Longing

[SpiritSense55]

@cinder First of all, you are clearly projecting and it’s disturbing you’d be so hostile and try to turn the situation around on me when I made a post, being vulnerable on a Christian site, to connect with others. You then decided to come onto my post being childish and weird. Why would I be embarrassed??? The post is short, sweet and to the point. What is embarrassing about being vulnerable? It’s sad that you would even make a comment like this.
Then you go on to project onto me what my arguments would be like in a relationship etc. that’s just so nasty of you. & guess what? I could say the same to you, I can surely hope this isn’t how you acted within your relationships or I get why you’re turning to humor to cope with things instead of maturity and healing, which comes with vulnerability.

 

[SpiritSense55]

P.S. I should also mention that you might find many married people responding to your posts as well.

Back when I started here, it was pretty much all singles, but we all kind of grew up together and some even got married along the way. Thankfully, some of our formerly single-now married peers haven't left us, and make occasional guest appearances here in Singles.

Traffic on this site has also slowed down a lot over the years (with so much other competition out there,) so often people just looking for interesting topics to respond to will click on a title to read and reply, not realizing it's in Singles.

We've been able to pick up a few awesome married friends here along the way, who tell us from their experience what marriage is really like -- both the good and the bad, which I think is important for us singles to hear.

One of my favorite threads here ever was by a married woman who told us what her Valentine's Day was like as a married person -- spoiler alert, it was just another day -- and I'm thankful for people like this who help keep my own hopes and expectations for romantic love in check.

Thank you, that is a very MATURE response and I can understand this from you, if this is all that was said I’d of moved on and been humbled by the fact that I didn’t think of that! But that other person cinder, Absolutely not, and I’m not in a place to take the higher route right now. I am hurting hence why I tried the website out. So to that cinder person yes I’m talking about you in the comment above this one!

 

[SpiritSense55]

Well, all I know is if I was having a bad day and posted something like this, once my emotional equilibrium returned I'd be embarrassed about making such a post.

You will find that some of us have become a bit cynical and flippant. But many of us also know that our daydreams of a perfect relationship with a perfectly godly person are fantasies that reality brings a rather rude awakening to.

We wish you the best and a happy marriage,but I read this post and wonder what happens the first time you and your boyfriend disagree on something or he is a typical guy and tries to fix your problem when you're looking for emotional validation.

Don’t try to insert passive aggressive, backhanded comments and insults. you were that quick to attack me on relationships, which is what I was vulnerable for, using my own vulnerability against me, all because you came into MY post, while I was in a clearly vulnerable state, hence the WORDS OF THE POST. It’s really embarrassing you are trying to turn things around on me and attack me immediately for a valid reaction on my part, I can only imagine what your relationship was like, someone who can’t take accountability, can’t admit their faults, can’t see another perspective, can’t be humble, has no empathy, back handed, childish, passive aggressive, selfish etc !! Oh that doesn’t feel good does it? No it doesn’t, so don’t do that to me.

 

[SpiritSense55]

I’m terribly sorry for saying anything that could be interpreted as trolling. The thing is that many of us have a long history of lighthearted banter, which I guess comes out by default sometimes, not taking into consideration what the thread is actually about.

Again, I apologize for my comment. It was not appropriate in this thread.

Thank you for acknowledging that! I am new and didn’t realize you just can comment on a thread without really seeing what it’s about and I’ve just had horrible experiences trying to reach out via Reddit etc so I was hoping for a safe space, thank you for understanding 😢💖

 

[Lynx]

Don’t try to insert passive aggressive, backhanded comments and insults. you were that quick to attack me on relationships, which is what I was vulnerable for, using my own vulnerability against me, all because you came into MY post, while I was in a clearly vulnerable state, hence the WORDS OF THE POST. It’s really embarrassing you are trying to turn things around on me and attack me immediately for a valid reaction on my part, I can only imagine what your relationship was like, someone who can’t take accountability, can’t admit their faults, can’t see another perspective, can’t be humble, has no empathy, back handed, childish, passive aggressive, selfish etc !! Oh that doesn’t feel good does it? No it doesn’t, so don’t do that to me.

Oooooh... There's a lot of irrelevance on this forum. And a lot of irrelevants.

I may have been the first you met here, but I am also among the least. There are some here who have irrelevance that puts mine to shame.

If irrelevance ticks you off that much, I'm afraid you're going to have a very rough time of it here on this forum. It's just lousy with irrelevance.

 

[Blain]

@cinder First of all, you are clearly projecting and it’s disturbing you’d be so hostile and try to turn the situation around on me when I made a post, being vulnerable on a Christian site, to connect with others. You then decided to come onto my post being childish and weird. Why would I be embarrassed??? The post is short, sweet and to the point. What is embarrassing about being vulnerable? It’s sad that you would even make a comment like this.
Then you go on to project onto me what my arguments would be like in a relationship etc. that’s just so nasty of you. & guess what? I could say the same to you, I can surely hope this isn’t how you acted within your relationships or I get why you’re turning to humor to cope with things instead of maturity and healing, which comes with vulnerability.

you should be able to be vulnerable without embarresment I am sorry if you were attacked and also I hope you can meet some wonderful people on here, and if God willing find a godly man for you as well it wouldn't be the first time people hgave found love on here I once found a girl on here dating for four years and even considered marrying her but sadly she dumped me and man the heartbreak was a whole other level of pain I couldn't think of her without breaking down in tears

 

[Blain]

Oooooh... There's a lot of irrelevance on this forum. And a lot of irrelevants.

I may have been the first you met here, but I am also among the least. There are some here who have irrelevance that puts mine to shame.

If irrelevance ticks you off that much, I'm afraid you're going to have a very rough time of it here on this forum. It's just lousy with irrelevance.

not everyone has thick skin and some people are very sensative we need to discern the type of person they are and treat them as such compassion is far more valuable with such people than anything else