If You Were to Close Your CC Account and Come Back as Another Name, What Would Be the Reasons Why?

[StillLiving4Him]

@Kainos

Btw, here is the post from 2 years and 9 months ago which has caused all of the contention:

P.S.

I probably shouldn't add this, but I will.

Just so you know that you truly haven't run me off with your comments here, I will let you know that you were very much a part of the reason why I left this website my first time through here as "Live4Him". Not that you committed some great offense, but more so in the sense that you disappointed me, and it was kind of a "last straw" for me in that I felt that you were one of the few bright spots here at that time.

By "disappointed", I mean that I felt then, and probably still do now, that you have a lot more to offer from a scriptural standpoint than you normally offer here. Anyhow, that's just my own personal observation/assessment, and although you might take it negatively, it could also be seen as a positive or a bit of a nudge to share more of God's word here.

That's your call. At my end, I'm just being my usual honest self...even if you think I'm honestly wrong.

As you should notice, it was a P.S. that was added hastily to a post, and I did rightly (especially in hindsight) start it by saying "I probably shouldn't add this, but I will."

I later honestly tried to explain my intent here:

Call me a glutton for punishment, but, now that some time has passed, I'll say the following...

If you go back and reread what I actually said, then I think/hope that you'll realize that there was nothing truly offensive in my words at all.

Seeing how my "P.S." is what obviously caused the offense, I'll just quickly cover what I actually said and meant.

In relation to you being "very much a part of the reason why I left this website my first time through here as 'Live4Him'" or the "last straw", I deliberately and honestly told you "NOT that you committed some great offense, but more so in the sense that you disappointed me". Don't miss the "NOT that you committed some great offense" part because what little of your response that I read seemed to indicate that you thought I was highly offended with you and highly offensive towards you, and nothing could be further from the truth in that neither were what I actually felt or intended.

I then went on to explain exactly what my "disappointment" was, and a "disappointment" is basically a nonfulfillment of one's hopes.

And what was my hope?

That you'd become like me?

No, not at all.

As I said, "you were one of the few BRIGHT SPOTS here at that time".

Not a DARK CLOUD, but a BRIGHT SPOT.

How so?

Because, unlike most people here whose posts I've read who quote scripture, I felt as if you were handling God's word rightly when you did share it, and I therefore hoped that you would share more of it.

Is it such a horrible thing for a Christian man who absolutely loves God's word and people to desire to see God's word shared rightly with others?

That's honestly all that I was referring to.

Nothing about NOT showing humanity to others, but simply a desire to see you share more of God's word which is not only incorruptible seed, but also spirit and life.

Also, I wasn't talking about "bombarding" anyone with scripture in some inhumane manner as if I were Attila the Hun or something or advocating anything even remotely related to the same. No. Simply a verse here and there because God's word has tremendous potential healing power in it.

That's truly all that I was trying to say.

Anyhow, I figured that my comments would probably be misconstrued, and that is why I said that you'll probably see it as a negative, but it truly wasn't intended that way.

Of course, I fully expected for some others here to "pile on", and that came to fruition as well.

Anyhow, I'm NOT your enemy.

If you do choose to respond, then please just reread my post before you do. I wasn't seeking to condemn or judge you in the least. My first time through here (and my second and third?) was hardly a day at the beach. In fact, it was almost constant grief, and you were a BRIGHT SPOT. That's what I said.

For whatever that's worth.

Do you honestly believe that someone should "have caution" where I am concerned because I encouraged them to share more of God's word on a Christian forum?

Seriously, this whole thing is nuts.

 

[Kainos]

But I did no such thing. Instead, I honestly and plainly explained the true reasons for my comings and goings. Why is it that you and others do not believe a man who is telling the truth? Knowing me a little, do you honestly believe that I would lie before both God and men? If you do, then you do not know me at all. Nobody fears God more than I do. Nobody. As much as I do? Perhaps.

Your rationale for returning in this instance might well be true, I don't know your person well enough to say either way. But there has to be an overarching purpose that impels you to keep coming back. And I believe it to be reconciliation.

