Marriage question

[Snackersmom]

Please share chapter and verse for all this. Thanks.

Hi Jaywalker, as I said, this was an abbreviated version; I included chapter and verse in my longer post in your other thread. If you want more info than what I shared there just let me know.

You've stated that you would like to believe that yall are already married.... in that case, who else knows? Have you told God? Your family? Her family? Do you call her your wife? I'm not being cheeky, I'm just saying..... marriage unions are not meant to be treated like secretive affairs.

 

[ResidentAlien]

I heard somewhere in Jesus' teachings that it's adultery to be married multiple times and God only accept the first marriage and you cannot get remarried unless your first spouse has died.

If true I know some church going folk that are living in sin being on their 2nd or 3rd spouse!

Rather than going off of what you heard from others, I'd just read God's word and ask for His guidance; that's where you'll get the answers.

 

[GWH]

In God's eyes you are married according to scripture. 2 flesh becoming one

Well, in God's eyes a couple SHOULD have marital commitment before becoming one flesh,
because becoming one flesh is intended by God to express marital commitment.
If they have committed themselves to a lifelong marriage, then their union is a common law marriage,
but if not/without lifelong commitment, then their union is fornication.

 

[NightTwister]

The question is - Can anybody show my in the bible where we are told to get a marriage certificate and go before a judge so he can pronounce us man and wife in order to be married?

I was wanting to know what bible verses say not what state governments say





Can you show from the bible we are not already married showing we are actually in sin?

And why does it matter ultimately if I'm still going to go to heaven regardless of how I live?

In the other thread several people have already stated that being saved is not dependent upon our lifestyle




I found this in an internet search

The Bible advises that if a believer is married to an unbeliever who is willing to stay in the marriage, they should not seek a divorce (1 Corinthians 7:12-13). The believer is said to sanctify the unbelieving spouse, and the marriage can be a means for the unbeliever to come to faith (1 Corinthians 7:14).

We were together before I got saved so your post is not reflective of other things the bible is saying on this topic.





I keep hearing the answer to most questions are already in the bible which is authored by God.

That's why I'm posting the question since I'm kinda new to being a Christian.




Please share chapter and verse for all this. Thanks.





Doesn't that settle this meaning I'm not actually living in sin as some people are saying?




Did people try top tell you that you were living in sin and were not really born again?




Where does the bible talk about this?





I heard somewhere in Jesus' teachings that it's adultery to be married multiple times and God only accept the first marriage and you cannot get remarried unless your first spouse has died.

If true I know some church going folk that are living in sin being on their 2nd or 3rd spouse!

It seems as though you're looking for absolution. I'm not a priest, so I can't help you out.

 

[Underd0g]

This is just one of the reasons why I figured out that this site can't be taken seriously.
He's trolling you guys.
Your efforts are quite entertaining, however.
Y'all are on the third page.

 

[Anointed4God]

I've been living with my girlfriend and we are exclusive not dating anybody else and are committed to one another

So why is this not considered being married?

Can anybody show my in the bible where we are told to get a marriage certificate and go before a judge so he can pronounce us man and wife in order to be married?

Greetings JayWalker! Let me first commend you for even asking this question. Obviously, the two of you truly love each other and desire to maintain a committment to one another. Marriage is a covenant that was ordained by God between Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. Scripture says that after God made Eve from Adam's rib, he brought her to him (liken this to someone giving a woman away to her husband during nuptials). After Adam named her woman, he stated that a man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh (Read Genesis 2: 21-25). From this, we can glean that God initially intended for man and woman to be joined together in marriage before engaging in sexual intimacy. Marriage is both spiritual and legal. It is a divine covenant between a man, a woman, and God (spiritually) and is legally binding (through an individual who is licensed to perform civil ceremonies) (Read Romans 7: 1-3). There are numerous scriptures that speak of the legality of marriage (Matthew 5: 31-32, Matthrew 19: 3-9, Mark 10: 2-12, just to name a few).

Another point to note is that some people believe that two people are married when they have sex. That is not true. Scripture teaches us that sex before marriage is fornication (one of the ten commandments). That proves that God's orginal design was for marriage to occur BEFORE sex. My advice is to study some of the scriptures I listed and do a deep dive so that you can gain a deeper understanding on this matter. God bless!

 

[GWH]

This is just one of the reasons why I figured out that this site can't be taken seriously.
He's trolling you guys.
Your efforts are quite entertaining, however.
Y'all are on the third page.

i
Trolling is a possibility in your case also, but the question regarding marriage is good to discuss.
What is your constructive comment on that topic?

 

[Underd0g]

i
Trolling is a possibility in your case also, but the question regarding marriage is good to discuss.
What is your constructive comment on that topic?

He is most likely an atheist wanna be with a popular loophole talking point.
Simply challenge him to describe how he is protecting the dignity of his faith and the dignity of his live-in girlfriend.

I'm no troll. I am a man who takes his faith seriously.
I am isolated, taking care of my wife with dementia, and I thought foolishly that there may be some outlet for Christian connection online.

Instead, I see pettiness and vanity.

 

[James456]

This is just one of the reasons why I figured out that this site can't be taken seriously.
He's trolling you guys.
Your efforts are quite entertaining, however.
Y'all are on the third page.

