School is getting me down

[Fran123]

Everything about school is depressing me. The work is too hard and too much, I keep breaking rules without meaning too and no one really likes me. And my Mum goes mad when I get a bad grade, or a detention for anything.

 

[PrynceNY]

Sorry to hear I pray that the lord will comfort you. I understand school can become stressful at times. Normally people go to a hobby they enjoy when they are down. Perhaps you can do that, listening to music helps as well

 

[zone]

Everything about school is depressing me. The work is too hard and too much, I keep breaking rules without meaning too and no one really likes me. And my Mum goes mad when I get a bad grade, or a detention for anything.

oh sweetheart....my heart aches when i read your message.
please, please take this to heart: IT WON'T LAST FOREVER!
honestly, if you can just get to about 18-19, all your troubles from school will be behind you and you will have so much more control over your situation.
school IS depressing (our modern schools).
is there anyone you can reach out to at school (a counselor or such)?

 

[Wild]

Everything about school is depressing me. The work is too hard and too much, I keep breaking rules without meaning too and no one really likes me. And my Mum goes mad when I get a bad grade, or a detention for anything.

School sucks...but its temporary, you just have to get through it. We've all been there. Kids aren't the nicest people in the world either....but it gets better as you get older trust me. Good luck!

 

[Fran123]

I try talking to my mum but she just says I am not working hard enough. My best (only) friend has been off all week. And I don't really have hobbies, not that I can do on a school night. Hw goes right up to bedtime.

 

[zone]

I try talking to my mum but she just says I am not working hard enough. My best (only) friend has been off all week. And I don't really have hobbies, not that I can do on a school night. Hw goes right up to bedtime.

just pace yourself and try to let your mum's criticism roll off your back if you know you are doing the best you can.
everyone is different - you know about you.
hang in there for just a couple more years - honestly it will get better (promise)

 

[jenniferand2]

Just do the best you can mybe try to talk to your mom once again when you both are really paying attention to each other with no distractions like cell phones etc.... have a one on one with her explain to her it is very hard for you but you will try your very best and that you need her support. Parents are not mind readers although I would love to be.. SHe needs to hear your needs as well. makes her hear your needs. maybe block out a hour time every night for you and your mom to sit down with each others undivided attention and go over your day and things you need help with etc... Praying for you and I agree school does suck but it is better then being a very poor adult who has to live on government help........

 

[renewed_hope]

I try talking to my mum but she just says I am not working hard enough. My best (only) friend has been off all week. And I don't really have hobbies, not that I can do on a school night. Hw goes right up to bedtime.

It's so hard being a teenager, a huge part of you wants to have independence and the freedoms adults do, but sweetie it's not all its cracked up to be. Yes, it's nice to go somewhere without having to check in with the parents, but there is the financial responsibility of bills and work that sucks. But I do recommend talking to your mom and see if you do all that you need to during the week if you can have a Saturday afternoon to yourself within reason. By doing this you are asking for something, but holding yourself accountable which I can guarantee she will appreciate and it will show your maturity.

Just do your best and like another user posted it's only temporary.

 

[Demi777]

I just don't understand some parents. I will just assume that you try your best Fran. From a few talks we've had, your not someone who doesn't try.
Some parents don't see how blessed they are. While other parents have children battleing leukemia and worse..wishing their child were normal and could watch it daily...Others bash a child for having issues in school and having a bad grade.
School is something that you can change, do again etc. A grade doesn't defile you.

And about school.. I know the feeling. Try to figure out a way not to break the rules..Dont let the world take you down.
Greater is the one who is in you than the one who is in the world.
I wish u were older, then you could do/say more

 

[renewed_hope]

I just don't understand some parents. I will just assume that you try your best Fran. From a few talks we've had, your not someone who doesn't try.
Some parents don't see how blessed they are. While other parents have children battleing leukemia and worse..wishing their child were normal and could watch it daily...Others bash a child for having issues in school and having a bad grade.
School is something that you can change, do again etc. A grade doesn't defile you.

