Feeling disheartened

[2ndTimeIsTheCharm]

Folks, we need to be more like Jesus and help each other out....

Isaiah 42:
3 A bruised reed he will not break,
and a smoldering wick he will not snuff out.
In faithfulness he will bring forth justice;


We should be more mindful toward each other....

Romans 12:15 Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.

Romans 12:5 so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others.

 

[GaryA]

Good luck, and remember we are always here if you need to vent.

Famous last words, eh? Hoo boy, do I ever regret saying THAT!

*sigh

Now I done told y'all it ain't gonna do no good. I told y'all you can't help HistoryPrincess.

I told y'all all she wants to do is complain. I told y'all that if you try to help her, she will defeat any cheerfulness or helpful suggestion.

If y'all keep trying to help her, that's on y'all. Any extant frustration y'all get from this is completely y'all's fault, ya hear? Ya done been warned.

She posts here on occasion to vent. Let her, and let her brothers and sisters in Christ try to comfort her. Don't be rude and try to turn people against her when she's already down. What the heck is wrong with you?

Experience.

Not her experience.

Indeed. What the heck is wrong with you, Lynx?

When you say 'we', you speak for the whole group.

Then, you 'regret' having giving her encouragement so that perhaps someone else may be able to help her in some way?

Then, you raise it to the level of "Do not try to help this person - she is not worth helping - and, it will not be worth it for/to you." - not knowing what it may-or-may-not be worth to someone else to try to reach out to her in their own way.

What was wrong with leaving it at her just venting if she feels the need to do so? ('we are always here if you need to vent')

Now - if you think she is a fake - call her out on it - that may be a reasonable thing to do. But - if you think she is a real person in need of something - why not just stay out of it "for your own sake" and let others get involved or not as they see fit?

We all know that if she is just trolling, etc. - she will have to answer for it on Judgment Day. However, if she is "for real", is it not better to try to help a sister in her time of need?

Warn the folks? Well - okay - but, now that you have - would you agree that there is no need to do any more of that? ("nuf said?")

It seems that your 'experience' has taught you to be more judgmental and less compassionate.

 

[GaryA]

And while I don't think I could ever abandon my faith, part of me just wants nothing to do with it anymore.

Is it really your faith that part of you just wants nothing to do with? Or, is it really something else?

Last week, however, I thought I'd finally been given reason to hope again − to hope my life would change for the better. I sought spiritual guidance on it and delved into my Bible. But since then, the likelihood of this opportunity (which I'd prefer not to explain) actually panning out seems more and more unlikely every day.

I think this may be key. What kind of opportunity was/is it? Did/Does it involve companionship with a man? A job? Or, what? Can/Will you tell us?

"Hope" is now like a 4-letter word to me. I don't care what "good things" God has in store for me. I'd rather he leave me alone and quit playing with my feelings.

Before you reached the point of "hope is a 4-letter word" - what did/do you hope for?

Get married? (and, have kids?)
Become a writer?

What are your ambitions?

What do you not find boring? What interests you in doing for self-satisfaction in your being?

In what field of study did you enroll in when you went to community college?

In what sense of the word 'trades' do you mean by 'a Jane of all trades, master of none'? What do you know how to do? Have you ever considered using these skills to help others?

What kind of 'fantasy worlds' are you referring to?

Problem is, how do you motivate yourself when all of that feels like too much work?

Sometimes, you "just have to do what you have to do" in order to be able to move forward...

 

[GaryA]

Since she and I chatted this evening, I've started feeling a bit better.

Good - it is a start!

But I'm not holding my breath.

Good - relax and breathe deeply-but-gently instead...

 

[Lynx]

Indeed. What the heck is wrong with you, Lynx?

When you say 'we', you speak for the whole group.

Then, you 'regret' having giving her encouragement so that perhaps someone else may be able to help her in some way?

Then, you raise it to the level of "Do not try to help this person - she is not worth helping - and, it will not be worth it for/to you." - not knowing what it may-or-may-not be worth to someone else to try to reach out to her in their own way.