I do not deny that I was hoping for some sort of reconciliation before leaving here, but that is only possible if both parties are willing. At my end, I have honestly explained and apologized for my own wrongdoing which was basically a terribly worded post that got terribly misconstrued. I have no control of what the other party in any attempted reconciliation does. Why are your comments only directed towards me? Are you the aforementioned "impartial judge?" I have my doubts at the moment.

I directed my comments at you, because you're about to quit the forum. I'm not privy to what's gone on, and neither do I want to be, but I saw what you brought to the table, and got a measure of you from that.

 

[StillLiving4Him]

I like
Dark
Chocolate, cannot lie
Candy Crushers can't deny
Milk chocolate's sweet
A nice little treat
But dark is just more fly
You get hyper!
In a caffeine haze
Got energy for days
Don't care if it's orange or mint
Cocoa's gotta be 80%

I am normally not a fan of dark chocolate, but Mounds bars are definitely my favorite.

 

[StillLiving4Him]

But there has to be an overarching purpose that impels you to keep coming back. And I believe it to be reconciliation.

I am not exactly sure what you mean, but I can tell you, of a certainty, why I have come back several times in the past.

Again, I used to minister to people here privately who had some very deep wounds which needed a lot of time to heal, and that is one reason why I returned. In other words, to check up on how they were doing.

Another reason, which I have already stated, is because I spent probably a few years conversing with a highly-respected female member here (who everybody knows, and who will possibly read this thread some day if she has not already) via email in a totally platonic fashion, and her email account stopped working at some point in time. The only way that I knew to contact her was to come back here, become a paying member again, and to contact her via private messaging.

At other times, as I have also already stated, I simply came back here to copy a post of mine in order to post it elsewhere. Being the inquisitive type, I checked out the newbies threads and the prayer requests thread, and I was off and running again. In other words, I became a paying member again in order to potentially reach people with the gospel in some manner.

I mean, that is it. No secret plotting on my part. No hidden blueprint that I was following. It just happened. Anyhow, as an honest man, it does get quite tiring having to explain myself when I am guilty of nothing but telling the truth and trying to reach people with the gospel.

Now, let's see if someone can read anger or something into what I said calmly and matter-of-factly.

 

[Kainos]

@Kainos

Btw, here is the post from 2 years and 9 months ago which has caused all of the contention:
As you should notice, it was a P.S. that was added hastily to a post, and I did rightly (especially in hindsight) start it by saying "I probably shouldn't add this, but I will."

I later honestly tried to explain my intent here:
Do you honestly believe that someone should "have caution" where I am concerned because I encouraged them to share more of God's word on a Christian forum?

Seriously, this whole thing is nuts.

Respectfully, I'm not going to judge anyone for anything that took place that long ago. All I'm saying is, if reconciliation isn't possible, make your peace and hold to it.

Not all paths that cross are destined to be entwined, but that doesn't mean we won't be seeing the people we've split from somewhere down the road, ideally at the marriage supper of the Lamb.

 

[StillLiving4Him]

Respectfully, I'm not going to judge anyone for anything that took place that long ago. All I'm saying is, if reconciliation isn't possible, make your peace and hold to it.

Not all paths that cross are destined to be entwined, but that doesn't mean we won't be seeing the people we've split from somewhere down the road, ideally at the marriage supper of the Lamb.

When I mentioned an "impartial judge" earlier, I did not mean to imply that I was looking to judge anybody. I should have said "impartial mediator," so I apologize for that.

Regarding peace, I do truly have peace with God in this matter because he knows everything about me, what I said back then, why I actually said it, and that my apologies for wording it so poorly back then are sincere. It would be nice to have peace with the other party as well, and I certainly desire it, but it does not seem attainable at the moment. I have no control over that, so I will leave here content in knowing that at least I tried.

As far as the marriage supper of the Lamb is concerned, God knows that I hope that everyone here will be there one day. Should I make it, then I will be easily recognizable. Just look for the guy who is sitting by himself because other people are treating him "with caution."

Excuse my plainness of speech, but this whole thing is totally childish from my perspective. That it has gone on for so long would be laughable if it wasn't such a crying shame.

Anyhow, where are my executioners? Out sharpening the blade on the guillotine, I hope.

