Is it okay to be friends w. the LGBTQ+ community?

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Dear Coffee Jelly,
I think that is a really great question. I absolutely understand why you might be confused and unsure about what to do here. Since you asked for an opinion, I will do my absolute best to give you my full and honest explanation. Please be mindful: I am a Christian who is based in the Netherlands. The Netherlands have a very open view towards the LGBTQ+ community. I, myself am a Christian lesbian. I do understand how that might confuse people. I was saved before realising my sexuality. I try to the best of a man's ability to live by the word of the Lord Himself. Everyone is allowed to have their own interpretation on Christianity, this is always based on people's upbringings and personal preferences. I sincerely hope no one is offended by me. If so, I deeply apologise indeed. My personal interpretation is that Jesus wants us to love and be pure of heart. And I promise you with every humble cell in my body, i will never love a woman in a sinful way. If I happen to fall in love with a member of the same sex, I always make sure this love is fully consensus, pure and respectful. Of course there might be cases of people in the LGBTQ who are sinful, that counts for other people as well. It is not up to us humans to judge eachother on what is right or wrong. Only our almighty Father in heaven has the right to do so. We humans are to be loving and respectful to anyone who crosses our paths.
Much love, BJ

Although this is not me, it's a profound message that I'm glad was shared with me once. I'm passing it forward to you.


 
We are to love everyone as Jesus did. Love the sinner, hate the sin.

Did you know that Jesus never said that?.
That quote was made famous by a sexual deviant that was Hindu.
Just saying... because it gets quoted like scripture without any pastors speaking up to make known that's not a biblical doctrine or quote. It's no wonder church goers think it's in the Bible.when their pastors teach it as such.
 
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From Romans 1:26-28
 
yeah well social networks are full of wackos regardless of their purpose, is the purpose of this group something like sewing, woodworking, boating, or is the actual purpose just being LGBTQHDI whatever? In the case of the former if it's some group that has a legit interest as it's focus, but by coincidence happens to have a number of those people, I might say OK but be careful who you listen to there, but if its only real reason for existing is being lgbtq then forget about it.
 
some may get upset at what im gona say but i have a very close friend that is lesbion or says she is and im not going to lose a close friend over it, i dont agree with her in that aspect of her life because im a Christian and when ever i get the chance i tell her that the bible says its wrong, i do hang out with her and we have fun shopping going to the movies and just doing girl things, but i cant condem a friendship that weve had because of her sexuality i hope and pray everyday that she will change but i dont judge her she will be judged in due time for better or worse, jmo
 
some may get upset at what im gona say but i have a very close friend that is lesbion or says she is and im not going to lose a close friend over it, i dont agree with her in that aspect of her life because im a Christian and when ever i get the chance i tell her that the bible says its wrong, i do hang out with her and we have fun shopping going to the movies and just doing girl things, but i cant condem a friendship that weve had because of her sexuality i hope and pray everyday that she will change but i dont judge her she will be judged in due time for better or worse, jmo

That's a very good attitude.
When i was your age, the fad back then was drugs. So almost all of my friends did drugs but i never did them despite they pushing me or trying to peer-pressure me, but i never judged them and i stayed firm in my decision to never do drugs. They knew i went to church too but respected the fact that i didn't judge them and also wanted to hang out with me.
This is called having the peace from God which you will learn in your walk as you grow as a Christian and continue this path. Sometimes actions speak louder than words and the actions that one takes are a reflection of the faith and peace in God.
 
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I just re-joined a social network and basically everyone is a part of the LBGTQ+ community and I asked a few people from my mom's church and they all said 'absolutely not'

I'd like an explanation as to why if it's true tbh

Have you ever read Lev 20:13, Rom 1:26-27, I Cor 6:9 II Pet 2:6, or Gen 13:13? Let God's word help you make up your mind.
 
