Parental involvement

[timf]

I am curious to see what younger people think of parental involvement in their children's relationship search.

My son is 24 and looking to get married. We live in a rural area and he was homeschooled. We are pretty conservative and non-denominational but have a pretty serious faith.

What experiences have people had with dating web sites?

Would younger people find parental involvement helpful or intrusive?

 

[Lanolin]

If they paid for the wedding maybe I dont know

parents are either involved or abandon you to the wolves. Since your son is 24 he doesnt need your permission though, I think the legal age is 18?

But thing is its better to have your parents blessing than curses for a potential daughter in law. She might be looking after you in your old age....or not.

 

[Subhumanoidal]

I am curious to see what younger people think of parental involvement in their children's relationship search.

My son is 24 and looking to get married. We live in a rural area and he was homeschooled. We are pretty conservative and non-denominational but have a pretty serious faith.

What experiences have people had with dating web sites?

Would younger people find parental involvement helpful or intrusive?

Well I'm not younger, nor a parent, but I was younger once and still know how I felt about the idea.
The answers may vary, not all people are the same, but if I was in that position I'd keep my nose out of Their business. And thats what I wanted at the time too. And still do now.
The only exception to that rule is if there was a clear risk to my child. Abuse and such things I would take a stand against the relationship. But simply not caring for their choice is not my business.

 

[Dino246]

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Would younger people find parental involvement helpful or intrusive?

I'd suggest that you ask him if he would like your involvement... and respect his answer.

 

[BrotherMike]

My parents abandoned me to the wolves and that didn't go well lol. I learned from experience. My advice is to ask them if they would like some guidance. I wish my parents did.

 

[TheNarrowPath]

I am curious to see what younger people think of parental involvement in their children's relationship search.

My son is 24 and looking to get married. We live in a rural area and he was homeschooled. We are pretty conservative and non-denominational but have a pretty serious faith.

What experiences have people had with dating web sites?

Would younger people find parental involvement helpful or intrusive?

Is it a situation of you introducing him to a daughter of a friend?
Ive never been on a dating site, Ive heard a lot of horror stories and some success stories.
I think if he was okay with you giving him advice on other things that might be a thumbs up to proceed with caution.
I had two Indian friends at university that were in arranged marriages. One of them was abused by her husband and fled the country with her kids. The other had a great friendship with her husband, she told me she was not in love but had love for him. Last time I saw her she was pregnant. Im thinking parents might know their child better than the child.
If the chances are low on meeting women his age, then I dont see the harm in putting it to him.