It's good to be single.

[tourist]

I think you have to really know what your in for when you get married.

Very few would get married then. On the plus side the divorce rate would drop. It's not so bad if you think about it.

 

[Lanolin]

I would imagine that's impossible, but your "growth" is significantly altered because of marital responsibilities. Especially if you have kids.

"Inferior" seems kind of loaded. I think "subordinate" is a better term, as it doesn't sound as degrading. I don't think of my self as "inferior" to my boss lady at work, because I'm as good at my job as she is at hers. But I am definitely subordinate to her, and serve her as unto the lord because that's nature of authorative relationships.
Family, I admit, is different because you are most likely going to be sharing a home- and coming to agreeable living arrangements is a big challenge.

I don't think women have to give up those things, but there's definitely a change in priority. The same is true for the man- cleaving from his parents and cleaving to his wife. I have a step-mother who doesn't understand this and constantly complains how my step-brothers have 'selfishly abandoned' her when they don't show up on a holiday.

Technically, a man shouldn't do this either, without some consideration to his family. I suppose you could have a marriage where the husband and wife just go off and do their own thing, but I don't think that's how the Lord intended it to be- I think for it to be a blessed marriage they're supposed to be involved in some kind of mutual support besides sharing a bed.

Amen. Another reason why it's good to be single. I feel like the scriptures do explain the potential pitfalls in marriage pretty well, though. Maybe not in a organized, laid out fashion... but it's all there.

well the 'inferior' thing is how actually a lot of women may feel when the man is designated 'superior' especially as her head in marriage while that may be ok for a daughter and her dad, (dads generally love their own daughters right? and daughters depend on their dads affections, a daughter isnt going to boss her dad theres a huge age difference lol ) it will probably be problematic for husband and wife, if the husband doesnt choose to follow Christs example and gives his life up for her.

unfortunately it seems many men dont see it that way...there are still so many domestic violence happening every day where literally women have to HIDE from their husbands in refuge centres. Why because they'll get bashed up otherwise and men think they have the right to because she belongs to them and is married to them. Shes his 'missus' and has to do what he says. Many women will actually take the abuse so that the husband doesnt hurt the children. They figure its better that they stay where they can watch them rather than leave the children alone with them. warped I know.

 

[Lanolin]

what is an agreeable living arrangement though
I think couples need to work this out and be clear who does what. It could be really unfair if a wife doesnt even get a say where she lives even if her husband bought a mansion, and if he bought a mansion and locked her inside because hes afraid the diamond on her finger will get stolen. Or maybe the mansion is a huge money pit and takes a lot to maintain. If a wife has to clean ten bedrooms on her own thats a bit unfair. how about childcare, is it all on the mother to do practically everything when she only has two hands not six.
what hours will a husband or wife be away at work and not at home? what if the wife or hsuband has a hoarding habit that they can hardly have any room cos their house is full of junk. They have to live together you know.

 

[SomeDisciple]

what is an agreeable living arrangement though
I think couples need to work this out and be clear who does what. It could be really unfair if a wife doesnt even get a say where she lives even if her husband bought a mansion, and if he bought a mansion and locked her inside because hes afraid the diamond on her finger will get stolen. Or maybe the mansion is a huge money pit and takes a lot to maintain. If a wife has to clean ten bedrooms on her own thats a bit unfair. how about childcare, is it all on the mother to do practically everything when she only has two hands not six.
what hours will a husband or wife be away at work and not at home? what if the wife or hsuband has a hoarding habit that they can hardly have any room cos their house is full of junk. They have to live together you know.

I like how you brought up problems of affluence instead of "the husband is broke as a joke, and can barely pay the rent, let alone afford a diamond". Different women want different problems!
I could probably buy one, but since I feel like they are worthless, I'm not sure I'd ever buy a woman a diamond, or any particularly expensive rock... it would have to look pretty cool for me to pay for it. This is why my proposals will all get rejected; because I'd rather buy a giant rough emerald that looks like it came from an alien spaceship- and then put that on a tiny ring and try and give that to her. I'm sure diamonds are supposed to symbolize something in some tradition, but they just look expensive to me.
A lot of times men don't really get a say in what they do or where they live, so it isn't much different. We can only do our best to find the most economic situation as possible- while seeking the Lord. Even if we get exactly what we think we want, there's no guarantee we will keep it, so we have to be flexible on that too.

 

[melita916]

When the Lord is in the center of the marriage, we win. We submit to each other as unto the Lord.

So as a married woman, I didn’t lose anything. Things changed, but I didn’t lose anything.

