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Most of us have at least dipped our toes into the online dating pool, maybe some have dove into the deep end. What has your experience been like? Did you meet someone special...or should we say "special"? Do you have a funny first date story?

Share the good, the bad, and the ugly. Maybe we can laugh away the trauma ;)
 

CarriePie

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I've never joined a dating site and never have "looked" for someone. Over a decade ago, I bumped into an individual online on a social media site and we added each other on facebook. We were just fb friends for more than 2 years. We'd wish each other happy birthday and comment once in a while on each others posts and that was about it. One time on my bday, we chatted and that led to more chatting and that led to talking on the phone and eventually we decided to meet in person.

It was my first (and only) time meeting anyone online in person, my first time flying, my first time traveling alone, first time traveling several states away...just a lot of firsts for me. Our first "date" was at an iHop at the airport. Flapjacks and coffee. After we ate, I asked, "Am I leaving the airport with you?" And he gave me the oddest look. We laughed for years about that. The reason being was because I'd heard horror stories of people meeting someone for the first time online, they wouldn't like what they see, and then they'd abandon the person at the airport or mall or wherever. He replied, "I'd never do that to you!" We had a laugh and the next day we were out hiking and then eating at a bbq place. Things ended up going well, we had a lot of things in common, and lasted for several years. So, I'd say to anyone that if you meet someone online that you click with, give it a chance! Pray about it, stay safe, and give it a chance (Lord willing).
 

JohnDB

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I've had disasters, complete frustration, and fun dating online. Mostly because people are not honest with themselves or anyone else.

However, the one who was absolutely honest I married. Lived the "happily ever after" life which I'm still wondering where the end is.

It's scary out there....very scary. Even for guys trying to date women. Very scary indeed. From the entitled brats to the mentally unbalanced. To the ones who have more secrets than the CIA.
 

Lynx

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I've never joined a dating site and never have "looked" for someone. Over a decade ago, I bumped into an individual online on a social media site and we added each other on facebook. We were just fb friends for more than 2 years. We'd wish each other happy birthday and comment once in a while on each others posts and that was about it. One time on my bday, we chatted and that led to more chatting and that led to talking on the phone and eventually we decided to meet in person.

It was my first (and only) time meeting anyone online in person, my first time flying, my first time traveling alone, first time traveling several states away...just a lot of firsts for me. Our first "date" was at an iHop at the airport. Flapjacks and coffee. After we ate, I asked, "Am I leaving the airport with you?" And he gave me the oddest look. We laughed for years about that. The reason being was because I'd heard horror stories of people meeting someone for the first time online, they wouldn't like what they see, and then they'd abandon the person at the airport or mall or wherever. He replied, "I'd never do that to you!" We had a laugh and the next day we were out hiking and then eating at a bbq place. Things ended up going well, we had a lot of things in common, and lasted for several years. So, I'd say to anyone that if you meet someone online that you click with, give it a chance! Pray about it, stay safe, and give it a chance (Lord willing).
On a related note:

This wasn't a date, but a friend coming through this area on a road trip. The friend was flying in, and I made some assumptions that my friend was not also assuming. See... I like to always have my own vehicle with me, so I don't have to depend on anybody else for transportation. I was assuming that one lone person, traveling in an unfamiliar area, would also want a vehicle, if only for safety. So we were talking about plans for this road trip, and I was blithely assuming my friend would get a rental car.

Meanwhile my friend was like, "What is UP with this jerk? Is he too cheap to pick me up at the airport, or just too lazy?" That's not what was said, but probably what was being thought. But yeah, my friend was confused about it for a time.

We finally got on the same page though, and had a good laugh about it. Well, I did anyway. It just never occurred to me that somebody might not care if personal transportation was at the mercy of whatever vagaries were present in an unfamiliar place.
 

RodB651

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No stories to share, but I have made quite a few friends here. I've met them in person and they still talk to me 😁.
 

Karlon

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Most of us have at least dipped our toes into the online dating pool, maybe some have dove into the deep end. What has your experience been like? Did you meet someone special...or should we say "special"? Do you have a funny first date story?