I tend to believe if you lay down with dogs, you get up with flees but if you have a strong enough foundation in Christ, God will send you to places where you can do some real good for the kingdom, if you don’t bend your values and beliefs to conform to theirs. Also, people tend to become the average usually of the 5 people they are closest to If they don’t have great integrity.
 
Love the sinner, hate the sin. God made everyone and everyone has been ungodly in one form or another. Jesus accepts all who knock at the door.
 
couple of my best friends are bi/


This is not your situation but I normally go into enough details with young adults so they can understand WHY we should choose friends wisely according to the Bible.

Why are people LGBTQP, etc ?

In some cases there's inappropriate behaviors brought on by molesters in a child's life as we see in the news as well as implied in the Bible.
Most Christians never imagined that American society would become so depraved that they would permit public schools and libraries to invite twisted male perverts dressed up in women's clown outfits for the purpose of persuading children to become the same. It's not always as overt as this, but it's typical in secret.

The poor children don't have a chance when their own families or foster parents are manipulating them to become what God never designed. Some force children to become addicted to hormones that God intended for the strength of marriage between one man and woman for life.

These children's only hope is to have a believer lead them to Christ. That's why I find it so important that believers with the love of Christ reach their communities and invite them to Church, Vacation Bible Schools. They should ACTUALLY take the effort to learn how to present the true gospel clearly and lead them in prayer. None of that "ask Jesus into your heart and call them saved." They need the gospel instead. See This YouTube video
For more on that, check my many posts where I lead others to Christ.

Not all of them are young victims of statutory rape as Sodomites have> Earned a reputation < for committing. Most are those that Romans chapter ones devoted many details describing. I don't have time to cover the chapter now. Go to the King James Bible to read about it because it doesn't sugar coat and make Sodomy out to be an optional alternative lifestyle.
Sodom, Genesis chapter 19, is a BIword for a city of people that God justly rained fire and brimstone down upon. It continues to be mentioned frequently into the New Testament for our admonition.
That means that we are supposed to learn from the major example God gave of them. We should also read Judges chapter 19 on the subject. In my experience, on the surface the adult LGBTQPs seem nice enough. However, in my experience as time goes on they always committed unacceptably immoral actions in business, school and family. I'm talking about the gross lack of character traits of someone who you would not want to spend time with. Sometimes you have to interact on a professional level on the job, but I learned that I must set big boundaries for any other interactions.
Why?

Given enough time, they proved in every case that I can no longer associate with them unless I:

Want to be frequently lied to...
Want to be stolen from....
Want to be stabbed in the back with false accusations called slander, gossip and maligning....
Want to be harmed physically by their violence.....
Want to defend against their sexual advances.....
Want to have to deal with their drama on the job.....
Want to defend against their murderous attempts.

Note that none of us want that.
That's one reason they demand special status / special treatment in our wicked country.
I do Not Want to be around people who are described in detail in Genesis 19, Judges 19, and Romans 1.
Romans 16

17Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them.

We are known by others by the friends we spend time with. Right or wrong, people who know that your friends are queer will wonder if you are too. You may end up with a false reputation that's based solely on your associations.
Mature adults realize from experience that sodomites don't just have an attraction to other dudes, they have multiple moral problems that hurt those who they are close to and even interact with normally in life in general.

This is something you want to keep in mind with other friends too. When you notice an attractive girl that's popular with the guys, you might want to ask yourself why.
If she has a reputation of physical relationships or talks about it, don't waste your time with her in a school study group. Even if you are just friends, she will needlessly burden your life because of her lack of character in other parts of life.

Example:
I've been interested in ladies who seemed modest and Christian. Then I considered them as a candidate for marriage and eventually saw them flirting with the guys. I don't want someone who's playing the field and desires the football team for a wife! A person who shows those traits in public will definitely cheat on you as soon as she has opportunities.
The other guys can see what it's like to enjoy diseases that make their junk die. They can marry them and "enjoy" what it's like to have their life savings and house stolen while a judge makes takes their pay.

