Other than telling you that I wasn't comfortable continuing the private conversation you started, I don't recall any accusations on my part 🤔.
But yes, I certainly believe that there are things about me that are not good. I think that's true for all of us. Part of our growth in Christ includes recognizing and working on those things so we can become more like He wants us to be. In fact, most of the threads I have started here are inspired by issues I have that I think God is telling me to work on. I've found the input and constructive criticism I've received through those threads to be incredibly helpful for my personal growth.
Anyways, I don't hold contempt for you, only caution. I honestly think you're a decent guy who generally means well 😎. I also think you've been hurt repeatedly throughout your past and that pain comes out in you interactions WAY more than you realize. It's not normal for a person to be as hyper-sensitive to even the slightest whiff of perceived criticism, it throws you into and extreme fight-mode that leaves the other person a bit shocked and confused. I truly, genuinely, DESPERATELY hope that you will at least poke into what might cause such a desperate reaction in you, because it will affect every close relationship you ever have.
Perhaps it was a critical or overbearing parent. Or maybe there was legit abuse in your past.....nobody fought for you, so you had to learn to fight for yourself. Maybe it was a coping mechanism that helped you survive. I do not know. But whatever caused it, it's time to work on healing it. I truly wish you the best in that endeavor, it will be hard but it will be worth it. 🙏
Best-
-Nichole
P.S. Please try to calm down and read this in the intent I am writing it, ya crackhead! 😜😉
But yes, I certainly believe that there are things about me that are not good. I think that's true for all of us. Part of our growth in Christ includes recognizing and working on those things so we can become more like He wants us to be. In fact, most of the threads I have started here are inspired by issues I have that I think God is telling me to work on. I've found the input and constructive criticism I've received through those threads to be incredibly helpful for my personal growth.
Anyways, I don't hold contempt for you, only caution. I honestly think you're a decent guy who generally means well 😎. I also think you've been hurt repeatedly throughout your past and that pain comes out in you interactions WAY more than you realize. It's not normal for a person to be as hyper-sensitive to even the slightest whiff of perceived criticism, it throws you into and extreme fight-mode that leaves the other person a bit shocked and confused. I truly, genuinely, DESPERATELY hope that you will at least poke into what might cause such a desperate reaction in you, because it will affect every close relationship you ever have.
Perhaps it was a critical or overbearing parent. Or maybe there was legit abuse in your past.....nobody fought for you, so you had to learn to fight for yourself. Maybe it was a coping mechanism that helped you survive. I do not know. But whatever caused it, it's time to work on healing it. I truly wish you the best in that endeavor, it will be hard but it will be worth it. 🙏
Best-
-Nichole
P.S. Please try to calm down and read this in the intent I am writing it, ya crackhead! 😜😉
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