If You Were to Close Your CC Account and Come Back as Another Name, What Would Be the Reasons Why?

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seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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Whenever/if Live comes back to this site, he will always say it's for purposes of reconciliation and ministry.

The problem is, his idea of doing this is trying to force himself back into the lives of the women he's contacted before who are obviously saying, "No, thank you," or, he's looking for more women to "minister" to the same way.

Please be aware and take care of yourself, and don't be afraid to reach out for help if needed.
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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HeIsHere said:
Well it states "user profile not available" which means not guest.

Having experienced this in real life, this "slow burn abuse" wrapped up in a religious veneer, it a very sound warning.
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Now I know without a doubt that it was God telling me to keep my contact with him public -- and I advise anyone he contacts, especially women, to do the same.

Spiritual abuse is never talked about in the church.

But it is very real, and extremely emotionally destructive, because you're always told you're not just wrong, but sinning against the Lord.
 
HeIsHere

HeIsHere

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seoulsearch said:
Now I know without a doubt that it was God telling me to keep my contact with him public -- and I advise anyone he contacts, especially women, to do the same.

Spiritual abuse is never talked about in the church.

But it is very real, and extremely emotionally destructive, because you're always told you're not just wrong, but sinning against the Lord.
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When you see "user not available" they are not supposed to come back.

Agree, that is another tactic they use, have one off conversations so they cannot be held to account, you are a very wise women. :);)
 
HopeinHim98

HopeinHim98

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It's sad cuz he has a lot of good points and can be so nice. It's crazy how he can go from that to the almost narcissistic behavior so quickly. And he claims he's being calm thru it all, like everyone else is to blame, but how can he not see how destructive his behavior is?

@seoulsearch, thank you so much for speaking out.
 
HeIsHere

HeIsHere

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HopeinHim98 said:
It's sad cuz he has a lot of good points and can be so nice. It's crazy how he can go from that to the almost narcissistic behavior so quickly. And he claims he's being calm thru it all, like everyone else is to blame, but how can he not see how destructive his behavior is?

@seoulsearch, thank you so much for speaking out.
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Narcissists do not really have good points, it is a charade to gain a person's confidence, they are very calculating.
 
Mem

Mem

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seoulsearch said:
To the ladies who have been brave enough to share, thank you.

I appreciate not looking like the only one -- or like I'm just making things up.
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This reminds me of the time, when I was a fairly new member, I used this picture as my avatar...

and it wasn't long before I received a pm questioning my intelligence and sensibility in using a Jewish something-something man as my avatar. I remember looking at the username twice, maybe again, and remember thinking that he 'looked' like a nice enough member... but obviously, the joke had flown clear over his head so, I refrained from reply.
 
LifelongLearner

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A not easy staying asleep night for me, read a little of the recent discussion, don't want to say too much but will throw my two bobsworth in. Had a surprising to me recent experience, which has actually taught me some useful stuff about how the world's nervous breakdown back in '20, is impacting people. Spoiler: Think the nervous breakdown is permanent and will only worsen.

Build back better, the new normal etc are all titles for what the powers that shouldn't be thought they'd trained us well enough to accept, when they crashed the old normal. It ain't coming back and really believe things will only worsen, know there's a scripture which says something like men will become faint out of fear, which is exactly what's happening.

Had a recent nasty experience, where a sad person/people trolled and flamed me on a thread of mine. Think that's what's happened on your thread Seoul too, not as bad as on mine but similar. Really think people are just so lost, frightened and confused with all the pooh going down, they're becoming irrational and losing their grip on what actually makes them human. Personally think the only way is down for the current system, just know the Lord knows the perfect time to step in and sort it all out.

The end could be a long time in the offing, we don't know but i'm really beginning to understand the opening to Charles Dickens book, A Tale of Two Cities: https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/A_Tale_of_Two_Cities
 
Tazzo

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StillLiving4Him said:
Far from causing trouble, I have actively sought reconciliation for almost 3 years now. She refuses to forgive. You know what Jesus taught about that, don't you?
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If I remember correctly, Jesus also never asked us to ask for forgiveness from others, He said to forgive.
So, should it not be your job to forgive too, not to ask to be forgiven by others? Whatever you are asking of them, forgive them instead.
If you feel like someone can't forgive or whatever you wish from them, you forgive them (for not doing as you wish) in your mind and move on. That will give you peace.


You can not force someone to do as you wish or hope them to do. It is not your job to do or to keep on pestering it to happen if you have already once asked. You can forgive, pray, and move on.
 
LifelongLearner

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Mem said:
This reminds me of the time, when I was a fairly new member, I used this picture as my avatar...

and it wasn't long before I received a pm questioning my intelligence and sensibility in using a Jewish something-something man as my avatar. I remember looking at the username twice, maybe again, and remember thinking that he 'looked' like a nice enough member... but obviously, the joke had flown clear over his head so, I refrained from reply.
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Ooh! Is that Jerry Lewis? :)
 
Kainos

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seoulsearch said:
This. Is. Exactly. The. Pattern. that started with me, and that I have heard about repeatedly.

*Compliment or expression of appreciation* immediately followed by, "but I expected better from you... but I'm disappointed that you..."
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His disappointment in me is inconsequential. All I know is, I would be disappointed in myself, if I were him.

I can only read between the lines, but he seems butthurt over some people knocking back his approach and taking their nibbles from someone else's table.

The message of Christ is one to fit all, but there isn't a one fits all approach to conveying that message. The most effective fishermen come to understand which lure to use in which situations.

In that light, it should be no biggie when someone passes up our approach, in preference to what a third party has to offer. Beyond everything, we're all members of the same house.

Think no more about it, and enjoy your greener pasture, with those who share your rapport (y)
 
HeIsHere

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Kainos said:
All I know is, I would be disappointed in myself, if I were him.
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That would not fit the personality profile... this is not a "typical" situation of a person with some character flaws.

Yes, a Christian, or even a typical person would and should feel personal disappointment.
If you have ever seen the movie "Gaslight" a movie classic, it explains it perfectly.

While it is easy to state "move on" it is often easier said then done depending how much connection one has built with a person with this "profile."
Also more sensitive people will also be more affected.
Just some insight from someone has "been there and done that."
 
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HeIsHere said:
That would not fit the personality profile... this is not a "typical" situation of a person with some character flaws.

Yes a Christian, or even a typical person would and should feel personal disappointment.
If you have ever seen the movie "Gaslight" a movie classic, it explains it perfectly.
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You must first know your wrong to fix something. True Crazy people never know they are crazy it alway other people that are wrong.
 
Kainos

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HeIsHere said:
That would not fit the personality profile... this is not a "typical" situation of a person with some character flaws.

Yes a Christian, or even a typical person would and should feel personal disappointment.
If you have ever seen the movie "Gaslight" a movie classic, it explains it perfectly.
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I appreciate that many of you have seen more iterations of his persona than you can shake a stick at.

I'll be more guarded in future.
 
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