Holding a gruge

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I know holding a gruged is wrong, but when my mother left and went to move in with her new husband (who I don't like) she would hardly never call. Then he got in trouble and had to leave for a while.The I heard her talking on the phone with his sister's daughter. She is like nine or something and she was talking like hey how you doing, how was school, I love you, things she normally asks me. When she moved out and I had to live with my grandparents she never called or visited. And listening to that phone call I know why. She apparently didn't want to hear my voice she had already replaced me. I know it may not be the girl's fault, but I can't help but not be mad at her for acting like she is her daughter. And I know it is in the bible not to hold a gruged, but I can't help it how do you not hold a gruge?
 
Think about how much worse the situation could be. It's certainly a good thing that you have someone to be staying with! :)
It's a pretty dastardly thing that Mum's doing, but all YOU need to do is rememeber that the Bible says to love others no matter what. This will surely get you through the days.
 
Titania, I understand the feeling of being "replaced" in this context.

I had to some extent a similar situation with my grandfather on my mothers side of the family.

My grandmother on my mothers side of the family had died several years before I was born. So I never knew her.

My grandfather on my mothers side died in March of last year, due to a rejection of his newly transplanted heart, which he had recieved about a year earlier.

I never really knew my grandfather on my mothers side, because my entire life I have lived 3-6 hours away from him. Seeing as we aren't the richest family on the block, we only traveled to see the grandparents on both sides of my family on the big holidays, Christmas, and sometimes Thanksgiving.

I don't have any "joyous and precious" memories with my grandfather on my mothers side. His step-grandkids have that.

To keep this relatively short, when we got to the hotel the night of the funeral, I didn't cry until I knew everyone else was asleep, and it was merely tears. Not tears of sadness, but anger. I felt that something had been stolen from me. I had hoped to spend more time with my grandfather on my mothers side. Didn't happen. I later realized that the step-grandkids needed him much more than I did.

The step-grandkids (two of them) had some pretty bad parents. Their parents often would leave them at my grandparents house early in the morning (5am-7am) on Friday, and simply leave a note, "we don't want to see our kid until Monday when they get home from school."

There were many many things I consider to be deplorable that happened to that degree.

I think god does things like this, to get our attention. About 8 months ago or so, I realized I needed to spend some good quality time with my grandparents on my fathers side. Theres another story with that group.

I had asked my mother if I could spend a week or two this summer staying with my grandparents on my fathers side, she liked the idea, but didn't want me to go around harvest time. Which was when I wanted to go. About two weeks ago, my mother started talking about taking my brothers out there and we would all spend a week visiting and spending time with family and friends from the area. I was a bit unhappy about this, as I had planned to talk about some things with my grandparents without having my parents there.

I am sure god has planned it this way for a reason. I will only know when it happens.
 
Aww (:

It'll get easier.

&&& beau? Is that your signature yooh sweetiepieee?
 
Titania said:
I know holding a gruged is wrong, but when my mother left and went to move in with her new husband (who I don't like) she would hardly never call. Then he got in trouble and had to leave for a while.The I heard her talking on the phone with his sister's daughter. She is like nine or something and she was talking like hey how you doing, how was school, I love you, things she normally asks me. When she moved out and I had to live with my grandparents she never called or visited. And listening to that phone call I know why. She apparently didn't want to hear my voice she had already replaced me. I know it may not be the girl's fault, but I can't help but not be mad at her for acting like she is her daughter. And I know it is in the bible not to hold a gruged, but I can't help it how do you not hold a gruge?
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I understand what ur saying, my dad has not tried to contact me and my brother eric in three years, and than it was him telling my mum that he was getting married to a woman that me and my brothers only met twice, and my step sister Chelsea has replaced me in his life, and i get mad at him, i am still mad at him, I have a half brother named Aidan, he is five, I've never gotten to meet him cuz my dad moved half across america. and he actually thinked my step dad for taking us off his back. so i know how it feels to have a parent abandon u. but i have to admit, that i have the best step dad, me and him r closer than me and my natural father could ever be, hes done messed that chance up. and i do wish i could forgive him, but it is hard.
 
Lol thaat makes me soooo happy, yooh donot even knnow :]
I should just continue to saay nice things abouut yooh so your signatture doesn't change :]
Hehehehe. I just keep telling everyone we're gonna get married so that it'll come truuue :]

HEY! ATTENTION WORLD! BeauBLESSED AND I ARE GETTING MARRIED!

Hehehehe. Truue story? I wiiish ;]
 
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Lol thaat makes me soooo happy, yooh donot even knnow :]
I should just continue to saay nice things abouut yooh so your signatture doesn't change :]
Hehehehe. I just keep telling everyone we're gonna get married so that it'll come truuue :]

HEY! ATTENTION WORLD! BeauBLESSED AND I ARE GETTING MARRIED!

Hehehehe. Truue story? I wiiish ;]
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See what I mean everybody (you know who you are)? She's a nice person!
Meganne Marie Moody, you don't have to do anything at all. I like that you say all these nice things to and about me, but it's not necessary. All you have to do is be a good, trustworthy friend, which you are, and I'll always stick with ya! :)

Buuuut... not in the way you're hoping for. Sorry.
 
Titania said:
I know holding a gruged is wrong, but when my mother left and went to move in with her new husband (who I don't like) she would hardly never call. Then he got in trouble and had to leave for a while.The I heard her talking on the phone with his sister's daughter. She is like nine or something and she was talking like hey how you doing, how was school, I love you, things she normally asks me. When she moved out and I had to live with my grandparents she never called or visited. And listening to that phone call I know why. She apparently didn't want to hear my voice she had already replaced me. I know it may not be the girl's fault, but I can't help but not be mad at her for acting like she is her daughter. And I know it is in the bible not to hold a gruged, but I can't help it how do you not hold a gruge?
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sort of know how you feel....apart from....this is my version of things...

Up until five weeks ago I hadn't seen or heard from my dad for five years and now the woman he's married isn't allowing me to ring at weekends, during evenings and sending me nasty texts or diverting my phone calls to voicemail without my dad knowing. My dad knows now and they've had arguments but it's not stopping her. I get about five to ten minutes on the phone with my dad Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday and around 45 minutes on Wednesdays, only because I finish college at 12 on Wednesdays. So I hardly get to talk to my dad or text him. When I went down to London to find my dad I met this woman first and I explained that I didn't want to be best friends with her at all but I wasn't going to hate her either. She then made an awful comment saying "I don't know why you're so upset about not seeing your dad....I mean you're growing up"....well clearly I'm gonna be upset...my dad was pretty much my best friend when I were younger and then one day he turned his phone off and that were it until last month when I went to find him! My dad took me into the kitchen that night when I saw him and my auntie stayed in the living room with the woman and said "She won't like me, I know it" well....she's going the right way about it isn't she...she's stopping me from contacting my dad when she fully well knows I've got five days a week at college. I'm really finding it hard to have respect for her....I'm finding it hard to accept that my dad's divorced my mum and got married to someone else....I only found out in September yet she's known about me since they met :/
 
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