God Helping Us When We Don't Know We Will Need It.

[JesusLives]

I was single for 35 years before my second marriage and I can remember during those years wondering why I couldn't find anyone. I'd look at people who were matched up and wonder how in the world do they have someone and I don't?

Truth be told I wasn't ready for my person or my person wasn't ready to find me. So the years kept rolling along to the point even my daughter was shocked when I announced that I was getting married. I was 59 and God sent my person.

What I didn't realize at the time but well know now is just how much I would need my person just a few short years later. I had started to have a hard time breathing in my 50's but I got around o.k. and it wasn't too big of a problem but as the 60's came along it kept getting worse and now at 70 I am gasping walking a short distance and I am talking couch to bathroom, bed to kitchen and this is with a walker to lean on more for moral support than balance.

I can't tell you all just how much of a help Tourist is to me, I feel guilty not being able to do more but not being able to breathe I have no energy as the oxygen isn't going through my blood the way it needs to give me the energy I need. It is so frustrating not to be able to do the things I used to do.

I won't even talk about how I could shop until my teenage daughter dropped begging to go home or multiple activities on a vacation where she was begging to stop. For me to just do something simple like change sheets on a bed it takes between 15 to 20 minutes because I have to sit and rest to catch my breath and the last time the two beds were made Jerry did it.

God knew I was going to need help and he sent such a sweet willing man to help me. I tell him all the time I appreciate him so much and feel so guilty at the same time knowing what I was and what I am now.

I have mowed yards and loved it, painted walls and loved it, started remodeling projects and loved it, done loads of laundry because it needed to be done, cleaned other peoples houses for extra money and worked so hard for so long that it just kills me not to be able to do the simple things.

But again I am so thankful to God for bringing Jerry into my life and thankful for my husband who works so hard to take care of me. God does know what we need even before we need it. He knew I needed Tourist.

 

[Lynx]

There is a time for everything. A time to work and...

...

...

A time to let somebody else do it.

But it's HAAAAAAAARD!

I have decided when it's my time to step down and let someone else do it, I will go peacefully and with dignity.

Yeah. Right.

In the meantime sister, it sounds like you need one of those oxygen concentrator things I sometimes see people wearing. It won't get you back on the field like you're 20 again, but you'll feel better than you do.

 

[PennEd]

I was single for 35 years before my second marriage and I can remember during those years wondering why I couldn't find anyone. I'd look at people who were matched up and wonder how in the world do they have someone and I don't?

Truth be told I wasn't ready for my person or my person wasn't ready to find me. So the years kept rolling along to the point even my daughter was shocked when I announced that I was getting married. I was 59 and God sent my person.

What I didn't realize at the time but well know now is just how much I would need my person just a few short years later. I had started to have a hard time breathing in my 50's but I got around o.k. and it wasn't too big of a problem but as the 60's came along it kept getting worse and now at 70 I am gasping walking a short distance and I am talking couch to bathroom, bed to kitchen and this is with a walker to lean on more for moral support than balance.

I can't tell you all just how much of a help Tourist is to me, I feel guilty not being able to do more but not being able to breathe I have no energy as the oxygen isn't going through my blood the way it needs to give me the energy I need. It is so frustrating not to be able to do the things I used to do.

I won't even talk about how I could shop until my teenage daughter dropped begging to go home or multiple activities on a vacation where she was begging to stop. For me to just do something simple like change sheets on a bed it takes between 15 to 20 minutes because I have to sit and rest to catch my breath and the last time the two beds were made Jerry did it.

God knew I was going to need help and he sent such a sweet willing man to help me. I tell him all the time I appreciate him so much and feel so guilty at the same time knowing what I was and what I am now.

I have mowed yards and loved it, painted walls and loved it, started remodeling projects and loved it, done loads of laundry because it needed to be done, cleaned other peoples houses for extra money and worked so hard for so long that it just kills me not to be able to do the simple things.

But again I am so thankful to God for bringing Jerry into my life and thankful for my husband who works so hard to take care of me. God does know what we need even before we need it. He knew I needed Tourist.

So terribly sorry to hear of your respiratory troubles.

Praying the Lord's Peace and Healing in your life. May He strengthen Tourist to continue helping you.
Be Blessed

 

[JesusLives]

There is a time for everything. A time to work and...