Share the good, the bad, and the ugly. Maybe we can laugh away the trauma ;)
back in 2013, i was at my friends house & i said, "let's see about Christian Mingles". i had not had my 1st computer yet. so he pops it up. there were 3 girls i viewed & they all looked young for the age they posted. he told me, "karlon, they are posting pictures of themselves when they were younger". sure enough he was right. once, a guy met someone on a computerized dating service. she said she was 6' tall. they met at lunch, she was 6' 4"! another liar. now, the grand finale! i met a lady on C.M. in 2014. i never met her face to face. she saw me play at the local church, but still, i didn't know who she was. so, my neighbors husband died & i said to her, "why don't we start a church group & play games together" she assented. i knew her well because i mowed her lawn & shoveled the snow for her voluntarily because she was poor. in 2016, February, we had our 1st meeting at her house. the C.M. lady shows up. still, i never met her. so at introductions, we met then i realized she saw me play in the church band. i beat her in all the games & she calmly, professionally didn't appreciate it. so, a few weeks later, she asked me out to dinner & a Christian movie. i accepted. next, week, dinner & a Christian play. week after week we dated & then married!!!
 
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I love reading all of your sweet stories.

I've seen God answer my prayers in this department lately. I ventured back into online dating about three weeks ago and there have been a few men I've talked with a bit more seriously than others. I've brought this before the LORD each time and asked Him if I should continue speaking with this man, if this is God's plan for me, and those types of questions. I also would ask Him to end it ASAP if He doesn't want it going forward. I kid you not, within 24 hours it's OVER! This has happened three times in a row. God is FAITHFUL! It's truly been building my trust and faith in God to see Him answer these prayers so quickly and to see that He cares and is protecting me.
 

TabinRivCA

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I know a young man whose first wife passed to Heaven and he grieved for 4 months. Longing to have family life he jumped on CM and met a Christian gal who was a twin and she lives 4 hrs away. After a few months they met and a few months later, close to a year, they married. Her twin said she wished she had a husband and they told her to go on CM and she met a devout Christian young man in the same state and they got married. They all live close to one another and are planning children.
I think faith can really move mountains and make things happen as Jesus preached🙏😍🙌
 

seoulsearch

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I know I'm late to the party, but just wanted to add a few things. :)

All my online dating stories are from years ago and are very old (the staple members here have heard them many times.)

I always say that dating is a shark tank, and I think Christian dating is even worse because everyone insists that God "wants only the best for them" -- while holding firm to the belief that what they specifically want, to a T, is God's idea of the best they are supposed to have.

And I would just like to say, don't be intimidated into giving too much information if someone spiritually insults you. I rarely ever gave out my number -- I wanted to have contact through writing on the site a while first, and I would usually get called "immature," "paranoid," and "afraid of men rather than God."

Yes. I'm a single woman and I reserve the right to look after my safety, thank you. I knew other people who picked up a lot of online stalkers and had to constantly change their phone numbers; since I hardly ever gave mine out, I was thankful to sidestep this problem.

I left the online dating world (and maybe dating as a whole) because I found it to be a matter of always having to listen to what someone else wants from you or how they think you can be the missing piece to fulfill their lives.

Since I am an Asian and adopted, I got a few messages from white men who had Asian children and thought I would be the perfect puzzle piece they were imagining for their family. I told a friend that I felt like a handbag being matched to a pair of shoes.

I understand their thinking, but the problem was that this was ALL they were interested in about me. All they cared about was the fact that they thought their children would benefit from having someone an Americanized Asian stepmother (or full mother if the biological mom wasn't in the picture.) They had no interest in who I was as a person, and one wrote, "Well it's your loss!", then blocked me when I showed hesitation.

I had to shake my head at that. He hadn't even taken the time to ask me anything about myself so he wouldn't know what a loss would truly be for me.

Another guy I really liked, met in person (he seemed hard-working, was humble, crediting his work team instead of himself, driving 90 minutes to a church he loved, and willing to split the distance to meet.) We each drove about an hour to meet at a shopping mall. I would have gone out with him again -- until I was almost home and my phone starting going crazy, with him sending messages asking when we could "start sharing bodies." Le sigh.

The past couple years when I've gone on dates it's been with guys I've met in person, but it's been younger guys who asked me out, and we've found that we're in very different stages of life, so it hasn't worked out.

I'm just trying to go where God leads.

I actually wanted to mention something else, but will do so in my next post so this one doesn't get too long. :)
 

seoulsearch

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I listen to a few social trend channels on YouTube, and I just wanted to say, please be extra careful if or when you visit someone, especially long-distance, or in another country, and especially if they offer to pay your way.

It's advisable to never go unless you have the money and connections to make your own arrangements if need be.

I was listening to stories about romance scammers who are enticing women to meet them -- and the guy talking to them is real -- but he's also using them for the purpose of trafficking.

Some people disappear because they are sold into sex slavery.

Others are used as drug mules -- I listened to one woman's story in which the man paid for her trip to meet him and all her expenses, as well as buying her a bunch of clothes while she was there. On her way home, she was stopped at the airport -- because there were drugs sewn into the buttons on the dresses and other compartments of the clothes he had given her -- and now this poor woman is trapped in prison in another country, and facing a life sentence. And this woman is in her 60's.