And about school.. I know the feeling. Try to figure out a way not to break the rules..Dont let the world take you down.
Greater is the one who is in you than the one who is in the world.
I wish u were older, then you could do/say more

Demi, I understand where you are saying here however parents aren't the bad guys in this situation and neither is the OP....it's figuring out her place and her relationship with her parents. Honoring her parents still apply and will continue until God takes them home. I just see a teenager who is struggling with her place in the home when she wants to be on her own without having to answer to her mom which I went thru myself. Being a teen is so hard especially when you have parents and teachers always up your behind to get good grades and being involved with church....more so when you have to work extra hard to get your schoolwork done because you can't understand it or the teachers are difficult and refuse to help even when you ask for it. My parents never understood how hard I worked in school when the best grade I got was a B in PE. I remember a time my dad got a phone call from my teacher saying how I wasn't participating during class when I was. When I got home from school I got an hour lecture because they didn't believe me and took the teachers side...I was livid. It really wasn't until I was placed into a standard English class (was previously in Special Ed) and the teacher failed me that they started listening to me and how hard I worked without success. You gals may not see it now, but enjoy being a teenager. Sure, it's rough but when you are a legal adult trust me you will miss this.....

((hugs))

 

[Tommy379]

I hated school the whole time I was there. My father told me that after it was over, I would miss it. I didn't believe him, I thought he was crazy.

Six months after I finished, I wish I was back in school.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

Cheer up and count your blessings to have a more encouraging mindset. Imagine working hard while going to school just to pay for your education.

 

[Demi777]

I also see your point sis but really, we are human. We cant expect everyone to be perfect. If your lazy and you dont try then of course I could see parents getting on their children. My father was that way, when I didnt meet his standards even when I tried, he got on me. People tend to not count their blessings on both sides. I am not saying the parents are the bad guys. But that way of thinking just bothers the heck out of me because as you also know, theres things where we just fail where others may be better. And to put anyone down for not meeting ''standard thinking'' is just wrong.

Demi, I understand where you are saying here however parents aren't the bad guys in this situation and neither is the OP....it's figuring out her place and her relationship with her parents. Honoring her parents still apply and will continue until God takes them home. I just see a teenager who is struggling with her place in the home when she wants to be on her own without having to answer to her mom which I went thru myself. Being a teen is so hard especially when you have parents and teachers always up your behind to get good grades and being involved with church....more so when you have to work extra hard to get your schoolwork done because you can't understand it or the teachers are difficult and refuse to help even when you ask for it. My parents never understood how hard I worked in school when the best grade I got was a B in PE. I remember a time my dad got a phone call from my teacher saying how I wasn't participating during class when I was. When I got home from school I got an hour lecture because they didn't believe me and took the teachers side...I was livid. It really wasn't until I was placed into a standard English class (was previously in Special Ed) and the teacher failed me that they started listening to me and how hard I worked without success. You gals may not see it now, but enjoy being a teenager. Sure, it's rough but when you are a legal adult trust me you will miss this.....

((hugs))

 

[Demi777]

I love school all in all. I love being around people. Anywhere where I get to meet people with the same interests and all as I, Im in. And learning? Im on the train!! lol

I hated school the whole time I was there. My father told me that after it was over, I would miss it. I didn't believe him, I thought he was crazy.

Six months after I finished, I wish I was back in school.

 

[Depleted]

I try talking to my mum but she just says I am not working hard enough. My best (only) friend has been off all week. And I don't really have hobbies, not that I can do on a school night. Hw goes right up to bedtime.

Are you? (Working your hardest.)

I'm planning on starting a procrastination club someday.

I'm an expert procrastinator. (Doing it right now, lol) So, for me hw was fulz around for 15-20 minutes after plopping myself down at my desk to do the hw, followed by opening the textbook to read the assignment, only to discover a boll weevil devastated cotton in the 1800's, but what does a boll weevil look like, so I'm off looking that up, and boy, it looks like a tick, so then I have to find out why it's not, and then I'm grossed out by both, so need to wash my hands, and go grab a snack, which is about when I remember I was supposed to be reading about 18th century America, but that boll weevil looked horrible, so I'm going to have to go on to geometry now, so futz another 15-20 minutes to get settled into geometry, noticed it looks worse, and realize I just wasted 1.5 hours "doing hw," but never getting to actually doing hw.

And all that before the Internet, which would distract me even more than I could pull off back in my day. (No one ever PM'd me when I looked up a boll weevil. lol)

So, how much time does it really take you to do your hw?

And, it might well be hard on you. But, you seem articulate, so I'm guessing some is hard and some isn't. If you can pick out which subjects you have trouble with, I bet your mom might listen. Maybe a tutor?

