I am surprised nobody has mentioned the elephant in the room.
I’m not the sharpest drawer or whatever it goes like, so I have to ask what is the “elephant in the room” here?
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I’m not the sharpest drawer or whatever it goes like, so I have to ask what is the “elephant in the room” here?
Not saying it is the case here, but the fact of the matter is that we DO get people coming to sites like these specifically to troll Christians, with the common hook being, oh I am so lonely. We have no idea who new people are, and we actually have had instances where someone joins saying they are a woman and/or using a provocative avatar and wanting to speak to Christians about their relationship issues. One claimed to be a woman and invited men only to PM "her" about her sexual issues. Major red flag much? Some men complained about being cautioned, but hey, this is the internet after all, and boys will be boys. Satan even tried to get Jesus to sin...
These things are true and have been often, and a warning would seem to be warranted. But there are two problems.
1. The target audience would not believe such a warning. They have strong motivation and want very badly to believe you are wrong if you warn them. In fact they will almost always vigorously come to the defense of the troll.
2. The truth usually becomes apparent so quickly that a warning is almost redundant.
This is so true, and number one in particular I experienced quite vigorously when two guys relentless harassed me
after I cautioned the guys about getting involved in a PM with a "woman" who wanted men only to write to them so
they could speak of their sexual issues. I have mentioned this previously here and there as the topic comes up, but
always bears repeating. Their harassment in both cases ended only when they were each banned for other issues.
Sometimes some old thread will be resurrected and I will be perusing it, good times!
And then I will come across one of their posts, and I think, Oh, him! I remember him.
I've been 'through' enough to know everybody is not bad for saying or doing things I may not approve of or not understand where they're coming from. I've learned to give others some slack as I hope they will when I don't live up to their expectations. I'm not biased but I do think calling long term fellow members here trolls, is immature and not wise on your part.
Btw, there is an 'ignore' button you can put on anyone here if you want to silence their commenting but we will still be able to see them. 'El Roi' the God who sees.....Awesome Father✝
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All of creation reflects Him hallelujah. I love this. Thank you so much for sharing because I often feel like God isn’t truly understanding my longing and need for this God ordained husband but then when I read post like yours I realize that He wants it for me just as much, if not more than I want it for myself, His timing is perfect. Thank youhallelujah and amen
You say in yr bio that you are separated so would you not be already married? If you are, what is it you would expect from God ?
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This is understandable as well, I can definitely see that happening, but I’m not looking for that at all. I just really wanted comfort and prayer and to see if anyone could give some encouragement or advice/relate to me.
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I meant the word separated as in literally I’m separated from whoever they are until God joins us together
how is it immature to assume someone is trolling , on an internet full of people who troll ? Especially when they commented something weird and irrelevant on my post? If I could see your point I would , as I have with plenty others. Regardless I’ll just take your advice on the ignore button thank you and amen yes He does truly see and understand us , even more than we do our own selves.I've been 'through' enough to know everybody is not bad for saying or doing things I may not approve of or not understand where they're coming from. I've learned to give others some slack as I hope they will when I don't live up to their expectations. I'm not biased but I do think calling long term fellow members here trolls, is immature and not wise on your part.
Btw, there is an 'ignore' button you can put on anyone here if you want to silence their commenting but we will still be able to see them. 'El Roi' the God who sees.....Awesome Father✝
First, I'm not sure what you mean here... 'I meant the word separated as in literally I’m separated from whoever they are until God joins us together'. In your Intro Forum post you said you're a first time mom, so you were in a relationship that didn't connect, ok. And as for trolls, this is a Christian site and referencing back to the two posts you likened to trolling, I don't see it. There's a difference between jesting and trolling. Trolling refers to a person or act of intentionally posting inflammatory or offensive messages online to provoke or upset others. It's a form of online harassment often used to disrupt discussions or cause drama'. Jesting is 'the action of saying or doing something for amusement'. Also a kind bit of info, if you click on the user's name, it will give you info on how long they've been here and, unless they went private mode, will give you some background. God bless you and your childI meant the word separated as in literally I’m separated from whoever they are until God joins us together
how is it immature to assume someone is trolling , on an internet full of people who troll ? Especially when they commented something weird and irrelevant on my post? If I could see your point I would , as I have with plenty others. Regardless I’ll just take your advice on the ignore button thank you and amen yes He does truly see and understand us , even more than we do our own selves.