These scammers are also patient because they have several victims on the line, so it's nothing to them to talk to someone for 6 months or a year or more -- however long it takes -- which makes the victim feel secure in thinking that the person is sincere.

This is especially becoming a problem with older singles, as "gray" divorce rates (from what I read at least) are becoming the fastest-growing demographic of those who are now single and trying online dating.

PLEASE be careful out there!!! ❤️🙏
 

JohnDB

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I listen to a few social trend channels on YouTube, and I just wanted to say, please be extra careful if or when you visit someone, especially long-distance, or in another country, and especially if they offer to pay your way.

It's advisable to never go unless you have the money and connections to make your own arrangements if need be.

I was listening to stories about romance scammers who are enticing women to meet them -- and the guy talking to them is real -- but he's also using them for the purpose of trafficking.

Some people disappear because they are sold into sex slavery.

Others are used as drug mules -- I listened to one woman's story in which the man paid for her trip to meet him and all her expenses, as well as buying her a bunch of clothes while she was there. On her way home, she was stopped at the airport -- because there were drugs sewn into the buttons on the dresses and other compartments of the clothes he had given her -- and now this poor woman is trapped in prison in another country, and facing a life sentence. And this woman is in her 60's.

These scammers are also patient because they have several victims on the line, so it's nothing to them to talk to someone for 6 months or a year or more -- however long it takes -- which makes the victim feel secure in thinking that the person is sincere.

This is especially becoming a problem with older singles, as "gray" divorce rates (from what I read at least) are becoming the fastest-growing demographic of those who are now single and trying online dating.

PLEASE be careful out there!!! ❤️🙏
That's an extreme case....

Usually its those who either after a simple pleasant phone conversation (nothing much discussed other than initial pleasantries) they take out a restraining order, doxing you, or swatting you. (Never knew why she reacted that way....I said and did absolutely nothing untoward whatsoever).

Or....

You discover that the photo they published is 15 years old and they have gained an extra 70 lbs while growing a hump in their back.

Or....

The one who was fresh out of prison looking for someone to tell their parole officer that they ain't half as bad as their parole officer thinks they are.

Or....

She was getting married next month but wanted to keep her options open.

Or

The one who wanted to date a Christian man because she was beginning to get tired of the weekly group sex dates the last three guys she long term dated were heavily into.

Or

The one who claimed high generational wealth and that the guys locally who were chasing after her were dumb cowboys who worked for her in her ranch....but when you do a drive by you see nothing but a small worn out camper in the middle of a dusty dry lot with an abused nag of a horse nibbling some hay. No house, no ranch, not even a garden. Just a small lot (½acre) in the middle of nowhere with a dumpy ungroomed horse.
 

Krumbeard

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Most of us have at least dipped our toes into the online dating pool, maybe some have dove into the deep end. What has your experience been like? Did you meet someone special...or should we say "special"? Do you have a funny first date story?

Share the good, the bad, and the ugly. Maybe we can laugh away the trauma ;)
Ugh!
 
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I met my wife on this site, who is also a member, shortly after I joined in 2014. We got married later in the same year on Thanksgiving in Las Vegas. Local minister performed the nuptials in our hotel room. Two bellhops and a cleaning person were the witnesses. Hotel gave us a complementary Thanksgiving meal for getting married in their hotel. Great experience for sure.
 

Edith

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Most of us have at least dipped our toes into the online dating pool, maybe some have dove into the deep end. What has your experience been like? Did you meet someone special...or should we say "special"? Do you have a funny first date story?

Share the good, the bad, and the ugly. Maybe we can laugh away the trauma ;)
When I was 21 or so I had an experience. I met a man on Yahoo messenger just a short before it completely died off. We started chatting and even exchange numbers. He called all the time. He had a super cute voice so much so that I did not back out when he said he was old. After some time we took a RDV for a Date and we had to meet somewhere then move to where we were going. oh my the man was looking so frail, unkept, white hairs all over his face. so I moved passed him and pretended I was not the person he was looking for. back home I blocked him. I love neat good looking men. Not being neat is a deal breaker for me.
 

Solemateleft

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Okay... Where do I start... it really is a jungle out there...

Let's see how to organize these thoughts...

For background I recently turned 61 and began online dating about 2 years ago...
- Given my age and situation - I have strived to put all my trust in HIM with the aim to try to stay out of my own way... ie believing that this is still HIS Plan for me - so striving to not be limited by distance, or 'types' or over thinking things..
but at the same time.. I do have a good sense of 'my worth that I am able and willing to bring into a relationship'; and remain hopeful to find someone who also knows their worth, who recognizes mine and we can compliment each other in this regard...