 

[HumbleOne]

Depends on her situation. I rather be married and my children greet me.

 

[GiveThanks]

Commitment to family, and working harder than some healthy young people after having 10 kids... that's more than sufficient to impress me because... I don't see that much? It was more than that, anyway- she was modest, polite... y'know, biblical virtues and what not.

Woman has 10 kids, then has to break her back working to feed them: nothing impressive about that- even if she has good values.

By the way, what type of man is it that gets his wife pregnant 10 times, and is pleased by her working hard outside the home to help him put food on the table?

Notwithstanding may God bless that couple and their ten kids.

 

[DickGrayson]

I do enjoy my single life and there are a lot of advantages to being single, .....but I have been single 15 years now, and I miss having special someone. I am looking.

 

[Lanolin]

I like how you brought up problems of affluence instead of "the husband is broke as a joke, and can barely pay the rent, let alone afford a diamond". Different women want different problems!
I could probably buy one, but since I feel like they are worthless, I'm not sure I'd ever buy a woman a diamond, or any particularly expensive rock... it would have to look pretty cool for me to pay for it. This is why my proposals will all get rejected; because I'd rather buy a giant rough emerald that looks like it came from an alien spaceship- and then put that on a tiny ring and try and give that to her. I'm sure diamonds are supposed to symbolize something in some tradition, but they just look expensive to me.
A lot of times men don't really get a say in what they do or where they live, so it isn't much different. We can only do our best to find the most economic situation as possible- while seeking the Lord. Even if we get exactly what we think we want, there's no guarantee we will keep it, so we have to be flexible on that too.

rich peoples problems are just amusing.
I walk past 4 jewellery stores on my way to work in the mall and never do I bother to look at the displays there. Its all gold and silver chains and boring diamonds and fancy watches. maybe a few pearls. Im just not even interested. I dont wear rings or necklaces, I just find them annoying. Chains to me remind me of like someone owns you, like a dog. People give them to me but I hardly ever wear them. They just get in the way. I would feel like a christmas tree all decked out in baubles.

However, I would fossick in a crystal and gemstone store because there are all fascinating rocks and stones there in all different colours. Weird huh. Greenstone or Jade is highly prized in my culture. Diamonds to me are just a bit boring. I like things rocks Selenite and amehthyst and tourmaline and I like looking at the crystal formations of different rocks. I like seeing them in the ground or in display just natural, not hanging on people.
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[I_am_Canadian]

I met a beautiful woman yesterday. She looked amazing; she had this long dirty-blonde hair, a nice smile, blah-blah-blah. Of course she has these tight pants on, because that's what they do.

We're stuck in the same room, so we get talking and she was like "you married/ have kids?" and I was like "nope. not really interested in that at the moment" and she was like "DONT GET MARRIED IT"S A WASTE OF TIME!"

It's those little moments, when I think... You know what, it's good to be single. Praise the Lord.

I hate to burst your bubble but I disagree first of all God Himself said in Genesis that it's not gòod for man to be alone and the created Eve for Adam.

I am 36 and single and I hate going home to a Empty apartment day after day year after year, dude I have had girlfriends I the past and some of them I miss dearly.

I miss having some one to snuggle withm or just getting a hug, or some one supporting me and encouraging me in my search to find work to get off social assistance.

Sorry dude but reality is men need women just as much as women need men, we were created for each other for the honour and glory of God.

Treat a woman right and she will treat you right, honor her and she will honor you, treat her the way God intended and when you married your wife will be the greatest blessing yoy have ever had in your life.

 

[tourist]

I do enjoy my single life and there are a lot of advantages to being single, .....but I have been single 15 years now, and I miss having special someone. I am looking.

My first marriage was a disaster and ended up in divorce after 6 1/2 years. After that, having been burned, I was single and celibate for 18 years. Like yourself, I missed having a special someone - in fact, I didn't really miss that because there was nothing special in the first place. Like yourself, I started looking for that special someone.

 

[Lanolin]

if you live alone in an empty apartment of course that is not going to be good, you need to find a room-mate unless you live in a studio.

But who says a woman is going to be stay in an apartment all day and wait till you get home from work. shes actually got stuff to do as well! Unless you pay her to live there..hmmm

Personally I dont think apartment living is good for people.

 

[SomeDisciple]

I hate to burst your bubble but I disagree first of all God Himself said in Genesis that it's not gòod for man to be alone and the created Eve for Adam.

No worries, you're not bursting anyone's bubble. Nobody is gonna steal my joy. Obviously Adam couldn't be alone- or mankind wouldn't be able to perpetuate itself. That's why it wasn't good. That doesn't mean that everyone needs to get married.

