i know someone who has heard the gospel and doesn't believe it - how do i pray for their salvation?
do i ask God to save someone who doesn't believe?
do i ask God to intervene & cause them to believe?
do i ask God to stay out of it because God shouldn't interfere with human free will?
what do i do in love . . ?
That's a good question. In some sense we are asking God to change something about the persons will. Some say its monergistic and some will say it's synergistic. But whatever way, we are praying for God to do something to the will of the person. Open their eyes, renew their heart, open their ears to hear etc.
We are praying for God to free that person from the bondage of sin. So what ever way we look at it we are praying for God to act to save a person. We can't save ourselves that's for sure.
We all pray for God to intervene and save someone, and a big Amen to that. It's one of the greatest things we can do is pray for the salvation of others even though they naturally don't want it (Rom 3:11).
One thing we do know is this:
---The LORD saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every intention of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually. Gen 6:5
---But the things that proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and those defile the man. For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, slanders. Matt 15:18-19
So because we know of Christs saving work for us we pray this for others:
--I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. And I will put my Spirit in you and move you to follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws. Ezekiel 36:26-27
--For the sorrow that is according to the will of God produces a repentance without regret, leading to salvation, but the sorrow of the world produces death. 2 Cor 7:10
--Because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes and is justified, and with the mouth one confesses and is saved. Romans 10:9-10
I pray that God continues to change the hearts of men and women everywhere and in every time.