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Struggle with it? Not at all; I embrace it. 
Seriously, I recognize that I am very picky. I've done plenty of work on myself since the marriage ended, and though I will never be perfect, I also don't want to be married to someone to whom I am not attracted. Character, intelligence, appearance and interests are all considered. There is also a list of red flag issues that I simply will not consider, such as smoking.
So... know any unicorns?
Seriously, I recognize that I am very picky. I've done plenty of work on myself since the marriage ended, and though I will never be perfect, I also don't want to be married to someone to whom I am not attracted. Character, intelligence, appearance and interests are all considered. There is also a list of red flag issues that I simply will not consider, such as smoking.
So... know any unicorns?
Haha. If I see any unicorns prancing around on a rainbow eating sparkles and sprinkles, I'll let you know.
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From what I have read on this site, you are a treasure. More than worth pursuing.
I've found that God has asked me to surrender all areas of my life to him--work, family, health, finances as well as relationships. I trust in whatever he has planned. I don't just say that as a cliched Christian saying. My hands have been pried open to release these areas to him through much wrestling and pain.
I've found that God has asked me to surrender all areas of my life to him--work, family, health, finances as well as relationships. I trust in whatever he has planned. I don't just say that as a cliched Christian saying. My hands have been pried open to release these areas to him through much wrestling and pain.
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First...thanks for your kindness and graciousness. Right back you sister. 🌞❤😀🌻
About this....I've found that God has asked me to surrender all areas of my life to him--work, family, health, finances as well as relationships. I trust in whatever he has planned. I don't just say that as a cliched Christian saying. My hands have been pried open to release these areas to him through much wrestling and pain.
Very well expressed, it resonates.
About this....I've found that God has asked me to surrender all areas of my life to him--work, family, health, finances as well as relationships. I trust in whatever he has planned. I don't just say that as a cliched Christian saying. My hands have been pried open to release these areas to him through much wrestling and pain.
Very well expressed, it resonates.
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Don't ever worry that your standards are set too high. I've seen many couples and gf's over the years take anybody that asked them to move in/get married, and they have all usually ended in unhappiness & divorce.
It is better to have high standards I think and be alone, than to live years in an unhappy marriage with kids involved (usually), who get caught up in that unahppiness. It just leaves everybody damaged in the extreme.
It is better to have high standards I think and be alone, than to live years in an unhappy marriage with kids involved (usually), who get caught up in that unahppiness. It just leaves everybody damaged in the extreme.
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I’ve been divorced over 15 years now and don’t date. I married very young...too young. Looking back I understand why things went the way that they did and putting myself in her shoes as much as I could I realized I might do the same thing if I was her But one thing I look back on and still hurt over now is the way she went about it....She started dating before the divorce and really as soon as she could...in my opinion it would have been better if she had waited until all was said and done😕
I disagree with everyone on this thread. All that matters is what God thinks. He says in the Word that if someone has committed adultery then the other person is free to re-marry. He looks at the heart. If the divorce was actually going through for this reason then dating is not wrong-a Christian would not have any intention of pre-marital sex so what's the problem? Wisdom and self-control is essential in such circumstances, but only God knows where the person is at emotionally etc. and whether they are ready to date or not. As a divorcee due to adultery committed against me, and as a single Christian for the last 9 years I know that other Christians can cause an awful lot of hurt in the hearts of fellow believers who have already been hurt badly. I wonder what God thinks about this? Unless you have walked a mile in another man's shoes how can you give an opinion? Any opinion should only be God's anyway-from His Word. Remember, treat others as you would like to be treated. Don't hurt them, when they have already been hurt. Pray for them, love them and sensitively give Biblical advice if the Spirit leads you. If you haven't been through it the likelihood is you probably haven't studied properly what God's Word really says about this in the Hebrew/Greek.
Shalom
Shalom
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I am very close to the person and situation. Perhaps I shouldn’t have asked in this forum, but I needed other believers to give me insight that I felt would be biblically and more objectively led. I have also talked to other believers in my life to receive wisdom about the situation. The question was simply about whether a person should date before their divorce is legally finished. This does not mean I do not still love that person. I very much so do.
Dating so soon after/during a divorce is usually not a good idea.
I dated someone who was divorced for two years and the issues that came from the divorce/marriage interfered with the relationship and ended it.
Many people want to rush "healing" so they don't have to be alone. It's easy to convince yourself you're ready for something you Want, regardless of the facts.
I dated someone who was divorced for two years and the issues that came from the divorce/marriage interfered with the relationship and ended it.
Many people want to rush "healing" so they don't have to be alone. It's easy to convince yourself you're ready for something you Want, regardless of the facts.
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Sounds a bit dodgy to me.
I wouldnt, because then you are involving the other party in the new relationship or its becoming close to adultery on both sides. If you not divorced you still have legal obligations and vows to your spouse. Even if you dont like them anymore and dont want to live with them you still share property with them and maybe children and whatever else you have in a marriage, its not just your body.
I wouldnt, because then you are involving the other party in the new relationship or its becoming close to adultery on both sides. If you not divorced you still have legal obligations and vows to your spouse. Even if you dont like them anymore and dont want to live with them you still share property with them and maybe children and whatever else you have in a marriage, its not just your body.
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