What was wrong with leaving it at her just venting if she feels the need to do so? ('we are always here if you need to vent')

Now - if you think she is a fake - call her out on it - that may be a reasonable thing to do. But - if you think she is a real person in need of something - why not just stay out of it "for your own sake" and let others get involved or not as they see fit?

We all know that if she is just trolling, etc. - she will have to answer for it on Judgment Day. However, if she is "for real", is it not better to try to help a sister in her time of need?

Warn the folks? Well - okay - but, now that you have - would you agree that there is no need to do any more of that? ("nuf said?")

It seems that your 'experience' has taught you to be more judgmental and less compassionate.

*shrug

You'll find out.

Not faulting either you or 2ndtime though. It's good that you are compassionate.

But in this particular case, just wait. You'll see.

 

[HistoryPrincess]

Thanks everyone who's reached out to me. Basically, I've been waiting for a reply to an email I sent on Wednesday. I sent one again yesterday, still no reply. Even if it was just them saying "Screw off," I'd at least know it got to them!

 

[HistoryPrincess]

If anyone's wondering how I'm doing, I'm doing okay – I guess. Still haven't received a reply to any of my emails. At this point, though, I might as well just move on. Forget about it.

I've started doing a daily prayer on an app. Today's was about waiting, as was this past Sunday's sermon from that same app, as was last Friday's daily prayer.

I get it. God is probably telling me to wait for something. I just wish I knew what for and for how long. Honestly though, I'm not sure of anything anymore. I'm tired of being teased and confused when I pray for clarity. I'm tired of praying for doors to open, only for them to either remain shut or close before I can get to them.

Don't tell someone God has a purpose for them, even if it's true. Just sets them up for disappointment. And even if He does have a so-called purpose for me, I have no idea what it could be. Heck, I'm not sure if I wanna know – or if I even want a purpose anyway.

 

[Ceph]

If anyone's wondering how I'm doing, I'm doing okay – I guess. Still haven't received a reply to any of my emails. At this point, though, I might as well just move on. Forget about it.

I've started doing a daily prayer on an app. Today's was about waiting, as was this past Sunday's sermon from that same app, as was last Friday's daily prayer.

I get it. God is probably telling me to wait for something. I just wish I knew what for and for how long. Honestly though, I'm not sure of anything anymore. I'm tired of being teased and confused when I pray for clarity. I'm tired of praying for doors to open, only for them to either remain shut or close before I can get to them.

Don't tell someone God has a purpose for them, even if it's true. Just sets them up for disappointment. And even if He does have a so-called purpose for me, I have no idea what it could be. Heck, I'm not sure if I wanna know – or if I even want a purpose anyway.

Read the prophetic scriptures.

 

[HistoryPrincess]

Read the prophetic scriptures.

That are often taken out of context.

 

[HistoryPrincess]

Is it really your faith that part of you just wants nothing to do with? Or, is it really something else?


I think this may be key. What kind of opportunity was/is it? Did/Does it involve companionship with a man? A job? Or, what? Can/Will you tell us?


Before you reached the point of "hope is a 4-letter word" - what did/do you hope for?

Get married? (and, have kids?)
Become a writer?

What are your ambitions?

What do you not find boring? What interests you in doing for self-satisfaction in your being?

In what field of study did you enroll in when you went to community college?

In what sense of the word 'trades' do you mean by 'a Jane of all trades, master of none'? What do you know how to do? Have you ever considered using these skills to help others?

What kind of 'fantasy worlds' are you referring to?



Sometimes, you "just have to do what you have to do" in order to be able to move forward...

I fear that, due to the horrific politically divided state of our country – I'd rather not start a flame war. I'll only say it didn't involve anything immoral or illegal.

Even when I was little, I didn't know what I wanted to be. I participated in a lot of things – dance, horseback riding, school plays. I like to sing, draw, and write. And I still dance, but not professionally.

Sad thing is, creative pursuits aren't much valued either by secular society or churches. Secular society only deems art worthy if it makes money. Churches only value art if it serves their agenda – which is why I generally don't like Christian movies or music.