For whatever it is worth, I truly did enjoy our brief interactions here.

God bless you and yours.

 

[Kainos]

I am not exactly sure what you mean, but I can tell you, of a certainty, why I have come back several times in the past.

Again, I used to minister to people here privately who had some very deep wounds which needed a lot of time to heal, and that is one reason why I returned. In other words, to check up on how they were doing.

Another reason, which I have already stated, is because I spent probably a few years conversing with a highly-respected female member here (who everybody knows, and who will possibly read this thread some day if she has not already) via email in a totally platonic fashion, and her email account stopped working at some point in time. The only way that I knew to contact her was to come back here, become a paying member again, and to contact her via private messaging.

At other times, as I have also already stated, I simply came back here to copy a post of mine in order to post it elsewhere. Being the inquisitive type, I checked out the newbies threads and the prayer requests thread, and I was off and running again. In other words, I became a paying member again in order to potentially reach people with the gospel in some manner.

I mean, that is it. No secret plotting on my part. No hidden blueprint that I was following. It just happened. Anyhow, as an honest man, it does get quite tiring having to explain myself when I am guilty of nothing but telling the truth and trying to reach people with the gospel.

Now, let's see if someone can read anger or something into what I said calmly and matter-of-factly.

I understand, unfinished business is justification enough. I tie up loose ends or burn the bridge on exit, which means no going back. Sometimes I need reminding that's not always the done thing.

 

[StillLiving4Him]

Sometimes I need reminding that's not always the done thing.

Me too, and that certainly has an application here. In other words, whereas my detractors seek to portray me as someone who plots my exit while knowing that I will return one day, nothing could be further from the truth. Even with the people that I used to minister to, I honestly felt as if I had done all that I could do for them when I left, but it was by God's promptings that I returned to check up on them at times. I cannot speak for anybody else here, but I truly seek to obey God. Do I miss him at times? Unfortunately, yes, but my heart is always towards him AND PEOPLE. I added "and people" because if we truly love God, then we are going to love people as well.

 

[Kainos]

Me too, and that certainly has an application here. In other words, whereas my detractors seek to portray me as someone who plots my exit while knowing that I will return one day, nothing could be further from the truth. Even with the people that I used to minister to, I honestly felt as if I had done all that I could do for them when I left, but it was by God's promptings that I returned to check up on them at times. I cannot speak for anybody else here, but I truly seek to obey God. Do I miss him at times? Unfortunately, yes, but my heart is always towards him AND PEOPLE. I added "and people" because if we truly love God, then we are going to love people as well.

When misunderstandings and disagreements ain't nipped in the bud, they can grow a giant.

I doubt anyone is actively seeking to belittle your worth or cause. You've received some positive estimation as well as some criticism.

I wish you well, wherever and to whoever your ministry next takes you. Peace be with you, man

 

[StillLiving4Him]

2. This is something else that I wanted to say to you privately, but I obviously have no other choices but to say it publicly or to leave it unsaid. Although it was not in a "flirting" manner, you are one of my past experiments. In other words, I did post here very briefly under a different username in the past, and I honestly cannot recall what username that was, but I do recall that I had a watchman on a tower as my avatar. Seoul, you liked me, the real me, as that poster, and you even left me a rose emoji when I deactivated that account. Anyhow, I did not reveal my identity to you at that time because I felt bad about our previous disagreement/misunderstanding, and, if nothing else, I had the brief opportunity of being your friend, and not your enemy.

It took a while, but I found the post.

Aw, NotOnMyWatch, I enjoyed your posts and am sorry to see you go.

Hope to see you back soon. 🌹

Be careful what you hope for. lol.

 

[cinder]

You do realize this digging up of old posts and harboring resentments and offenses is like exactly the opposite of the forgiveness Jesus commands, right? Something about if you don't forgive others then your heavenly father won't forgive you. Might also mention that it's hard to believe your claims of goodness and spirituality when your public behavior is rather lacking in the fruit of the spirit.

 

[StillLiving4Him]

On a totally unrelated note, does anybody know what happened to Lanolin? Apparently, she has not posted here in a year, and she used to be a regular. Is she alive and well? I hope so.