...

...

A time to let somebody else do it.

But it's HAAAAAAAARD!

I have decided when it's my time to step down and let someone else do it, I will go peacefully and with dignity.

Yeah. Right.

In the meantime sister, it sounds like you need one of those oxygen concentrator things I sometimes see people wearing. It won't get you back on the field like you're 20 again, but you'll feel better than you do.

You are so right about the HARD part. When I used to run circles around everyone else boy those were the days.

 

[JesusLives]

I was taking my pills the other night and started choking and I couldn't breathe at all. I mean no airway at all. Trying to take in air and nothing. I started to panic, Jerry had already gone to bed and it was so bad that my cat Sugar jumped beside me and started rubbing my arm which calmed me a bit like she was saying - What can I do to help Mom? It was probably a 20 to 30 second episode but very scary.

Evidently my throat relaxed enough to let air pass through again and I started to breathe, but my first thought was is this something new that I have to look forward to? I don't have the answers but will be asking my Doctor about it on the next visit.

 

[JesusLives]

I have been thinking about how many days I have left at home?

I had an incident happen last night that I won't describe as it is too embarrassing to write here in a public forum, but I was very distressed and in need of help but I just didn't have it in me to call out for Jerry. It took about an hour of my time to get things sorted out but I did get things under control, but then started thinking am I able really able to think I can just live at home and be o.k.?

The last thing I want to do is put more pressure or more work on Jerry who already does so much. After all he is 70 too but in better physical shape than I am.

I will just have more questions for the Doctor and see if there is any Medicare Elder assistance that would be able to help me at home. Because home is where I really want to stay.

 

[JesusLives]

Is there anyone else out there experiencing this kind of thing please post here if you are. There would be a little comfort knowing I and you are not alone in this kind of situation.

 

[Magenta]

Is there anyone else out there experiencing this kind of thing please post here if you are.
There would be a little comfort knowing I and you are not alone in this kind of situation.

Yes, here I am! My mobility has decreased quite a bit since I was laid off work and went through all my cancer treatments and meds and surgeries. All that started early in 2020. I have arthritis in my lower back and hips, so standing for any period of time can be problematic as well which means the amount of time I can comfortably food prep or do dishes has been affected also. It affects what I can do at work, too, but everyone is really great and willing to help to the max because I also have COPD and cannot exert myself at all just as you have described, so I am no longer expected to look after the machine chemistry (keeping the tanks topped up and emptying the effluent as the chemicals get used up) or load paper magazines - the 10" paper magazine fully loaded weighs 43 pounds. I have an abdominal mesh also from my hernia repair and am not supposed to lift heavy things and that certainly qualifies. Even just getting dressed in the morning makes me out of breath, and I used to tell people that they would find my body in the parking lot because I was going to die of a heart attack carrying groceries in from my car. The great thing is some very considerate person whom I did not know at all wanted to give up his spot by an exit door because his vehicle made a lot of noise and produced a lot of pollution when he started up, and he felt bad for disturbing so many people so early in the morning. My building management team looked down the list of people who would benefit from trading spots with him and as soon as they saw my name, it was, Magenta! Now my car is right by a door and it is great because before I was 120 steps from an exit door and I could not make it all in one go some days. You and Jerry and I have all been quite close in age, as I am 70 also..

 

[Magenta]

I am gasping walking a short distance and I am talking couch to bathroom, bed to
kitchen and this is with a walker to lean on more for moral support than balance.

Is this COPD also? I am not using a walker or a cane yet but I did apply to get one of those handicapped parking permits this past summer, because if I want to go somewhere and have to walk two blocks after driving there? Uh, no, I am just going to drive away, especially if any hill is involved, but if a handicapped spot is close by that really helps. This is helpful for grocery shopping as well because sometimes if I look for something in the store and can't find it, and then have to go get someone to show me where it is, and we walk all the way back to from where I just was, by then I am almost ready to fall down. LOL. So the closer I am to the door for entry and exit to the parking lot is very helpful also. You know they have an image of a wheelchair and I sometimes wonder what people think because I am not in a wheelchair and from what they can see I am walking fine but the fine part lasts for not even two minutes. I do a lot of leaning on things when I cannot sit.