All that said, it's not like I'm a professional at any of these things. I don't actually have any original ideas when it comes to writing an drawing. I don't really have the discipline to finish a lot of the things I start either.

For the record, I only recently discovered I have some ADHD. And I don't even remember what I applied for at community college. All I knew was that even the most basic degree required passing a math class – and I epically failed 3-4 times, so I got fed up and quit.

And by "fantasy worlds," I don't mean porn or anything gross like that. More like just daydreaming – pretending I'm all the things I'm not. Even if it's only in my mind, it brings me some solace.

There are two kinds of people in the world. Shapers and reactors. I'm the latter. I don't shape events, I just react to them. I'm too easily discouraged. I'm decent at some things, but don't have the will or discipline to get really good at any of them. I don't even remember what it's like to be ambitious. All I know is that fantasizing can let me escape, however briefly, a world that I've only ever been profoundly disappointed in.

 

[Ceph]

I fear that, due to the horrific politically divided state of our country – I'd rather not start a flame war. I'll only say it didn't involve anything immoral or illegal.

Even when I was little, I didn't know what I wanted to be. I participated in a lot of things – dance, horseback riding, school plays. I like to sing, draw, and write. And I still dance, but not professionally.

Sad thing is, creative pursuits aren't much valued either by secular society or churches. Secular society only deems art worthy if it makes money. Churches only value art if it serves their agenda – which is why I generally don't like Christian movies or music.

All that said, it's not like I'm a professional at any of these things. I don't actually have any original ideas when it comes to writing an drawing. I don't really have the discipline to finish a lot of the things I start either.

For the record, I only recently discovered I have some ADHD. And I don't even remember what I applied for at community college. All I knew was that even the most basic degree required passing a math class – and I epically failed 3-4 times, so I got fed up and quit.

And by "fantasy worlds," I don't mean porn or anything gross like that. More like just daydreaming – pretending I'm all the things I'm not. Even if it's only in my mind, it brings me some solace.

There are two kinds of people in the world. Shapers and reactors. I'm the latter. I don't shape events, I just react to them. I'm too easily discouraged. I'm decent at some things, but don't have the will or discipline to get really good at any of them. I don't even remember what it's like to be ambitious. All I know is that fantasizing can let me escape, however briefly, a world that I've only ever been profoundly disappointed in.

I'm telling you that Gods scriptures support you more than you know.
Those events really happened. a person just as you experienced them. God is really here and he's giving to people who seek him.

 

[HistoryPrincess]

I'm telling you that Gods scriptures support you more than you know.
Those events really happened. a person just as you experienced them. God is really here and he's giving to people who seek him.

I have no idea what you just said.

 

[tourist]

Experience.

I got kinda jaded on my experience and observations.

 

[tourist]

I have no idea what you just said.

Sounded good though.

 

[HistoryPrincess]

Bottomline, I don't wanna hope anymore. I don't wanna try anymore. I don't wanna care anymore. At least I'm happy in my dreams, despite knowing they'll never come true.

 

[Ceph]

Bottomline, I don't wanna hope anymore. I don't wanna try anymore. I don't wanna care anymore. At least I'm happy in my dreams, despite knowing they'll never come true.

Why don't you think your dreams mean anything to God? You know he can make them come true. Being saved, you have infinite time and resources to make them come true in the next life. You were given them by Him in the first place.

 

[HistoryPrincess]

Why don't you think your dreams mean anything to God? You know he can make them come true. Being saved, you have infinite time and resources to make them come true in the next life. You were given them by Him in the first place.

Yay…I get to wait till I'm dead, and then my dreams will come true.

 

[Lynx]

Soooooo... 2ndTime, GaryA... Now do you see what I mean?

 

[Ceph]

Yay…I get to wait till I'm dead, and then my dreams will come true.

Suck it up, buttercup. Life around you already got you to the point where you are in your head, so wait & see what'll get put in there next.
It's not bad that you're prepared to die, you just have to do it for the right reason.

 

[shittim]

Yay…I get to wait till I'm dead, and then my dreams will come true.

His Own live in Galatians c5, v22 &23, if we aren't we must correct it, the problem is never on His end, always down here.