 

[StillLiving4Him]

You do realize this digging up of old posts and harboring resentments and offenses is like exactly the opposite of the forgiveness Jesus commands, right? Something about if you don't forgive others then your heavenly father won't forgive you. Might also mention that it's hard to believe your claims of goodness and spirituality when your public behavior is rather lacking in the fruit of the spirit.

What I realize is that Seoul brought up that past experience, and I sought to address it privately with her in the hope of reconciliation...as Jesus instructed his disciples. You know, go to them FIRST before getting anybody else involved. Anyhow, if you were a true friend of Seoul, then your comments would have been directed towards her. After all, she is the one who is harboring unforgiveness in her heart...and for 2 years and 9 months to boot.

 

[Lynx]

What I realize is that Seoul brought up that past experience, and I sought to address it privately with her in the hope of reconciliation...as Jesus instructed his disciples. You know, go to them FIRST before getting anybody else involved. Anyhow, if you were a true friend of Seoul's, then your comments would have been directed towards her. After all, she is the one who is harboring unforgiveness in her heart...and for 2 years and 9 months to boot.

Seoulsearch is part of a WhatsApp chat group between a few of us old timers. Used to be a Skype chat group, but Skype is closing in May.

I can personally tell you, and I will swear it on a stack of Bibles if you need me to, that she does not gripe a lot about you in chat. She has other things to worry about. Mostly sweets and stuffed animals. Occasionally skin care issues.

In fact the only time you come up in chat at all is when you are actively causing trouble on the forum at that moment. I guarantee you, as soon as you leave again she will not be grumbling on and on about you. There is no profit in it, and she is logical enough to move on with her life and do something worthwhile.

(She will probably be talking about how her really annoying green owl wants me to give him a snack or something...)

 

[StillLiving4Him]

when you are actively causing trouble on the forum at that moment

Sounds like your resume to me, Lynx.

Far from causing trouble, I have actively sought reconciliation for almost 3 years now. She refuses to forgive. You know what Jesus taught about that, don't you?

Stop being a lap cat, and try being her true friend by telling her that she is wrong for harboring unforgiveness in her heart.

 

[Lynx]

Sounds like your resume to me, Lynx.

Far from causing trouble, I have actively sought reconciliation for almost 3 years now. She refuses to forgive. You know what Jesus taught about that, don't you?

Stop being a lap cat, and try being her true friend by telling her that she is wrong for harboring unforgiveness in her heart.

I am nobody's lap cat, neither do I lie. Especially to friends. So it is quite impossible for me to tell her that.

 

[Lynx]

Oh yeah, that's another hallmark of yours. We know it is you when you just do not give up on insisting that somebody owes you an apology. I'm not sure what it is about you and demanding apologies, but you're like a dog with an old bone. It is distinctive enough to remove any doubt of who is behind that new nickname, whatever it happens to be at any given time.

 

[Magenta]

Under one of your Living4Him names, you posted a long list of critiques of me, saying that my best course of action would be to follow all of your instructions -- which is perfectly fine. This is the internet, and that's to be expected. And I only mention this because it was in the public threads -- I wouldn't bring it up if it were in private.

But you also specifically stated that you would not listen to anything I had to say in return. Again, I understand this. That's why I love writing, and that's why I write threads that are meant to be interactive -- no one is trapped here, and people can walk away or ignore whatever segments they choose. But everyone can also choose to have a voice.

I remember that thread. He claimed you were the reason he was leaving, and part of his deception in
continuing to return and then leave again had little if nothing to do with his Biblical sharing, but his
totally unprovoked and vicious attacks on people. Which of course he never took responsibility for, and
still refuses to take responsibility for, because he sees himself as a cute and lovable puppy instead of the
snake in the grass that he really is. He probably needs to be on meds, or have them monitored better.
In fact, his propensity to exaggeration and delusional sense of self aggrandizement is almost breath-taking.
Every time he left he was never coming back he said. He said it so many times. Who believes him any more?

 

[RodB651]

A facepalm...

My kingdom for a facepalm! 😆

 

[Lynx]

A facepalm...

My kingdom for a facepalm! 😆

That's about what my kingdom, such as it is, is worth. So that sounds like a fair trade.