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Im going to b brutally honest here , b careful what u wish for ! I adore my husband , he is my other half and I know for sure , in ways that I don't have time to get into right now , that God gave him to me and me to him . However , relationships r very very hard work . Every single day u have to compromise . Every single day u have to bite your tongue . I lived alone for over ten years before I met my husband and I got used to it and didn't mind it at all . When u live alone u get to do exactly what u want when u want how u want , that's a very great privilege not to b disregarded . I know for sure that if my hubby dues before me or leaves me , I shall live alone until the end of my days , because I would want to . It's not all laughter and cuddles believe me 
. The VERY best things about being married r the simplest things , falling asleep cuddling into my husband's back . That's THE best thing . Like I said , b careful what u wish for and , trust in God . Wait on the Lord .
. The VERY best things about being married r the simplest things , falling asleep cuddling into my husband's back . That's THE best thing . Like I said , b careful what u wish for and , trust in God . Wait on the Lord .
Im going to b brutally honest here , b careful what u wish for ! I adore my husband , he is my other half and I know for sure , in ways that I don't have time to get into right now , that God gave him to me and me to him . However , relationships r very very hard work . Every single day u have to compromise . Every single day u have to bite your tongue . I lived alone for over ten years before I met my husband and I got used to it and didn't mind it at all . When u live alone u get to do exactly what u want when u want how u want , that's a very great privilege not to b disregarded . I know for sure that if my hubby dues before me or leaves me , I shall live alone until the end of my days , because I would want to . It's not all laughter and cuddles believe me
Praise God for the married people who are honest with us about how hard marriage really is.
I see my parents in situations all the time where I'm like, "I don't know how they were able to keep quiet (to the other one) about that," and I have to admit -- those are the times when I'm not so sorry to be single, because I would definitely say something.
yes being in a relationship is hard work without a doubt if you aren't willing to put in the effort don't do it. you have to realize that your words and actions effect your spouse, the situation and anyone around you as well. not to mention you lose your privacy your free time and when you are having a bad day or need to be alone it isn't always an option
According to a comedian I heard one time, it's all about getting older and realizing what you want to spend your time on.
I don't remember the exact wording he used, but he related how his mother and father came to visit and dad set his hat down in a chair, and they talked for a while, then they sat down and his dad accidentally sat on his hat. His mother said "You sat on your hat dear." Dad replied, "I know."
The comedian said if he himself had done that, it would have been worth a good fifteen minutes of his own wife complaining about what an idiot he was. But when you get older you learn the value of time. You don't want to waste your remaining time arguing about things that don't really matter.
When their visit was over his dad got up, pushed his hat out and put it back on his head. "That would have been worth another fifteen minutes of complaining with my wife." But his mother didn't even blink.
It is ok I am lonely too your not alone, I don't know why this longing is so deep within me but I understand your feelings and your not alone
Im going to b brutally honest here , b careful what u wish for ! I adore my husband , he is my other half and I know for sure , in ways that I don't have time to get into right now , that God gave him to me and me to him . However , relationships r very very hard work . Every single day u have to compromise . Every single day u have to bite your tongue . I lived alone for over ten years before I met my husband and I got used to it and didn't mind it at all . When u live alone u get to do exactly what u want when u want how u want , that's a very great privilege not to b disregarded . I know for sure that if my hubby dues before me or leaves me , I shall live alone until the end of my days , because I would want to . It's not all laughter and cuddles believe me
I really liked what you said here. I would also assume that being married yall must pick and choose your battles. Some people feel every issue must be addressed in a serious manner and/or are quick to take offense. That can put unnecessary strain on relationships. Slow to anger and quick to forgive is easier said than done, but vital nevertheless.
I hope you show hubby your message.
I never thought about that. This is excellent!Something to remember, Adam in Paradise, walking with God was lonely and looking for a mate, and God made Him Eve. Even walking with God and not yet tainted by Sin, our ancestors wanted a Help Mate. And that is normal.
Does anyone else ever think this reads a bit weird?Something to remember, Adam in Paradise, walking with God was lonely and looking for a mate, and God made Him Eve. Even walking with God and not yet tainted by Sin, our ancestors wanted a Help Mate. And that is normal.
Genesis 2:18 The LORD God also said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make for him
a suitable helper.” 19And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every
bird of the air, and He brought them to the man to see what he would name each one. And whatever
the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20The man gave names to all the livestock,
to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam no suitable helper was found.