Indecision issues 🤷🏻♀️
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Hi miokyyy! Do you have any idea why you are so indecisive? Like, what goes through your head when you have to make a decision, do you worry that you'll make the wrong choice? Were you criticized a lot at some point in your life? That can make it easy to second-guess yourself 
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I find it helps to ask The Holy Spirit to fill you and guide you, the Bible calls Him The Comforter who will lead us into all truth. God bless!
. I find it helps to ask The Holy Spirit to fill you and guide you, the Bible calls Him The Comforter who will lead us into all truth. God bless!
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Hi miokyyy! Do you have any idea why you are so indecisive? Like, what goes through your head when you have to make a decision, do you worry that you'll make the wrong choice? Were you criticized a lot at some point in your life? That can make it easy to second-guess yourself .
I find it helps to ask The Holy Spirit to fill you and guide you, the Bible calls Him The Comforter who will lead us into all truth. God bless!
.I find it helps to ask The Holy Spirit to fill you and guide you, the Bible calls Him The Comforter who will lead us into all truth. God bless!
Thank you very much for your answer. Great questions!!
I think it's more about fear of making errors when it comes to decisions.
Yes, i think there is something related to performance where i had to always be a "perfect" person.
Yes, I'll do that and try to find my security in God
Thanks
Blessings!
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Something else that might help. Psalm 119:105 teaches that God's word is a lamp unto our feet and a light unto our path.
So a few things about this...
We aren't actually expected to make decisions so much as learn from God what He would have us do.
If you've ever seen a foot lamp you would know that it doesn't light up an entire area. Instead, it only lights enough so you know where to take the next step.
Why would God set things up this way? Because God isn't so interested in decisions as much as He is in a relationship with you. Decisions are simply a means to this end. As decisions need to be made, you are able to turn to God in prayer and in His word and be directed by Him, all the while interacting with Him and growing in your knowledge and experience of Him.
This is what you were created for.
Read the story of Abraham. God came to him and told him to leave his family without telling him where he was going. God later came and told him what to do next.
He will do the same with you. And as He does, you will learn to walk by faith, and not by sight. And, like Abraham, God will be your reward as well.
So a few things about this...
We aren't actually expected to make decisions so much as learn from God what He would have us do.
If you've ever seen a foot lamp you would know that it doesn't light up an entire area. Instead, it only lights enough so you know where to take the next step.
Why would God set things up this way? Because God isn't so interested in decisions as much as He is in a relationship with you. Decisions are simply a means to this end. As decisions need to be made, you are able to turn to God in prayer and in His word and be directed by Him, all the while interacting with Him and growing in your knowledge and experience of Him.
This is what you were created for.
Read the story of Abraham. God came to him and told him to leave his family without telling him where he was going. God later came and told him what to do next.
He will do the same with you. And as He does, you will learn to walk by faith, and not by sight. And, like Abraham, God will be your reward as well.
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I was actually just addressing this with my mom who is facing a hard decision on her finances.
Basically, as the Bible says, we can't change things by worrying. Therefore I counseled my mom to make the best decision she can and trust God with the rest. Even if she were to make a poor decision, worrying would not help the situation, but rather just add problems. It isn't that we can't make poor decisions that have negative consequences, but so long as we are giving it an honest effort, God is there to keep things from being catastrophic. After all, life is about learning and that requires the opportunity to make mistakes. Remember: Perfection is the goal; failure is the means.
Matthew 6:27 NASB1995
"And who of you by being worried can add a single hour to his life?"
Basically, as the Bible says, we can't change things by worrying. Therefore I counseled my mom to make the best decision she can and trust God with the rest. Even if she were to make a poor decision, worrying would not help the situation, but rather just add problems. It isn't that we can't make poor decisions that have negative consequences, but so long as we are giving it an honest effort, God is there to keep things from being catastrophic. After all, life is about learning and that requires the opportunity to make mistakes. Remember: Perfection is the goal; failure is the means.
Matthew 6:27 NASB1995
"And who of you by being worried can add a single hour to his life?"
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Yes, have kids. You will have to get over it and make a lot of decisions quickly.. 😆
Seriously though I struggled with this... more so when I was younger though. I have adhd and it stems from that in my opinion. Bc most people don't care to ponder about every little thing. These are things that helped me.
1. Done is better than perfect.
2. Confidence in my choices- Confidence is actually self trust. If increases with experience and especially believing God is with us.
3. Simplifying- think of things as inventory. Too much inventory is impossible to keep track of.
4. Less stress- making too many decisions, too often gives decision fatigue. We have too many decisions to make everyday. It's not possible to get it all done. Pick 3 things for the day.
5. Eat the frog- I think that's the saying lol wake up early and finish your most important tasks first. Giving your best self to yourself so you can think clearer.
6. Organize things- keep notes is an app you can brain dump and organize things you need. You can save locations on maps on your phone. (Favorite restaurants, favorite parks, favorite places to go, etc.) You'll have a list to pick through instead of it being so open ended which makes it easier to decide. Write your favorite recipes down. Do pickup for groceries, it saves your recent items to reorder essentials.
Hope that helps. 🙂 It gets better with age I think.
Seriously though I struggled with this... more so when I was younger though. I have adhd and it stems from that in my opinion. Bc most people don't care to ponder about every little thing. These are things that helped me.
1. Done is better than perfect.
2. Confidence in my choices- Confidence is actually self trust. If increases with experience and especially believing God is with us.
3. Simplifying- think of things as inventory. Too much inventory is impossible to keep track of.
4. Less stress- making too many decisions, too often gives decision fatigue. We have too many decisions to make everyday. It's not possible to get it all done. Pick 3 things for the day.
5. Eat the frog- I think that's the saying lol wake up early and finish your most important tasks first. Giving your best self to yourself so you can think clearer.
6. Organize things- keep notes is an app you can brain dump and organize things you need. You can save locations on maps on your phone. (Favorite restaurants, favorite parks, favorite places to go, etc.) You'll have a list to pick through instead of it being so open ended which makes it easier to decide. Write your favorite recipes down. Do pickup for groceries, it saves your recent items to reorder essentials.
Hope that helps. 🙂 It gets better with age I think.
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