in terms with, why does alot of people get advice from some of you. As you can see there are different beliefs and different opinions, but when its something that no one has ever felt, or why someone maybe dosent WANT TO DATE, or has their reasons, its quick to point fingers. I was nice throughout all this, but this time, Im going to state how I really feel. If you dont like what I write, then I suggest when you see that I post something, then skip over it. WOW, isnt that an easy suggestion???
The truth of the matter is, Im pretty sure most of you will marry the wrong person, if it ever happens.....lol......Ill be praying for you people!
The truth of the matter is, Im pretty sure most of you will marry the wrong person, if it ever happens.....lol......Ill be praying for you people!
hmmmm, this soulmates thread is making me wonder.
considering i've moved about 20 times, i am wondering if i left my soulmate behind??? maybe he's in GA? or TX? um, perhaps VA, NY or KS??? i wonder if he's in CA or MT?
this is starting to worry me a bit. sheesh, maybe i need to do some cross country back-tracking.
oh, and for the record, even a romantic like me doesn't buy into soulmates. there's just no biblical basis for such, in my opinion. however, i do believe that God prepares us for future experiences/relationships because He sees the future and what we do need.
but that isn't tantamount to soulmates.
considering i've moved about 20 times, i am wondering if i left my soulmate behind??? maybe he's in GA? or TX? um, perhaps VA, NY or KS??? i wonder if he's in CA or MT?
this is starting to worry me a bit. sheesh, maybe i need to do some cross country back-tracking.
oh, and for the record, even a romantic like me doesn't buy into soulmates. there's just no biblical basis for such, in my opinion. however, i do believe that God prepares us for future experiences/relationships because He sees the future and what we do need.
but that isn't tantamount to soulmates.
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If your purpose was to share an idea with us, then why did you originally pose it as a question? And how does stating one's opinion automatically warrant questioning their faith or insulting them by saying they are going to marry the wrong person? (By the way, you set yourself up to be majorly burned there, but I won't sink to that level.)
The answers you have received in this thread have been very respectful. You're better off not creating threads (especially one that begins with a question) if you are going to insult the people who don't respond the way you want them to. It is silly and childish to do that.
The answers you have received in this thread have been very respectful. You're better off not creating threads (especially one that begins with a question) if you are going to insult the people who don't respond the way you want them to. It is silly and childish to do that.
Lol angry we wont support your soulmate theory? You can rant til your blue in the face the 'God told you he was the one' but I think youre trying to add a heavenly mandate that doesnt exist, just to justify your decision making.
And most of us will amrry the wrong person? I mean I would say how could you know, but apparently you actually have experience with that.
And most of us will amrry the wrong person? I mean I would say how could you know, but apparently you actually have experience with that.
rachel, i'm not sure why you've become so angry. no one here has treated you with anything similar. we've just all been honest in response you your OP.
for your benefit, i've pasted your OP in italicized below:
I'm sure this question has been asked a million and one times, but do you believe that God has someone out there for you specifically if you just trust and have faith in Him?
i believe that right there is a simple definition of what "soulmate" is.
I believe God is the All Knowing and so He knows which paths we are going to take. I'm not sure if I believe that there are "options " out there for us.....
again, to not have "options" seems awfully "soulmate-y" to me.
I believe alot of people marry the wrong person but God already knew that...... I feel as if we just put our full trust in God then we old save alot of heartache and we can just simply hand him over the pen to our Love story and let him write it.
unless you're prepared to pass out a codec with your posts, we're going to take your words at face value.
if you're just working out what you think, that's ok, too. i have things that i've changed my mind a few times on, and like to bounce off people, and i do that sometimes here as well.
just no need to get so upset with people. we're all on the same journey, relatively speaking. and we're all called to bear with one another, as Christ calls us to. God bless you sister.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.31 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
ephesians 4:29-32
for your benefit, i've pasted your OP in italicized below:
I'm sure this question has been asked a million and one times, but do you believe that God has someone out there for you specifically if you just trust and have faith in Him?
i believe that right there is a simple definition of what "soulmate" is.
I believe God is the All Knowing and so He knows which paths we are going to take. I'm not sure if I believe that there are "options " out there for us.....
again, to not have "options" seems awfully "soulmate-y" to me.
I believe alot of people marry the wrong person but God already knew that...... I feel as if we just put our full trust in God then we old save alot of heartache and we can just simply hand him over the pen to our Love story and let him write it.
unless you're prepared to pass out a codec with your posts, we're going to take your words at face value.
if you're just working out what you think, that's ok, too. i have things that i've changed my mind a few times on, and like to bounce off people, and i do that sometimes here as well.
just no need to get so upset with people. we're all on the same journey, relatively speaking. and we're all called to bear with one another, as Christ calls us to. God bless you sister.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.31 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
ephesians 4:29-32
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So you foolishly followed your own will and got burned, or maybe you just felt like you couldn't leave him because he had done so much for you, you felt obligated to stay. Then later God brought along someone who he is using to tear down the walls and heal some of the hurt from that previous divorce. Yay God is working in your life and quite possibly giving you better than you deserve.