I'm sorry to hear that you're lonely, though- any Christian... or even a non-christian friend for that matter, should be willing to encourage you to and help build you up. Especially when it comes to prospects of providing for your own- that is gods will, so whatever oppression or circumstances that are preventing that I will pray you are set free from that in Jesus name all day long.

Sorry dude but reality is men need women just as much as women need men, we were created for each other for the honour and glory of God.

Sure... I don't have a problem with women at all. That doesn't mean I need to marry one though.

 

[I_am_Canadian]

No worries, you're not bursting anyone's bubble. Nobody is gonna steal my joy. Obviously Adam couldn't be alone- or mankind wouldn't be able to perpetuate itself. That's why it wasn't good. That doesn't mean that everyone needs to get married.

I'm sorry to hear that you're lonely, though- any Christian... or even a non-christian friend for that matter, should be willing to encourage you to and help build you up. Especially when it comes to prospects of providing for your own- that is gods will, so whatever oppression or circumstances that are preventing that I will pray you are set free from that in Jesus name all day long.


Sure... I don't have a problem with women at all. That doesn't mean I need to marry one though.

ok thanks, true but have you ever considered that maybe with out Eve all Adam would ever be is half a man. he would get up go to work and go home to an empty house.

Day after day year after year, and nothing to show for it, that would get depessing, if procreation was the only reason for creating Eve than they would both be miserable and it wouldn't be paradise in the garden. You are cutting out the emotional and spiritual aspects of the relationship. Same mistake most people make now adays.

Thanks I appreciate that, my mother thinks I will be on odsp the rest of my life, I often wonder if she resents me for making her to be a stay at home mom when I was growing up. I wonder if my mother wanted me to be a failure in life

 

[SomeDisciple]

ok thanks, true but have you ever considered that maybe with out Eve all Adam would ever be is half a man. he would get up go to work and go home to an empty house.

Half a man? He would be a whole man with all his ribs! I'm sure he would find something to do with his time having dominion over the entire earth and all.

if procreation was the only reason for creating Eve than they would both be miserable and it wouldn't be paradise in the garden. You are cutting out the emotional and spiritual aspects of the relationship. Same mistake most people make now adays.

There's no emotional or spiritual benefit that you can get from being married that you can't get from your Christian brothers and sisters. Marriage is of the flesh. This is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh... therefore, a man shall cleave from his mother and father and cleave unto his wife and the two shall become one flesh. Of course it is holy, and sanctified, and symbolic of spiritual things. But would you call Jesus "half a man"? Or was Paul, in his demonstrating the longsuffering of Christ "half a man"? Indeed it is not good for man to be alone, but that doesn't mean it's not good for him to be single!

 

[Gojira]

It's easy to be negative. Of all people, Christians should be able to rejoice in family. Sure it's hard. It's worth it. A good relationship is a great blessing. If we allow the ways of the world to influence us, we will not experience God's blessing. If all Christians decide to be childless, then the church loses a generation of people with at least a basic knowledge of the gospel.

Marriage is a great way to break down the innate selfishness that rules us. It's not for everyone, but most people should marry.

I agree with you. Yikes! These posts! They sound like they come from a place of bad past relationships. Or... something else.

To say you prefer a dog to a child shows, IN MY OPINION, immaturity and selfishness. Please forgive the gut-punch, and I will qualify that by saying that part of the reason I have no children of my own is because of my own selfishness.

This is increasingly common in the western world. We'd rather have the self-indulgence of a dog that worships the ground we walk on rather than another human being who'd love us to death, but also force us to have to die to self.

As for marriage and potential break-ups and divorces... the same is true of any relationship: Friendship, business, etc. They all have the potential for a painful ending. Don't get that dog because he might run out into the street and get hit by a car!

For me, I was married and loved it. She was a beautiful little Filipina. Her personality was great, she was adorable, and the sex was amazing. I miss her to death -- but, I want that back, if God deems it fit.

Are there risks? Always. But, the potential for good outweighs the bad, IMO.

 

[17Bees]

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[Godsgirl83]

Of all days to run out of popcorn.....

Well, there are a few of these "need pop corn" threads going on right now, so here......
this should help you get through them for a while

 

[Gojira]

Hey... virtual popcorn don't cut it lady!

 

[17Bees]

Well, there are a few of these "need pop corn" threads going on right now, so here......
this should help you get through them for a while

Thank ya Love! Do you have butter ...... strike that.....a cow to go with that?