I'm Really a Nice Person Until....(what gets your goat)?
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Which level are we taking this to? Things that make us stop actively being nice to someone, or things that make us START being actively against someone?
If it's the first, my list is quite long. I don't have time to spend on anybody who is rude, vapid, vain, inconsiderate, the list goes on and on. All I can think of when I'm around those people is that old xkcd cartoon: "You were once shoved head-first through someone's vagina. Why are you acting all stuck-up?"
If it's the second, the list has only one entry: My claws don't come out until someone attacks someone else who didn't deserve being attacked. Then I have no compunction about doing anything I deem necessary to the attacker.
If it's the first, my list is quite long. I don't have time to spend on anybody who is rude, vapid, vain, inconsiderate, the list goes on and on. All I can think of when I'm around those people is that old xkcd cartoon: "You were once shoved head-first through someone's vagina. Why are you acting all stuck-up?"
If it's the second, the list has only one entry: My claws don't come out until someone attacks someone else who didn't deserve being attacked. Then I have no compunction about doing anything I deem necessary to the attacker.
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Hey Tabin,
What a great thread and thanks for the shout out, lol.
I just happen to have an entire flock of goats, and probably the number one thing that sets them all a bleating would be when humble people are made fun of for something that they earnestly struggle with or isn't their fault.
I've been blessed to know people from all different backgrounds who have been made fun of and criticized for everything under the sun: too thin, too fat, too poor, too rich, look a certain way, don't look a certain way, from a certain family (pastor's kid, for example,) not from the right family, from a certain race (or races,) not from a certain race, in a certain profession, not in a certain profession, too Christian, not Christian enough, etc. -- and the list goes on and on. It especially bothers me when it happens within the church.
When I was younger, I carried a lot of anger from various events in my life, and to be honest, I don't really think of myself as a nice person.
Rather, I hold a lot in and see it more as a matter of, "How long can I stay civilized in this situation?" My problem is that I can only hold it in for so long, and when I do wind up exploding, people act like it came out of nowhere because they don't realize that it's building up like a pressure cooker and I'm just trying harder and harder to stuff it down. Then I get mad because I feel like they don't really know me and have no clue that I've been catering to them almost the entire time, then I get mad at MYSELF for not trying to set boundaries in the first place.
These days, I do everything I can to try to just leave the situation before I literally burst out of control (which is why I love the forums -- I can just shut down my laptop before anything hits critical level.)
Well... at least... Sometimes.
What a great thread and thanks for the shout out, lol.
I just happen to have an entire flock of goats, and probably the number one thing that sets them all a bleating would be when humble people are made fun of for something that they earnestly struggle with or isn't their fault.
I've been blessed to know people from all different backgrounds who have been made fun of and criticized for everything under the sun: too thin, too fat, too poor, too rich, look a certain way, don't look a certain way, from a certain family (pastor's kid, for example,) not from the right family, from a certain race (or races,) not from a certain race, in a certain profession, not in a certain profession, too Christian, not Christian enough, etc. -- and the list goes on and on. It especially bothers me when it happens within the church.
When I was younger, I carried a lot of anger from various events in my life, and to be honest, I don't really think of myself as a nice person.
Rather, I hold a lot in and see it more as a matter of, "How long can I stay civilized in this situation?" My problem is that I can only hold it in for so long, and when I do wind up exploding, people act like it came out of nowhere because they don't realize that it's building up like a pressure cooker and I'm just trying harder and harder to stuff it down. Then I get mad because I feel like they don't really know me and have no clue that I've been catering to them almost the entire time, then I get mad at MYSELF for not trying to set boundaries in the first place.
These days, I do everything I can to try to just leave the situation before I literally burst out of control (which is why I love the forums -- I can just shut down my laptop before anything hits critical level.)
Well... at least... Sometimes.
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I would say something that bothers me is lazy and entitled people. Also people who can't drive. Most times just shrug it off and give them to God. But do have a few at my work that make my brain twitch. So thankfully I am able to wear earbuds. Best negative blocker there is .I find most that have something to say are miserable human beings and mainly do not like themselves sadly. I am always polite either way. But do tell myself I do not live with this person thank you Lord!
.I find most that have something to say are miserable human beings and mainly do not like themselves sadly. I am always polite either way. But do tell myself I do not live with this person thank you Lord!-
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