Do you believe Jesus took on himself your shame?
Paid the price for your transgressions?
Do you believe in the love of God poured out for you by Jesus?
How much??
How deep??
How wide??
Where does the grace and peace of a christian come from?
It comes from knowing Him.
Now this is eternal life, that they may know You, the only TRUE God, and Jesus Christ, whom You have sent.
If you have believed and have the Spirit of God united to your spirit it is all a journey of coming to believe fully in His love, His nature of love.
To take that love into the depths of you and shine it in ever dark corner of your heart and soul.
Father in Jesus name search my sister and know (show), her heart to her, try her and know (show) her anxious thoughts to her. see if there are any hurtful ways in her and lead her in your everlasting way.
Being secured in God love is what every new/immature believer needs first.
Confessing our sins one to another is part of that process of healing.
Taking the light of Gods love into the depths of you so you can know that is does not go out or fade in your darkness is one way how you can know God and be secured more in His grace and peace.
Confession of what you would want to hide is a good first step, to move that into the light and become right in the process.
Not just what happened but what was in your heart.
Fill your life with the word of God to renew your thinking, because
your thinking is a big part of the problem a new or untried believer has to deal with.
Your feelings follow your thinking, you may just have worn that thinking in over time that you are no longer aware of it, it become habit and you just are aware of the result of how you feel.
Keep reading your bible, New testament for starters just read it all through quickly. easy enough to do a book a day for most books are small. Go through the whole NT and when you are done do it again slowly but ask God a lot of questions in the process expecting answers.
Audio bible, play it all the time, soak in the word of God until it get into you.
It is all about securing you in who God really is.
That is the first step.
In the end if you want to feel right you need to do right.
Praying to see the motives of your heart behind your sin, so your confession would be of your sin motive and not just the outward results is a process like pealing an onion, layer after layer until there is nothing left of the old you.
Your husband gets equipped by God and is charged with helping you do this very thing.
The presenting of you as spotless and blameless without blemish to Christ Jesus.
Perfect, clean and pure.
For everyone who has their Hope set on Him (Jesus) purifies themselves just as He is pure.
Father in Jesus name secure my sister in your love.