He comes across to me as someone troubled by the situation he finds himself in and seeking to justify it, to ease his troubled mind. Could be wrong of course

 

[ResidentAlien]

If you believe the simple acts of sleeping together and remaining faithful to one another makes you married, you should remember this: Jesus said, "I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery." Matthew 19:9 If sleeping together makes you married, you will be held to the same standard as people who had a wedding ceremony. No getting tired of your partner and then slipping out the back Jack. You'll be committing adultery if you sleep with someone else.

 

[Gideon300]

I've been living with my girlfriend and we are exclusive not dating anybody else and are committed to one another

So why is this not considered being married?

Can anybody show my in the bible where we are told to get a marriage certificate and go before a judge so he can pronounce us man and wife in order to be married?

We are also required to obey the law of the land. (Romans 13:1-7). You said it yourself: girlfriend. You don't see her as your wife, so it seems.

 

[Underd0g]

He comes across to me as someone troubled by the situation he finds himself in and seeking to justify it, to ease his troubled mind. Could be wrong of course

Since you invoked my name, I will respond.
The evidence is far too indicative that this is not the case.
Reread post #32. His only reply so far.
It is more likely that someone making these contentions, if sincere, is mentally ill.
I don't think he's mentally challenged; I think he enjoys dopamine.
I don't know what you can do anonymously, online, to help him.
Look at the results ("fruits") of his thread. Does this look scriptural?

 

[GWH]

He is most likely an atheist wanna be with a popular loophole talking point.
Simply challenge him to describe how he is protecting the dignity of his faith and the dignity of his live-in girlfriend.

I'm no troll. I am a man who takes his faith seriously.
I am isolated, taking care of my wife with dementia, and I thought foolishly that there may be some outlet for Christian connection online.

Instead, I see pettiness and vanity.

Not sure why you say he is most likely an atheist, because in post #32 an atheist would not say
"I keep hearing the answer to most questions are already in the bible which is authored by God.
That's why I'm posting the question since I'm kinda new to being a Christian."

I admit that I am wondering why he has not replied to my post #17& 43. Is he ignoring GW?
Again, in God's eyes a couple SHOULD have marital commitment before becoming one flesh,
because becoming one flesh is intended by God to express marital commitment.
If they have committed themselves to a lifelong marriage, then their union is a common law marriage,
but if not/without lifelong commitment, then their union is fornication.

I think you can find Christian connection here if you post constructive comments rather than criticize others.
Share with him what you have learned Scripture says about sex and marriage. Maybe he will reply to you.

 

[Underd0g]

Not sure why you say he is most likely an atheist, because in post #32 an atheist would not say
"I keep hearing the answer to most questions are already in the bible which is authored by God.
That's why I'm posting the question since I'm kinda new to being a Christian."
I admit that I am wondering why he has not replied to my post #17. Is he ignoring GW?

I think you can find Christian connection here if you post constructive comments rather than criticize others.
Share with him what you have learned Scripture says about sex and marriage. Maybe he will reply.

Lol, he's ignoring everyone of you, even in his one reply.
Maybe he will reply again? Let's see how much he gleans from all of this "help".

 

[GWH]

Lol, he's ignoring everyone of you, even in his one reply.
Maybe he will reply again? Let's see how much he gleans from all of this "help".

You may be right. Let us see.
Sorry about your wife...
(...until death do us part is the lifelong commitment.)

 

[Underd0g]

You may be right. Let us see.
Sorry about your wife...
(...until death do us part is the lifelong commitment.)

Thank you for that. It means a lot.

 

[GWH]

Thank you for that. It means a lot.

Sure. I have always had a so-so memory, so loss is harder to gauge,
but my wife seems to be having more senior moments lately.
My dad was sharp until he died at 95, but my mom less so, though her loss of hearing was part of the problem.

Have you seen the movie about dementia titled "The Notebook"?
I thought it was good (but can't remember many details by now :^).

 

[God-fearing]

I've been living with my girlfriend and we are exclusive not dating anybody else and are committed to one another

So why is this not considered being married?

Can anybody show my in the bible where we are told to get a marriage certificate and go before a judge so he can pronounce us man and wife in order to be married?

While common law marriage is excepted by many it has one exclusion.....Gods blessings.
The institute of marriage is more than a certificate acknowledging a couples commitment. It is a covenant between 3 ...you her and God.
Without God's blessings you have determined that you have the power to overcome all obstacles that can challenge a marriage.
The joining together and function of a marriage from submission to loving is spiritual as well as carnal desire as you both become one flesh. It is God that enables the abilities to be that man and women God desires. Along with his protection and guidance.
Seek the Lord in all things.

 

[Underd0g]

Sure. I have always had a so-so memory, so loss is harder to gauge,
but my wife seems to be having more senior moments lately.
My dad was sharp until he died at 95, but my mom less so, though her loss of hearing was part of the problem.

Have you seen the movie about dementia titled "The Notebook"?
I thought it was good (but can't remember many details by now :^).

I know it well. Love James Garner. If you want a good cry, listen to Glen Campbell sing "I'm Not Gonna Miss You."
If you care to interact, we ought not hijack the thread. Maybe figure something else if I inspire any thought.
We should move on.

Feel free to PM.

 

[GWH]

I know it well. Love James Garner. If you want a good cry, listen to Glen Campbell sing "I'm Not Gonna Miss You."
If you care to interact, we ought not hijack the thread. Maybe figure something else if I inspire any thought.
We should move on.

Feel free to PM.

The reason I mentioned “until death do us part” to show JayWalker that we are on topic for now. IOW dementia may become part of life long marriage, but yes we can move on to one of the threads I sponsor if you are interested in those topics.