Rules of Engagement

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On a serious note: TO THE GUYS........


Be sure that the moment is a special moment for her. Regardless of the pain it might cause you. By this I mean, forget the ballgame you are missing, the nice clothes you are wearing, the flowers you bought, the romantic site you chose....... That moment when you pop the question really, really is a very special moment for her. Do not do this at Burger King or Taco Bell.........ok?

Prior to leaving to meet her, Google the definition of "romantic moment." Learn.
 
From the background of teaching Sexual Behavior Classes for 24 years, I would also recommend spending a few bucks to purchase this one book by Jonathan Welton, Eyes of Honor.
 
There is a new thread started about whether or not you should compete for the one that you're interested in. I believe that you at least should do something that shows an interest and giving yourself a chance to stand out from the crowd. I was single at the time that I created this thread and wrote the OP. Hopefully, somebody might find it useful. It's not good to be alone.
 
tourist said:
What rules do certain residents of CC follow in their pursuit of love? I will offer a few insights of my own. The rules listed are of equal importance for myself.

Have no fear of rejection.

Develop a tolerance for pain as you may end up with a broken heart. Be strong for you will survive. Life will go on.

Faint heart does not win fair woman.

Marry only for love.

Pay attention to detail.

Accept the woman for who she is at this moment. Positive refinement comes only from God over a long period of time.

I must be willing to accept God's discipline for my own positive change that she may find appealing.

Be patient but let your resolve be resolute.

Pursue with wild abandon in your heart. Do not hold back.

Never settle for second best or someone else's hand-me-downs

Do not date for the purpose of having a one-night-stand, as that is vanity and pointless.

Do not pursue anyone that you would not consider marrying. Do not waste your time.

Offer only the best that has been provided by God. Do not lie. Be honest in all things.

Her feelings are more important than my own desires.

I do not believe in long, protracted engagements. Either you know what you want or you don't.

Play for keeps or get out of the game. This game is for serious players only and not the timid.

All is fair in love and war.



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It's like God carved it in stone tablets.
 
Hopefully, some of the single members who are lonely and want someone in their lives will stop being so tentative and making excuses why they are still alone in this world. As I said earlier in many posts the fear of rejection and fear of commitment will end many prospective relationships before they even start. Also, some people are unrealistic in their approach and raise the bar so high that no one can possibly reach, waiting for all the "I's" to be dotted, the "T's" to be crossed and all the lights to be green before even considering a prospect to began a relationship with.
 
*Lynx goes off to check the fuel in his matchmaker flamethrower.
 
hmm those rules are too complicated tourist and I dont think the layperson can understand them or follow them all.

so, to keep it simple

if you are wearing a ring, you are engaged
if you are not, you are not.

In the islands, if lady has flower over left ear, shes taken
on the right shes available.

so, for any guys out there, have a ring or flowers ready.

Honestly, dont think too hard about it. Men can talk a lot of rot but if theres no ring or flower they aint getting anywhere. A lady will only wear a ring if she agrees and she also will only accept flowers if they are given, but if you dont make the effort for any of these things, then its just all talk.
 
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Lanolin said:
hmm those rules are too complicated tourist and I dont think the layperson can understand them or follow them all.

so, to keep it simple

if you are wearing a ring, you are engaged
if you are not, you are not.

In the islands, if lady has flower over left ear, shes taken
on the right shes available.

so, for any guys out there, have a ring or flowers ready.

Honestly, dont think too hard about it. Men can talk a lot of rot but if theres no ring or flower they aint getting anywhere. A lady will only wear a ring if she agrees and she also will only accept flowers if they are given, but if you dont make the effort for any of these things, then its just all talk.
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But what if the flower wilts?

Does that mean the lady got tired of waiting and just didn't bother putting a fresh flower there anymore?
 
Lanolin said:
hmm those rules are too complicated tourist and I dont think the layperson can understand them or follow them all.

so, to keep it simple

if you are wearing a ring, you are engaged
if you are not, you are not.

In the islands, if lady has flower over left ear, shes taken
on the right shes available.

so, for any guys out there, have a ring or flowers ready.

Honestly, dont think too hard about it. Men can talk a lot of rot but if theres no ring or flower they aint getting anywhere. A lady will only wear a ring if she agrees and she also will only accept flowers if they are given, but if you dont make the effort for any of these things, then its just all talk.
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You described a simple yet effective step that is integral to moving the relationship forward.
 
Lynx said:
But what if the flower wilts?

Does that mean the lady got tired of waiting and just didn't bother putting a fresh flower there anymore?
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up to you to supply the fresh flower everyday.....in tropical climates there are flowers all year round.
otherwise .....supply the ring
 
Lanolin said:
up to you to supply the fresh flower everyday.....in tropical climates there are flowers all year round.
otherwise .....supply the ring
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That's what I'm wondering. If she's single, there's no man to supply the fresh flower so she has to get it herself.

If it's a wilted flower, she just doesn't care any more.
 
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But what if the flower wilts?

Does that mean the lady got tired of waiting and just didn't bother putting a fresh flower there anymore?
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If the flower she has on, is a faded rose from days gone by then it means she is Delta Dawn.

 
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