I'm just talking as one man to another.
God's Word is God's will.
What I'm sharing with you is what every teen needs to learn NOW.
God's way is the only way and we are to have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness.
I'm taking valuable time from my lunch because I wish I had someone tell me so much when I was a young man. I'm not old yet but have had enough experience with daily school and business interactions with many.
That's not a luxury you get from youth, so I am sharing my own out of true Christian compassion.
I hope this answers your question. If not, I'll try to get back later.

Have a great week!
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This is not your situation but I normally go into enough details with young adults so they can understand WHY we should choose friends wisely according to the Bible.

Why are people LGBTQP, etc ?

In some cases there's inappropriate behaviors brought on by molesters in a child's life as we see in the news as well as implied in the Bible.
Most Christians never imagined that American society would become so depraved that they would permit public schools and libraries to invite twisted male perverts dressed up in women's clown outfits for the purpose of persuading children to become the same. It's not always as overt as this, but it's typical in secret.

The poor children don't have a chance when their own families or foster parents are manipulating them to become what God never designed. Some force children to become addicted to hormones that God intended for the strength of marriage between one man and woman for life.

These children's only hope is to have a believer lead them to Christ. That's why I find it so important that believers with the love of Christ reach their communities and invite them to Church, Vacation Bible Schools. They should ACTUALLY take the effort to learn how to present the true gospel clearly and lead them in prayer. None of that "ask Jesus into your heart and call them saved." They need the gospel instead. See This YouTube video
For more on that, check my many posts where I lead others to Christ.

Not all of them are young victims of statutory rape as Sodomites have> Earned a reputation < for committing. Most are those that Romans chapter ones devoted many details describing. I don't have time to cover the chapter now. Go to the King James Bible to read about it because it doesn't sugar coat and make Sodomy out to be an optional alternative lifestyle.
Sodom, Genesis chapter 19, is a BIword for a city of people that God justly rained fire and brimstone down upon. It continues to be mentioned frequently into the New Testament for our admonition.
That means that we are supposed to learn from the major example God gave of them. We should also read Judges chapter 19 on the subject. In my experience, on the surface the adult LGBTQPs seem nice enough. However, in my experience as time goes on they always committed unacceptably immoral actions in business, school and family. I'm talking about the gross lack of character traits of someone who you would not want to spend time with. Sometimes you have to interact on a professional level on the job, but I learned that I must set big boundaries for any other interactions.
Why?

Given enough time, they proved in every case that I can no longer associate with them unless I:

Want to be frequently lied to...
Want to be stolen from....
Want to be stabbed in the back with false accusations called slander, gossip and maligning....
Want to be harmed physically by their violence.....
Want to defend against their sexual advances.....
Want to have to deal with their drama on the job.....
Want to defend against their murderous attempts.

Note that none of us want that.
That's one reason they demand special status / special treatment in our wicked country.
I do Not Want to be around people who are described in detail in Genesis 19, Judges 19, and Romans 1.
Romans 16

17Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them.

We are known by others by the friends we spend time with. Right or wrong, people who know that your friends are queer will wonder if you are too. You may end up with a false reputation that's based solely on your associations.
Mature adults realize from experience that sodomites don't just have an attraction to other dudes, they have multiple moral problems that hurt those who they are close to and even interact with normally in life in general.

This is something you want to keep in mind with other friends too. When you notice an attractive girl that's popular with the guys, you might want to ask yourself why.
If she has a reputation of physical relationships or talks about it, don't waste your time with her in a school study group. Even if you are just friends, she will needlessly burden your life because of her lack of character in other parts of life.

Example:
I've been interested in ladies who seemed modest and Christian. Then I considered them as a candidate for marriage and eventually saw them flirting with the guys. I don't want someone who's playing the field and desires the football team for a wife! A person who shows those traits in public will definitely cheat on you as soon as she has opportunities.
The other guys can see what it's like to enjoy diseases that make their junk die. They can marry them and "enjoy" what it's like to have their life savings and house stolen while a judge makes takes their pay.

