Emotional affair..... should I tell my husband?

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sonshine

sonshine

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Well, I did go back to the site. I went back to close out the account. There were several messages from him. They started out as any other message we had exchanged, then after a couple days the "concern" messages started flowing in, after about a week the messages were still full of "concern", but starting to get a little cold. And then it turned into some not so nice comments :confused:
I messaged some other friends on the site. I shared a little about what had transpired, and why I had suddenly disappeared, and what I found upon returning. It shouldn't have surprised me that I wasn't the only one who experienced this or similar behaviors from him. I did end up closing the account there though, figure it's just better not to be around any of it.
Oh, and I did report the behavior before closing the account. I figured if others were experiencing similar negative behaviors and comments that it should be reported. Must've made an impact because his account though still showing says he was banned.
So, now just working on moving on and mending the relationship with my husband.
 
2ndTimothyGroup

2ndTimothyGroup

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sonshine said:
Well, I did go back to the site. I went back to close out the account. There were several messages from him. They started out as any other message we had exchanged, then after a couple days the "concern" messages started flowing in, after about a week the messages were still full of "concern", but starting to get a little cold. And then it turned into some not so nice comments :confused:
I messaged some other friends on the site. I shared a little about what had transpired, and why I had suddenly disappeared, and what I found upon returning. It shouldn't have surprised me that I wasn't the only one who experienced this or similar behaviors from him. I did end up closing the account there though, figure it's just better not to be around any of it.
Oh, and I did report the behavior before closing the account. I figured if others were experiencing similar negative behaviors and comments that it should be reported. Must've made an impact because his account though still showing says he was banned.
So, now just working on moving on and mending the relationship with my husband.
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Oh muhgoodness. You dodged a serious bullet. One thing that comes to my mind is that you shouldn't trust a man that is willing to "go after" a married woman. The Bible is pretty clear about leading others to sin, and his flattery to you likely caused you to think, ponder, and wonder what it might be like with him.

I know that it must have been difficult to not respond . . . it is terrible to ignore others, but in this case, it seems (to me) that you 100% did the right thing.

You know, you keep doing good work! :)
 
SomeDisciple

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He might not have been a great guy after all; but on the bright side, you won't imagine him when crappy 80's and 90's love songs are playing.
 
Robertt

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what was the other site . i need more acces to other christian chat places.
 
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GardenofWeeden said:
I don't see any reason to tell him other than it will make you feel better. Unfortunately it will hurt him. So if making yourself feel better is worth hurting your husband over, then by all means tell him. If you value his feelings then don't. (I don't intend that to sound as snarky as it does, but bluntness sometimes comes off and snarky)
Move on away from this other man, repent of it all, and work on your relationship with God, then allowing God to continue to repair your relationship with your husband,
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I agree in that to unburden yourself at the sake of another is sinful. Bare the pain and consequences with Christ Jesus. He alone can show you His will.
 
Blade

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"I just wonder if I should let things go, or if I should tell my husband what has been going on?
Things have gotten better for/with us, and I'm afraid if I tell him that it's not going to be taken well."

Forgive me I know this hurts and I do truly understand but I wish we would watch where we post things like this. You can get many different answers and be left off worse then before. THIS is not between anyone here and you. ANYTHING anyone says came from them not God. You pray you seek ask Him.. He will give you a peace in what to do.

It becomes sin when we give that thought room when we act on it. When we do it ours. Now I have never told my wife every a wrong thought I had or ones I played with.. yet always repented. And Christ forgives forgets cleanses us from all unrighteousness. Christ died for your sins.. did you know He also died for guilt? Yeah that guilt is not from God He never makes us feel guilty.
 
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