I had friends who had a smart son, except he was failing math. He had trouble with multiplication, which really gets worse the higher up in school you go. I'm lousy at math, (unless I can turn it into money lol), but I tried tutoring him with a bunch of things to remember to figure out the basic multiplication table. It didn't work. (I couldn't remember all the tricks, so why did I think he could?) So, it was as simple as learning the multiplication table like I did. Mom made my brother and I write it out every day all summer, so we memorized it. His mom had him do that too. Three months later, the son had no problems with multiplication anymore.

Tutoring really does help get a student over the hump, and it often isn't a long-term need. But once you can figure out what you can't get, then you can get help to get it.

HW shouldn't take from the time you get home to the time you go to bed. If it takes more than 2 hours, either you have the problem or the school is crappy.

And, don't worry so much. Do a poll on Misc. to ask people what they hated about school. Guaranteed your complaints are the same ones 98% of adults would answer. I've been out of school since 1983. (Really 1978, but I took some more classes voluntarily after that.) And still, to this day, I get happy when I hear Alice Cooper's School's Out! I want to nanny nanny nunu you because I STILL don't have to do hw anymore. lol

You'll make it. And better yet, will look back and realize it wasn't as long a time as it feels when you're in the end of it. There is more purpose to school then learning. It also trains us to something that takes longer and can be equally as frustrating. Work!

 

[TemporaryCircumstances]

Everything about school is depressing me. The work is too hard and too much, I keep breaking rules without meaning too and no one really likes me. And my Mum goes mad when I get a bad grade, or a detention for anything.

Sigh.....me too sister....

 

[Depleted]

I also see your point sis but really, we are human. We cant expect everyone to be perfect. If your lazy and you dont try then of course I could see parents getting on their children. My father was that way, when I didnt meet his standards even when I tried, he got on me. People tend to not count their blessings on both sides. I am not saying the parents are the bad guys. But that way of thinking just bothers the heck out of me because as you also know, theres things where we just fail where others may be better. And to put anyone down for not meeting ''standard thinking'' is just wrong.

When I was a teen, there were three of us in school and a baby brother. Mom told the same thing to two of us that Fran's mom is giving her. And she spent her nights helping the third one.

She was right. The two of us were getting B's because we didn't try. We could have had straight A's. (Well, except for gym and geometry for me. lol) And the other one had dyslexia and dyscalculia decades before anyone knew they were something. He tried his best. Even after Mom died, I remember trying to help him get Latin, but he was forever misspelling the words. We could get B's without trying, and he struggled forever to pull off C's. (Worse yet, he's smarter than us.)

Parents tend to get their kids more than you can imagine yet.

 

[Depleted]

I hated school the whole time I was there. My father told me that after it was over, I would miss it. I didn't believe him, I thought he was crazy.

Six months after I finished, I wish I was back in school.

40 years later, and I still hate it. lol

 

[TemporaryCircumstances]

I just don't understand some parents. I will just assume that you try your best Fran. From a few talks we've had, your not someone who doesn't try.
Some parents don't see how blessed they are. While other parents have children battleing leukemia and worse..wishing their child were normal and could watch it daily...Others bash a child for having issues in school and having a bad grade.
School is something that you can change, do again etc. A grade doesn't defile you.

And about school.. I know the feeling. Try to figure out a way not to break the rules..Dont let the world take you down.
Greater is the one who is in you than the one who is in the world.
I wish u were older, then you could do/say more

Wanna go tell my step father that?
Pleaseeeeeeeee

 

[TemporaryCircumstances]

Demi, I understand where you are saying here however parents aren't the bad guys in this situation and neither is the OP....it's figuring out her place and her relationship with her parents. Honoring her parents still apply and will continue until God takes them home. I just see a teenager who is struggling with her place in the home when she wants to be on her own without having to answer to her mom which I went thru myself. Being a teen is so hard especially when you have parents and teachers always up your behind to get good grades and being involved with church....more so when you have to work extra hard to get your schoolwork done because you can't understand it or the teachers are difficult and refuse to help even when you ask for it. My parents never understood how hard I worked in school when the best grade I got was a B in PE. I remember a time my dad got a phone call from my teacher saying how I wasn't participating during class when I was. When I got home from school I got an hour lecture because they didn't believe me and took the teachers side...I was livid. It really wasn't until I was placed into a standard English class (was previously in Special Ed) and the teacher failed me that they started listening to me and how hard I worked without success. You gals may not see it now, but enjoy being a teenager. Sure, it's rough but when you are a legal adult trust me you will miss this.....

((hugs))

No, I won't miss this.
Not saying being an adult is fun, but, I am 99.85% sure I won't miss this