I'm just talking as one man to another.
God's Word is God's will.
What I'm sharing with you is what every teen needs to learn NOW.
God's way is the only way and we are to have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness.
I'm taking valuable time from my lunch because I wish I had someone tell me so much when I was a young man. I'm not old yet but have had enough experience with daily school and business interactions with many.
That's not a luxury you get from youth, so I am sharing my own out of true Christian compassion.
I hope this answers your question. If not, I'll try to get back later.

Have a great week!
📖😎👍🏻
Ill try to read the whole thing later. thanks. Actually They have been friends before I knew this.
 
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Ill try to read the whole thing later. thanks. Actually They have been friends before I knew this.

I know what you mean bro.
Same here about friends who were in the closet. When I am in a hurry, I get to the point in a forthright way. I mean it as a number of life principles on the subject rather than a personal judgement.
Later
 
I just re-joined a social network and basically everyone is a part of the LBGTQ+ community and I asked a few people from my mom's church and they all said 'absolutely not'

I just re-joined a social network and basically everyone is a part of the LBGTQ+ community and I asked a few people from my mom's church and they all said 'absolutely not'

I'd like an explanation as to why if it's true tbh

Aside from my parents, it was one coworker who made a difference in the quality of my life. What we shared made a huge difference. The biggest.
It occurred in May, 1982. Houston, Texas. I’ll remember that date. She mentioned her committment of making a difference in the lives in the LGBT community.
Back then I wasn’t quite clear what LGBT was all about. When we were together, gay never showed up. Our relationship was about other things. I
don’t remember her name. I think I remember her face. What I got will never be forgotten. Anyhow, if you’re going to mingle in that community, make a distinction between the flagwaves and the flagships and see what you come up with. Gay or not, she’ll live in a sea storm of sin. I don’t do gay and I don’t do sea storm. I’m grateful there’s somebody else out there who feels safe in that flood.


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This is not your situation but I normally go into enough details with young adults so they can understand WHY we should choose friends wisely according to the Bible.

Why are people LGBTQP, etc ?

In some cases there's inappropriate behaviors brought on by molesters in a child's life as we see in the news as well as implied in the Bible.
Most Christians never imagined that American society would become so depraved that they would permit public schools and libraries to invite twisted male perverts dressed up in women's clown outfits for the purpose of persuading children to become the same. It's not always as overt as this, but it's typical in secret.

The poor children don't have a chance when their own families or foster parents are manipulating them to become what God never designed. Some force children to become addicted to hormones that God intended for the strength of marriage between one man and woman for life.yup. its a dark world.

These children's only hope is to have a believer lead them to Christ. That's why I find it so important that believers with the love of Christ reach their communities and invite them to Church, Vacation Bible Schools. They should ACTUALLY take the effort to learn how to present the true gospel clearly and lead them in prayer. None of that "ask Jesus into your heart and call them saved." They need the gospel instead. See This YouTube video
For more on that, check my many posts where I lead others to Christ.
yup, I participate in youth ministries, and I certainly hope i have helped children to be bumped the right way.

Not all of them are young victims of statutory rape as Sodomites have> Earned a reputation < for committing. Most are those that Romans chapter ones devoted many details describing. I don't have time to cover the chapter now. Go to the King James Bible to read about it because it doesn't sugar coat and make Sodomy out to be an optional alternative lifestyle.
Sodom, Genesis chapter 19, is a BIword for a city of people that God justly rained fire and brimstone down upon. It continues to be mentioned frequently into the New Testament for our admonition.
That means that we are supposed to learn from the major example God gave of them. We should also read Judges chapter 19 on the subject. I have.In my experience, on the surface the adult LGBTQPs seem nice enough. However, in my experience as time goes on they always committed unacceptably immoral actions in business, school and family. I'm talking about the gross lack of character traits of someone who you would not want to spend time with. Sometimes you have to interact on a professional level on the job, but I learned that I must set big boundaries for any other interactionsI underatand this, however, I do not think that is the case with her. (you may already be aware but keep in mind that my life calling is as a single missionary.)
Why?