Umm when your last post is your personal story, this has everything to do with your life. Feelings do not equal facts or truth. Circumstances are not always the best guide. If you want to talk about and process your life here that is fine. If you are more of an idea person and want to debate and idea or concept that is fine too. But to propose a general idea when it is really about your life and then take it as a personal attack when people disagree with you will cause you to lose whatever respect we have for you very quickly. That's just immature, disrespectful behavior and is the surest way to lose any compassion and kindness you were first extended in this forum and get whacked in the face with some hard truth.
Now brutally honest cinder is coming out: You may lack wisdom and the ability to use your brain to critically think about your life choices. It does not make you more spiritual to lack those abilities. It does not make any of us less spiritual that we have those abilities. If anything the Bible commands those who lack wisdom to ask God for it (see James 1). And the fact that we have those abilities, and the ability to look at people's situations from an outside and more objective perspective is the reason that many people continue to post on here for advice. Because we give good practical advice informed by Godly principles that never change, but some people are like you and get their panties in a twist if our advice isn't the answer they wanted to hear. As it sounds like you are planning to marry again, please give some thought as to what you are going to do when the conflicts and disagreements come. Are you going to bail and say I must have married the wrong person again, must have heard God wrong? Or are you going to buckle down be humble and teachable and work through the conflict? Should you find yourself in the situation of being divorced multiple times, it will be time to consider that you might be the cause of the unsolvable problems in your marriages.
Umm when your last post is your personal story, this has everything to do with your life. Feelings do not equal facts or truth. Circumstances are not always the best guide. If you want to talk about and process your life here that is fine. If you are more of an idea person and want to debate and idea or concept that is fine too. But to propose a general idea when it is really about your life and then take it as a personal attack when people disagree with you will cause you to lose whatever respect we have for you very quickly. That's just immature, disrespectful behavior and is the surest way to lose any compassion and kindness you were first extended in this forum and get whacked in the face with some hard truth.
Now brutally honest cinder is coming out: You may lack wisdom and the ability to use your brain to critically think about your life choices. It does not make you more spiritual to lack those abilities. It does not make any of us less spiritual that we have those abilities. If anything the Bible commands those who lack wisdom to ask God for it (see James 1). And the fact that we have those abilities, and the ability to look at people's situations from an outside and more objective perspective is the reason that many people continue to post on here for advice. Because we give good practical advice informed by Godly principles that never change, but some people are like you and get their panties in a twist if our advice isn't the answer they wanted to hear. As it sounds like you are planning to marry again, please give some thought as to what you are going to do when the conflicts and disagreements come. Are you going to bail and say I must have married the wrong person again, must have heard God wrong? Or are you going to buckle down be humble and teachable and work through the conflict? Should you find yourself in the situation of being divorced multiple times, it will be time to consider that you might be the cause of the unsolvable problems in your marriages.
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The concept of a "soulmate" never really got to me...
I cannot see the reasoning behind it.
If someone wishes to be married (not "together", married) and it somehow doesn't seem to progress,
we should work to become more of the "ideal" man/woman as is portrayed in scripture.
There are a lot of thinks to work on.
Here is an idea: In christian communities, the man is usually expected to ask the girl out.
Hence he is somehow the active part. The "choosing" part.
I can imagine that a girl, who is supposed to wait for her "Boaz" might start to belive that there is a perfect
man for her somewhere out there..... its not true but i might do the same in her skin.....
(from my point of view this seems to be more of a girl-thing.... but maybe i am wrong)
Don't pray for a perfect spouse. Pray for wisdom.
So that you can see what aspects of you need refinement and
that you make a good choice if there is someone in front of you.
I cannot see the reasoning behind it.
If someone wishes to be married (not "together", married) and it somehow doesn't seem to progress,
we should work to become more of the "ideal" man/woman as is portrayed in scripture.
There are a lot of thinks to work on.
Here is an idea: In christian communities, the man is usually expected to ask the girl out.
Hence he is somehow the active part. The "choosing" part.
I can imagine that a girl, who is supposed to wait for her "Boaz" might start to belive that there is a perfect
man for her somewhere out there..... its not true but i might do the same in her skin.....
(from my point of view this seems to be more of a girl-thing.... but maybe i am wrong)
Don't pray for a perfect spouse. Pray for wisdom.
So that you can see what aspects of you need refinement and
that you make a good choice if there is someone in front of you.
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How is that proof that they were created for each other? Just sounds like God brought two people together who were good for each other. And that still has no scriptural proof. Just pointing out that some people have good marriages is not evidence of soul mates.
I'm assuming you didn't read the posted link showing the origins of 'soul mates' are entirely pagan. And still have yet to see scriptural evidence. You say it's an issue of people believing what they want, but i believe there is no scriptural evidence, but there is historical evidence of pagan roots. Is that just me believing what i want or me not being presented with valid proof, while providing proof to the contrary?
I'm assuming you didn't read the posted link showing the origins of 'soul mates' are entirely pagan. And still have yet to see scriptural evidence. You say it's an issue of people believing what they want, but i believe there is no scriptural evidence, but there is historical evidence of pagan roots. Is that just me believing what i want or me not being presented with valid proof, while providing proof to the contrary?