Let's start with the Challenges:
- There seems to be a lot of women in this age group who still have those Checklists (they haven't seen "The Ugly Truth")...
- so living too far away is often a show stopper for some - two that I really liked...
- unfortunately, although I think I am pretty fit for my age... I'm only 5'8" and slightly balding... so that seems to be a show stopper too..

Scammers:
- There are different kinds of scammers out there, and it can be a very scary experience if you go into these things blind without having gotten the memo...
- Rule #1 - if it's too good to be true - than it is likely 98.67% chance that it is too good to be true!!!
- Be forewarned: There are lots of Young Beautiful Asian women out there - who are merely marketing 'Block Chain Investing'...
- Rule #2 - if they are 25+ years younger than you - don't kid yourself - they are a scammer...

Funniest Scammer Experiences:
- I thought I was having a wonderful long distance exchange with a beautiful Asian Lady (see rule #1)...
- sensing that I needed some validation that it wasn't a scammer - I decided to cold call video chat ...
- turns out I had been spilling my heart to a 35 year old 230# Nigerian DUDE... lol lol

- I fell in love with a AI Bot... This person was a Professional Scammer - but at this point I was along for the ride for pure curiosity just to see where this was going...
- Her photos were of a beautiful middle aged professional woman in the 'Interior Design' industry ...
- Right out the gate - she was the one that wanted to video chat - I thought cool - we both want 'proof of life'... for a real person...
- She was stunning, smart and had an Australian accent... and only 70 miles away...
- But as a professional research analyst - I tend to keep track of potential 'red flags' (RF) for scammers out the gate...
- I offered to meet for coffee asap - to confirm 'proof of life'...
- Her story was that she was personally invited to Hawaii (all expenses paid) after the FIRES to assist with the Interior Designs for some big projects and that she needed to pack and was traveling the next day RF1
- I offered to send her off from the Airport ... but she declined - too pressed for time...
- She shared a photo of her invitation - which had her name on it...
- I immediately went to work and confirmed that there was a person with that name - but she lived in Hawaii...
- I also did a reverse phone number and found it associated with an older lady who lived in El Paso Tx...
- We kept chatting while she was at this conference and she even shared pictures of her there...
- can't remember what happened first - There was a glitch in the Matrix - when she attempted to video chat... it dawned on me that her video might be AI generated and voice faked... Technology is crazy with AI these days..
- Towards the end of her scheduled visit - was hoping to pick her up at the airport... Her trip got extended as she needed to negotiate some contracts that she was going to get for working on...
- and then the SCAM popped up... She had bought some equipment for her projects, but got held up at the Airport and required extra paperwork and costs to be able to ship them home... She wanted me to lend/send her A LOT of $$$...

Crazy Ladies... sorry no offense to our CC ladies ... but have you ever seen The Universal Hot vs Crazy Matrix - Men's Guide to Women? see video link below
One of my colleagues at work was sharing with me a story about a Crazy college Girl that his son was dating...
I let him know - that those crazy college Girls only grow up to be crazy ladies in my dating age range... :)

Lots of women wisely - just wanna meet for coffee - and NO KISSING on the First Date!!!
- I met this one Italian lady who we seemed to have mutual attraction and a lot in common - chatting and talking before we met...
- When I came in to greet her with a friendly hug - lol, she went in for a warm kiss right out the gate... okay wow, there was chemistry... but in hindsight that should have been recorded as the 1st red flag... lol...
- She was a nurse - only lasted a few dates - she ended up dumping me when she learned that I was un-vaxed...

Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus:
- lots of women - "just wanna be friends" first... okay I can respect that ...
- I'm usually a 1 woman kinda guy as I wanna focus all my attention to sweep her off her feet and win her heart...
- so I'm willing to try 'just being friends'...
- but isn't that code for - she is going to have lots of other 'friends' in the mean time - until she finds the one she wants...
- but at least one lady - said on her profile - she just wants to be friends ... but I swear she tended to get jealous if I wasn't giving her all of my attention...

 
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I met my wife on this site, who is also a member, shortly after I joined in 2014. We got married later in the same year on Thanksgiving in Las Vegas. Local minister performed the nuptials in our hotel room. Two bellhops and a cleaning person were the witnesses. Hotel gave us a complementary Thanksgiving meal for getting married in their hotel. Great experience for sure.
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I wanted Elvis to perform the nuptials, but my wife nixed that idea. We got married at the Hilton on Las Vegas Blvd. across the street from Circus Cirus. We didn't gamble much and managed to come out on top by $70. The whole city is like a theme park. Most colorful city at night that I have ever seen.