This conversation can become quite philosophical but that is OK. Sometimes we see things as a problem but others see them as nothing. In fact, that is the state of affairs in these last days where people call good evil and they also call evil good.
Our conscience should be our guide. I cannot impose my own conscience on yours, you must have your own conscience.
It is the same thing as having your own faith, I cannot impose my faith on you, that is, I cannot cut your head open and take my faith and insert it in your head. Each person has got to have his or her own faith.
And that is one of the big problems with Christianity today, most people are following other people's faith (actually stealing other's faith) by joining an organization and conforming themselves to the things of that organization. This is like jumping on a bandwagon and hitching a ride from someone else. The problem is that if that bandwagon goes over the cliff, so will everyone on the bandwagon.
This really is the height of laziness or rather disdain for something they claim to love. There really are no shortcuts to God. A man can deceive himself but he cannot deceive God.
I have said too much; what I am saying to you is that you must make take the initiative and come to your own decisions, mistakes if made by the one who figured out the problem for himself, can easily be corrected, but mistakes that you make by following others cannot easily be corrected because you probably won't even know what the mistake is.
I hope you take the time to figure this all out.