 

[JesusLives]

Yes, here I am! My mobility has decreased quite a bit since I was laid off work and went through all my cancer treatments and meds and surgeries. All that started early in 2020. I have arthritis in my lower back and hips, so standing for any period of time can be problematic as well which means the amount of time I can comfortably food prep or do dishes has been affected also. It affects what I can do at work, too, but everyone is really great and willing to help to the max because I also have COPD and cannot exert myself at all just as you have described, so I am no longer expected to look after the machine chemistry (keeping the tanks topped up and emptying the effluent as the chemicals get used up) or load paper magazines - the 10" paper magazine fully loaded weighs 43 pounds. I have an abdominal mesh also from my hernia repair and am not supposed to lift heavy things and that certainly qualifies. Even just getting dressed in the morning makes me out of breath, and I used to tell people that they would find my body in the parking lot because I was going to die of a heart attack carrying groceries in from my car. The great thing is some very considerate person whom I did not know at all wanted to give up his spot by an exit door because his vehicle made a lot of noise and produced a lot of pollution when he started up, and he felt bad for disturbing so many people so early in the morning. My building management team looked down the list of people who would benefit from trading spots with him and as soon as they saw my name, it was, Magenta! Now my car is right by a door and it is great because before I was 120 steps from an exit door and I could not make it all in one go some days. You and Jerry and I have all been quite close in age, as I am 70 also..

Thank you. Just for being able to understand. I am sorry for us both as I know we were so much more in our younger years. Just to have someone to commiserate with brings comfort from a we are not alone standpoint. I feel you.

 

[JesusLives]

Is this COPD also? I am not using a walker or a cane yet but I did apply to get one of those handicapped parking permits this past summer, because if I want to go somewhere and have to walk two blocks after driving there? Uh, no, I am just going to drive away, especially if any hill is involved, but if a handicapped spot is close by that really helps. This is helpful for grocery shopping as well because sometimes if I look for something in the store and can't find it, and then have to go get someone to show me where it is, and we walk all the way back to from where I just was, by then I am almost ready to fall down. LOL. So the closer I am to the door for entry and exit to the parking lot is very helpful also. You know they have an image of a wheelchair and I sometimes wonder what people think because I am not in a wheelchair and from what they can see I am walking fine but the fine part lasts for not even two minutes. I do a lot of leaning on things when I cannot sit.

We have motorized shopping carts for people having trouble here in US I use those but Jerry does the majority of our shopping.
I use the walker to lean on and catch my breath as there is a seat I can sit on. Don't need it for balance issues at all.

 

[JesusLives]

Is this COPD also? I am not using a walker or a cane yet but I did apply to get one of those handicapped parking permits this past summer, because if I want to go somewhere and have to walk two blocks after driving there? Uh, no, I am just going to drive away, especially if any hill is involved, but if a handicapped spot is close by that really helps. This is helpful for grocery shopping as well because sometimes if I look for something in the store and can't find it, and then have to go get someone to show me where it is, and we walk all the way back to from where I just was, by then I am almost ready to fall down. LOL. So the closer I am to the door for entry and exit to the parking lot is very helpful also. You know they have an image of a wheelchair and I sometimes wonder what people think because I am not in a wheelchair and from what they can see I am walking fine but the fine part lasts for not even two minutes. I do a lot of leaning on things when I cannot sit.

I have never been diagnosed with COPD but the breathing issues are real.

 

[Magenta]

I have never been diagnosed with COPD but the breathing issues are real.

Have you been diagnosed with anything to explain the difficulty breathing?

I have a lung specialist now...

I am to see her every 3 months; I have seen her three times and she has sent me for a number of other tests and procedures.

 

[tourist]

I have been thinking about how many days I have left at home?

I had an incident happen last night that I won't describe as it is too embarrassing to write here in a public forum, but I was very distressed and in need of help but I just didn't have it in me to call out for Jerry. It took about an hour of my time to get things sorted out but I did get things under control, but then started thinking am I able really able to think I can just live at home and be o.k.?

The last thing I want to do is put more pressure or more work on Jerry who already does so much. After all he is 70 too but in better physical shape than I am.

