Hey Everyone,
Have you ever tried to politely decline someone's interest, only to have them tell you, "Oh well, it's YOUR loss!!"
I understand the reasoning behind it. And in some situations, when someone rejected me, my friends tried to comfort ME by saying, "Well, it's HIS loss."
But I've never been comfortable with that answer. I guess it just seems so... Conceited? Self-centered? Haughty and arrogant? But I could be wrong, or too quick to jump to conclusions.
Throughout my years of being single, I've had situations in which I gently tried tell someone thank you, but I'm not interested... and have often been told, "Too bad for you--it's YOUR loss."
I've finally gotten to the point where I write back, "Actually, I've NEVER once felt that God has ever whispered in my ear, 'If you don't grab on to this person right away, YOU ARE GOING TO LOSe OUT'... Now, if He should tell me that someday about someone, I'll try to pay attention... but in the meantime, thank you for your concern."
Now I DID once have a situation in which I had a disagreement with a guy friend and we parted ways permanently because of it... and I do feel God told me I let my anger get the best of me and that I let him go too soon. Sometimes I struggle with this, not knowing when to allow a person into my life or, when to smile, shake it off, and keep going.
But I've never felt that God told me it was my loss if I didn't immediately grab on to the terms or ultimatum someone was placing before me. I also don't feel it's fair to tell someone who rejects me that it's their loss, either. While I fear and hate the feeling of rejection just as much as anyone else, and so sometimes more, I TRY to tell myself that everything is for a reason, and God is going to work everything out.
How about the rest of you? What do you think of telling someone, or being told, that it's "Your/their loss" if for some reason you reject them or they reject you? And how do you know when to hang on to someone/let them through the door/give them a chance... or to let them go and keep walking?
Have you ever tried to politely decline someone's interest, only to have them tell you, "Oh well, it's YOUR loss!!"
I understand the reasoning behind it. And in some situations, when someone rejected me, my friends tried to comfort ME by saying, "Well, it's HIS loss."
But I've never been comfortable with that answer. I guess it just seems so... Conceited? Self-centered? Haughty and arrogant? But I could be wrong, or too quick to jump to conclusions.
Throughout my years of being single, I've had situations in which I gently tried tell someone thank you, but I'm not interested... and have often been told, "Too bad for you--it's YOUR loss."
I've finally gotten to the point where I write back, "Actually, I've NEVER once felt that God has ever whispered in my ear, 'If you don't grab on to this person right away, YOU ARE GOING TO LOSe OUT'... Now, if He should tell me that someday about someone, I'll try to pay attention... but in the meantime, thank you for your concern."
Now I DID once have a situation in which I had a disagreement with a guy friend and we parted ways permanently because of it... and I do feel God told me I let my anger get the best of me and that I let him go too soon. Sometimes I struggle with this, not knowing when to allow a person into my life or, when to smile, shake it off, and keep going.
But I've never felt that God told me it was my loss if I didn't immediately grab on to the terms or ultimatum someone was placing before me. I also don't feel it's fair to tell someone who rejects me that it's their loss, either. While I fear and hate the feeling of rejection just as much as anyone else, and so sometimes more, I TRY to tell myself that everything is for a reason, and God is going to work everything out.
How about the rest of you? What do you think of telling someone, or being told, that it's "Your/their loss" if for some reason you reject them or they reject you? And how do you know when to hang on to someone/let them through the door/give them a chance... or to let them go and keep walking?
