Okay... Where do I start... it really is a jungle out there...
Let's see how to organize these thoughts...
For background I recently turned 61 and began online dating about 2 years ago...
- Given my age and situation - I have strived to put all my trust in HIM with the aim to try to stay out of my own way... ie believing that this is still HIS Plan for me - so striving to not be limited by distance, or 'types' or over thinking things..
but at the same time.. I do have a good sense of 'my worth that I am able and willing to bring into a relationship'; and remain hopeful to find someone who also knows their worth, who recognizes mine and we can compliment each other in this regard...
Let's start with the Challenges:
- There seems to be a lot of women in this age group who still have those Checklists (they haven't seen "The Ugly Truth")...
- so living too far away is often a show stopper for some - two that I really liked...
- unfortunately, although I think I am pretty fit for my age... I'm only 5'8" and slightly balding... so that seems to be a show stopper too..
Scammers:
- There are different kinds of scammers out there, and it can be a very scary experience if you go into these things blind without having gotten the memo...
- Rule #1 - if it's too good to be true - than it is likely 98.67% chance that it is too good to be true!!!
- Be forewarned: There are lots of Young Beautiful Asian women out there - who are merely marketing 'Block Chain Investing'...
- Rule #2 - if they are 25+ years younger than you - don't kid yourself - they are a scammer...
Funniest Scammer Experiences:
- I thought I was having a wonderful long distance exchange with a beautiful Asian Lady (see rule #1)...
- sensing that I needed some validation that it wasn't a scammer - I decided to cold call video chat ...
- turns out I had been spilling my heart to a 35 year old 230# Nigerian DUDE... lol lol
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I fell in love with a AI Bot... This person was a Professional Scammer - but at this point I was along for the ride for pure curiosity just to see where this was going...
- Her photos were of a beautiful middle aged professional woman in the 'Interior Design' industry ...
- Right out the gate - she was the one that wanted to video chat - I thought cool - we both want 'proof of life'... for a real person...
- She was stunning, smart and had an Australian accent... and only 70 miles away...
- But as a professional research analyst - I tend to keep track of potential 'red flags' (RF) for scammers out the gate...
- I offered to meet for coffee asap - to confirm 'proof of life'...
- Her story was that she was personally invited to Hawaii (all expenses paid) after the FIRES to assist with the Interior Designs for some big projects and that she needed to pack and was traveling the next day RF1
- I offered to send her off from the Airport ... but she declined - too pressed for time...
- She shared a photo of her invitation - which had her name on it...
- I immediately went to work and confirmed that there was a person with that name - but she lived in Hawaii...
- I also did a reverse phone number and found it associated with an older lady who lived in El Paso Tx...
- We kept chatting while she was at this conference and she even shared pictures of her there...
- can't remember what happened first - There was a glitch in the Matrix - when she attempted to video chat... it dawned on me that her video might be AI generated and voice faked... Technology is crazy with AI these days..
- Towards the end of her scheduled visit - was hoping to pick her up at the airport... Her trip got extended as she needed to negotiate some contracts that she was going to get for working on...
- and then the SCAM popped up... She had bought some equipment for her projects, but got held up at the Airport and required extra paperwork and costs to be able to ship them home... She wanted me to lend/send her A LOT of $$$...
Crazy Ladies... sorry no offense to our CC ladies ... but have you ever seen
The Universal Hot vs Crazy Matrix - Men's Guide to Women? see video link below
One of my colleagues at work was sharing with me a story about a Crazy college Girl that his son was dating...
I let him know - that those crazy college Girls only grow up to be crazy ladies in my dating age range...
Lots of women wisely - just wanna meet for coffee - and NO KISSING on the First Date!!!
- I met this one Italian lady who we seemed to have mutual attraction and a lot in common - chatting and talking before we met...
- When I came in to greet her with a friendly hug - lol, she went in for a warm kiss right out the gate... okay wow, there was chemistry... but in hindsight that should have been recorded as the 1st red flag... lol...
- She was a nurse - only lasted a few dates - she ended up dumping me when she learned that I was un-vaxed...
Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus:
- lots of women - "just wanna be friends" first... okay I can respect that ...
- I'm usually a 1 woman kinda guy as I wanna focus all my attention to sweep her off her feet and win her heart...
- so I'm willing to try 'just being friends'...
- but isn't that code for - she is going to have lots of other 'friends' in the mean time - until she finds the one she wants...
- but at least one lady - said on her profile - she just wants to be friends ... but I swear she tended to get jealous if I wasn't giving her all of my attention...