I will just have more questions for the Doctor and see if there is any Medicare Elder assistance that would be able to help me at home. Because home is where I really want to stay.

I am praying that God works all of this out. I promise to take care of you no matter what happens.

 

[tourist]

Yes, here I am! My mobility has decreased quite a bit since I was laid off work and went through all my cancer treatments and meds and surgeries. All that started early in 2020. I have arthritis in my lower back and hips, so standing for any period of time can be problematic as well which means the amount of time I can comfortably food prep or do dishes has been affected also. It affects what I can do at work, too, but everyone is really great and willing to help to the max because I also have COPD and cannot exert myself at all just as you have described, so I am no longer expected to look after the machine chemistry (keeping the tanks topped up and emptying the effluent as the chemicals get used up) or load paper magazines - the 10" paper magazine fully loaded weighs 43 pounds. I have an abdominal mesh also from my hernia repair and am not supposed to lift heavy things and that certainly qualifies. Even just getting dressed in the morning makes me out of breath, and I used to tell people that they would find my body in the parking lot because I was going to die of a heart attack carrying groceries in from my car. The great thing is some very considerate person whom I did not know at all wanted to give up his spot by an exit door because his vehicle made a lot of noise and produced a lot of pollution when he started up, and he felt bad for disturbing so many people so early in the morning. My building management team looked down the list of people who would benefit from trading spots with him and as soon as they saw my name, it was, Magenta! Now my car is right by a door and it is great because before I was 120 steps from an exit door and I could not make it all in one go some days. You and Jerry and I have all been quite close in age, as I am 70 also..

I will remember you in my prayers too, my precious friend.

 

[tourist]

I was single for 35 years before my second marriage and I can remember during those years wondering why I couldn't find anyone. I'd look at people who were matched up and wonder how in the world do they have someone and I don't?

Truth be told I wasn't ready for my person or my person wasn't ready to find me. So the years kept rolling along to the point even my daughter was shocked when I announced that I was getting married. I was 59 and God sent my person.

What I didn't realize at the time but well know now is just how much I would need my person just a few short years later. I had started to have a hard time breathing in my 50's but I got around o.k. and it wasn't too big of a problem but as the 60's came along it kept getting worse and now at 70 I am gasping walking a short distance and I am talking couch to bathroom, bed to kitchen and this is with a walker to lean on more for moral support than balance.

I can't tell you all just how much of a help Tourist is to me, I feel guilty not being able to do more but not being able to breathe I have no energy as the oxygen isn't going through my blood the way it needs to give me the energy I need. It is so frustrating not to be able to do the things I used to do.

I won't even talk about how I could shop until my teenage daughter dropped begging to go home or multiple activities on a vacation where she was begging to stop. For me to just do something simple like change sheets on a bed it takes between 15 to 20 minutes because I have to sit and rest to catch my breath and the last time the two beds were made Jerry did it.

God knew I was going to need help and he sent such a sweet willing man to help me. I tell him all the time I appreciate him so much and feel so guilty at the same time knowing what I was and what I am now.

I have mowed yards and loved it, painted walls and loved it, started remodeling projects and loved it, done loads of laundry because it needed to be done, cleaned other peoples houses for extra money and worked so hard for so long that it just kills me not to be able to do the simple things.

But again I am so thankful to God for bringing Jerry into my life and thankful for my husband who works so hard to take care of me. God does know what we need even before we need it. He knew I needed Tourist.

I am thankful to you each day my darling Darlene.

 

[JesusLives]

Have you been diagnosed with anything to explain the difficulty breathing?

I have a lung specialist now...

I am to see her every 3 months; I have seen her three times and she has sent me for a number of other tests and procedures.

Hyper something or other I don't remember the name for it but it is a breathing problem.

 

[JesusLives]

Thinking about having to go into a home kind of makes me laugh. I am so break out and go in my thoughts I can see myself causing all kinds of trouble in a home....lol

I'd be the one they would be saying - yes she escaped again we caught her a block away with her walker and had to bring her back.

 

[Karlon]

that's God's grace. God giving us what we don't deserve. G-od's R-iches A-t C-hrist's E-xpense. unmerited favor at any time without asking or questioning. God's greatness to the undeserving which we all are undeserving.