I gave up on finding a mate.

[Gojira]

I didn't really see criticism for the other in your post. More an admission
that you are not in that place where you can see yourself content alone.

Sarcasm? Hmmm. Somewhat cynical and mildly derisive, sure.

Seems you both took what the other had to say to heart in areas you are hurting.

I pray healing for all.

Thank you.

 

[Magenta]

Thank you.

Hebrews 12:1-3
You are welcome... and thank you

 

[Gojira]

Hebrews 12:1-3
You are welcome... and thank you

Goodness.. for?

 

[Magenta]

Goodness.. for?

Being so honest

 

[Gojira]

Being so honest

Oh, well... I hate being phony, you know? Even if it gets me at odds with others.

 

[anne03]

There was no quote in your post. You'd do well to do that next time.

This is a sensitive subject for me, and frankly I felt judged by your post. I simply cannot be where you claim you are. I pray for it every day, but there are zones of spiritual maturity I simply have not entered, and until I do...

Putting you down? How so? Because I got sarcastic? I felt put down, and patronized, as if I were some young, idealistic person who'd never been married before. I know what works and I know what I want. If those desires are in conflict with God's will, then I pray He removes them.

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but desire fulfilled is a tree of life. (Proverbs 13:12)

I wish I could be like Christ, YOUR will be done... and mean it to the bottom of my heart. I am not there. Don't know if I ever will be in this body. So, unless that changes, certain desires I have for this life are going to be aches until fulfilled.

I've never said that "I WAS", you understood that because you felt triggered. That's exactly the reason why
James 1:19 says we should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,

 

[Gojira]

I've never said that "I WAS", you understood that because you felt triggered. That's exactly the reason why
James 1:19 says we should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,

I'll reread your post...

 

[Gojira]

I've never said that "I WAS", you understood that because you felt triggered. That's exactly the reason why
James 1:19 says we should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,

Re-read it... sorry, my comments stand. Your message was declarative all the way through (if that's the correct word). I.e., it sounded more like a lecture from an expert than from someone who was more on our level.

Nevertheless... being "triggered" or not, this is a sensitive topic for me. And, when people say the kinds of things you did, it's like taking that desire, crumbling it up and stepping on it. You probably never intended for that meaning, but that is how it looked/felt to me, and why I responded the way I did.

I re-read my posts multiple times before I send them. Still, I need to make corrections or clarifications sometimes. If you do not do that, it might help if you did.

 

[Lynx]

Like I said. That's just Gojira for you.

 

[Gojira]

Like I said. That's just Gojira.

Might help if you responded better than that, especially after I answered your critique quite directly.

 

[Gojira]

Aaaanyway... @Seeking-Christ , I feel you bro. I get it. We do need to get to that place where God is our one true love over all others. He needs to become the bright solar surface to the sunspots of our other desires. But, that is very high place to be, and I suspect that few, if any, ever make it to that level on this side of things.

So, while we can seek that 'north' as it were, we have to cope with our desires where they stand. All these stupid distractions aside in this thread, that is the question, and it is one I do not have a good answer for.

I do have many interests. My job sometimes keeps me busier than I can stand. But, none of that compensates for the lack of someone to wake up to every day. None of that compensates for the lack of a good sex life. None of that makes up for the fact that everything I do I do alone -- except when I'm in church, the gym or supermarket. But, even then, I'm alone.

I have no easy answer. Seek God every day. That's all we can do. Find secondary worldly pleasures and joys (by "worldly" I don't mean "sinful"). And, we can always console ourselves with the knowledge that this is not our permanent state.

 

[Gojira]

Addendum... @Seeking-Christ ... I will pray for your peace and joy in this life. I will pray for a great wife for you, but I'll also pray for contentment without one.

 

[anne03]

Re-read it... sorry, my comments stand. Your message was declarative all the way through (if that's the correct word). I.e., it sounded more like a lecture from an expert than from someone who was more on our level.

Nevertheless... being "triggered" or not, this is a sensitive topic for me. And, when people say the kinds of things you did, it's like taking that desire, crumbling it up and stepping on it. You probably never intended for that meaning, but that is how it looked/felt to me, and why I responded the way I did.

I re-read my posts multiple times before I send them. Still, I need to make corrections or clarifications sometimes. If you do not do that, it might help if you did.

My only intention in this post is to help Seeking-Christ, from a biblical perspective. I came to this forum to share about the bible not for personal discussions. Well, I hope it work out good for you.

 

[anne03]

Like I said. That's just Gojira for you.

I see, well my bible says I should not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, so I guess this our first and last interaction.

 

[Gojira]

My only intention in this post is to help Seeking-Christ, from a biblical perspective. I came to this forum to share about the bible not for personal discussions. Well, I hope it work out good for you.

You yourself have brought up very personal subjects, like your recent loneliness thread (which sort of comes at odds with some of your points in this thread, but that's another story).

You just don't like the way this particular thread went. But, you must come to know that interactions even with Christians is never going to be without bumps and potholes along the way. You tough it out, deal with it, and move on. If someone becomes simply impossible to deal with, then you can put them on ignore. Otherwise, you shake it off, and move on.

I've had some great, edifying convos here. I've had some run-ins. Two people I've put on ignore. But, I stick it out (here and in the real world), because there is no perfect alternative.

 

[Gojira]

I see, well my bible says I should not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, so I guess this our first and last interaction.

As you wish. The Bible also says that we ought to be reconciled to each other, since the nose cannot do without the eyes, etc. But, your choice.

 

[anne03]

You yourself have brought up very personal subjects, like your recent loneliness thread (which sort of comes at odds with some of your points in this thread, but that's another story).

You just don't like the way this particular thread went. But, you must come to know that interactions even with Christians is never going to be without bumps and potholes along the way. You tough it out, deal with it, and move on. If someone becomes simply impossible to deal with, then you can put them on ignore. Otherwise, you shake it off, and move on.

I've had some great, edifying convos here. I've had some run-ins. Two people I've put on ignore. But, I stick it out (here and in the real world), because there is no perfect alternative.

24 “‘“The Lord bless you
and keep you;
25 the Lord make his face shine on you
and be gracious to you;
26 the Lord turn his face toward you
and give you peace.”’

 

[anne03]

As you wish. The Bible also says that we ought to be reconciled to each other, since the nose cannot do without the eyes, etc. But, your choice.

24 And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.

 

[Gojira]

24 “‘“The Lord bless you
and keep you;
25 the Lord make his face shine on you
and be gracious to you;
26 the Lord turn his face toward you
and give you peace.”’

Why thank you. We all need that. You, me, everybody.

 

[Gojira]

24 And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.

I did teach, by showing you that cutting yourself off so soon because of one disagreement was not the most spiritual way to handle that. You seem unwilling to acknowledge that just maybe there's a splinter in your eye, too.