For example, when I spoke to several local pastors and mentioned the Old Testament, they immediately started by implying the Old Testament was when God was angry and stern. When I read the Old Testament, I get the impression God was VERY loving, forgiving, and heart hurt. He reached out his hand over and over even when we (mankind) turned our backs to Him, betrayed Him, and disrespected Him. How could I ask for spiritual guidance from someone (a pastor) who so totally misinterpreted God's word? Or am I the one that has misinterpreted God's word?
None of us know it all, so I don't like to presume about people who I don't know. However, I have interacted with a lot of pastors who hold to a view that is similar to your experiences. If your experience with them is similar to mine in many cases, you rightly judged the pastors to either be ignorant (without adequate knowledge) of the Bible to rightly understand and teach the Bible. In that case they are incompetent and unfit to represent the Lord in that ministry.
On the other hand, If they know the Bible, but choose to misrepresent the Lord, then they are wicked and not worthy of your time, especially since they wilfully mislead. Jesus rebuked those kind of Jewish preachers while on earth. His disciples warned against them in the Epistles.
God's attributes are demonstrated and described in detail from Genesis to Revelation. God is often gracious, expressing love, mercy and kindness to His people. When they do things that anger Him, like worship the Devil, He expressed His wrath. He's not inclined to show His Loving kindness to those who disregard Him to sacrifice children to the Devil any more than a parent would if some wicked person did this to their own family. You will find fake preachers who twist the Scriptures both ways.
Here is a very clear OT passage from Exodus 34 where you see the attributes of the righteous, holy, merciful God that is the same in the NT.
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4And he hewed two tables of stone like unto the first; and Moses rose up early in the morning, and went up unto mount Sinai, as the LORD had commanded him, and took in his hand the two tables of stone. 5And the LORD descended in the cloud, and stood with him there, and proclaimed the name of the LORD. 6And the LORD passed by before him, and proclaimed, The LORD, The LORD God, merciful and gracious, longsuffering, and abundant in goodness and truth, 7Keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, and that will by no means clear the guilty...
14For thou shalt worship no other god: for the LORD, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God: 15Lest thou make a covenant with the inhabitants of the land, and they go a whoring after their gods, and do sacrifice unto their gods, and one call thee, and thou eat of his sacrifice; 16And thou take of their daughters unto thy sons, and their daughters go a whoring after their gods, and make thy sons go a whoring after their gods."
Matthew 7:21-23 God does not know those kind of preachers, so you need to pray and seek out someone who will provide spiritual food for you and your daughter while leading others
To Christ.< I believe He will guide you just as He led me to those verses in Exodus 34 just now. It sounds like you are already beginning that search.
May He fill your heart's desire.