Given enough time, they proved in every case that I can no longer associate with them unless I:

Want to be frequently lied to...
Want to be stolen from....
Want to be stabbed in the back with false accusations called slander, gossip and maligning....
Want to be harmed physically by their violence.....
Want to defend against their sexual advances.....
Want to have to deal with their drama on the job.....
Want to defend against their murderous attempts.

Note that none of us want that.
That's one reason they demand special status / special treatment in our wicked country.
I do Not Want to be around people who are described in detail in Genesis 19, Judges 19, and Romans 1.
Romans 16

17Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them.

We are known by others by the friends we spend time with. Right or wrong, people who know that your friends are queer will wonder if you are too. You may end up with a false reputation that's based solely on your associations.
Mature adults realize from experience that sodomites don't just have an attraction to other dudes, they have multiple moral problems that hurt those who they are close to and even interact with normally in life in general.

This is something you want to keep in mind with other friends too. When you notice an attractive girl that's popular with the guys, you might want to ask yourself why.
If she has a reputation of physical relationships or talks about it, don't waste your time with her in a school study group. Even if you are just friends, she will needlessly burden your life because of her lack of character in other parts of life.

Example:
I've been interested in ladies who seemed modest and Christian. Then I considered them as a candidate for marriage and eventually saw them flirting with the guys. I don't want someone who's playing the field and desires the football team for a wife! A person who shows those traits in public will definitely cheat on you as soon as she has opportunities.
The other guys can see what it's like to enjoy diseases that make their junk die. They can marry them and "enjoy" what it's like to have their life savings and house stolen while a judge makes takes their pay.

I'm just talking as one man to another.
God's Word is God's will.
What I'm sharing with you is what every teen needs to learn NOW.
God's way is the only way and we are to have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness.
I'm taking valuable time from my lunch because I wish I had someone tell me so much when I was a young man. I'm not old yet but have had enough experience with daily school and business interactions with many.
That's not a luxury you get from youth, so I am sharing my own out of true Christian compassion.
I hope this answers your question. If not, I'll try to get back later.

Have a great week!
📖😎👍🏻

Im going to just take notes in bold for thisone, with the understanding that this is mostly generalized.

more later
 
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I probably didn't need to take a simple question and respond with a short book or written sermon.
I'm glad to hear that you are reading the Word.

There's a lot of confusion and trends now. It seems like that issue has become a trend for the more impressionable to be accepted by that crowd. There's probably some who claim to be LGBT...who really aren't. I hope you will see good results leading your friends to Christ.
Romans 1:16
 
Most gay people are nice people, but they do not like religion most of the time. I would make friends with someone gay.
 
I just re-joined a social network and basically everyone is a part of the LBGTQ+ community and I asked a few people from my mom's church and they all said 'absolutely not'

I'd like an explanation as to why if it's true tbh

excerpt:
The Bible records that Jesus ate with sinners, which led to criticism from religious leaders who saw these individuals as unclean. Examples include Jesus dining with tax collectors and other sinners at the home of Matthew (Levi), and with Zacchaeus. Jesus defended his actions by stating, "Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick" and that he "came not to call the righteous, but sinners". He saw his mission as one of mercy, forgiveness, and healing for those who were spiritually "sick"

What is not condone is taking a liking to their way of thinking, which will lead to their way of behaving.
Having on the mind of Christ while among them does not make their sins yours. They have enough to contend with much-less having 'holy rollers' condemning them over errant interpretations of scriptures.

Psalm 23:4
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; For You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.

Exalt them in mercy and kindness and God will reward you X-times more.
 
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