I know how terrible this sounds but it is just so disheartening. My step family is non religious and my step sister is so much prettier than me. It makes me feel so bad about myself because I never grew up with a sister and got one at 21... and now everyone pays attention to her
Can someone say a prayer for what I’m going through so I can Be better at interacting with my step family and feel less self pity?
It's easy to see an attractive woman and see it as things are easier for them. And in some ways there's probably some truth to that.
But from the women I've known who had that mainstream attractiveness it's often not an easy life when it comes to people.
One woman in particular I remember shared these sorts of struggles.
Men don't care who you are. They see a pretty woman and their goal is sex. Who you are as a person is irrelevant to them. Therefore no men ever get to know you as a person.
Women get jealous and thus at best avoid you, or at worst talk trash about you behind your back and spread lies. Therefore no women ever get to know you as a person.
And in this case her own father never bothered getting to know her. So being pretty had no effect on her familial relationship.
I found all this out because I got to know her. Which had shocked her because she said no one had ever taken the time to get to know her. I knew her better than her own father or husband (who was a jerk and used her as arm candy).
Have you considered her looks have nothing to do with family giving her attention? As another user suggested, perhaps try getting to know her. Because remember my friend who said women were often jealous and stayed away? That was painful to her. Being given attention but always alone.
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