Not much. He was unprepared to listen to you. It is sad, but you did what you could.
I'm in a quandry
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I agree, I am doing that. I wish him the best.
I am going to recommend a marriage counsellor too, when (or if) he starts complaining at me again. I am too worn out with it.
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there's that old saying
if you keep doing the same things you will keep getting the same results
he's gotta see if for himself
if you keep doing the same things you will keep getting the same results
he's gotta see if for himself
Well, Demi777, as much as I would like to do the "I told ya so" it wouldn't solve anything. My plan is to tell him to go seek professional help.
I am so done with trying to encourage and help, only to have it ignored. Pray for me Demi777, I need it!
It was Kenny Rogers who once said, "you gotta know when to walk away, know when to run".. You need to walk away. This person isn't gonna listen to you, he's determined to do what he wants and consequences be darned..
I'm with ya! Like Demi777's encouragement, sweep the dust off the feet and move on. He's still a friend, but he has to learn....thanks for your feedback! very blessed to receive it!
Experience is the best teacher. Your friend is not learning from his own experiences.
Why do you think words would work?
He should have dated her longer and see if they connect, of course praying for the soul mate would have been his best bet, but then doesn't sound like he listens to reasoning, let him figure it out, sounds like he falls in love too fast, that isn't real love, he sounds like he just wants to be married, let him work it all out its his life, tell him you will pray for him and that's about all he seems to allow you to do, we do learn from our mistakes.
It is better to lay down the phone and walk away. Where does he look for a wife? At church? Maybe he is not looking in the right place.
I know a person who looked for a mate in a mental institution. He wondered why it did not work out. The next one He found at Church, they have been married for over 30 years now.
Some guys learn the hard way. The ink was dry on my divorce degree for 18 years before I remarried. Marry in haste, repent in leisure. My mom told me that before my first marriage. Now I am not saying I made a hasty decision but it certainly was an unwise one. Regarding my first marriage, I really regret only one day of it and that one day is the day of the wedding.
I am at a point now where I just do not want to be a dumping ground for his misery. He has been married now for about six weeks, and he is starting in again about *stuff*. I told him last time he spoke to me that he needs to find professional help to bring his problems to...don't know if he will, but...
Yep, that is a good idea...seems He tests me in this area a lot. maybe I need to be more patient!!!!
Hahaha... Yeah, praying for patience brings you trouble, I think that is what TheLearner was thinking.
I forgot my scripture.
James 1:2, 3 "My brothers, count it all joy when you fall into different kinds of temptations, knowing that the trying of your faith works patience."
I learn some lessons quickly, some...well....not so quickly!
I need to remember to ask the Lord during those trying times what it is He wants to teach me.
I don't do that enough I guess. maybe I need to ask what I am to learn when dealing with my quandary.
Some people just wont listen, or use common sense. A friend of mine is so needy with wanting a woman, he makes a fool of himself. And I have told him more then once, but no avail.