Do you believe in a long-distance relationship?

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Do you believe in a long-distance relationship?"

According to the Bible, a long-distance relationship requires patience , strong communication, and unwavering trust in God's, treating the separation as a temporary season. Key principles include remaining faithful (Proverbs 5:15-20), maintaining emotional support (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10), and relying on prayer, with examples like Jacob’s long wait (Genesis 29:20) offering encouragement for endurance.


Love Lives in the Heart: The person you love is always with you, in your heart, not just physically present.

Maintaining a long-distance relationship requires active commitment, trust, loyalty, and intentional effort, like calls, messages, and shared dreams.
When you love deeply, the physical distance feels smaller because your hearts are connected.
 
Offhand I say ldr puts added challenges to a relationship. Two people would have to be 100% trustworthy and 100% committed to a relationship that's not at hand. I know a young man who fell in love with a Filipina gal and could not get her a Visa to come to the US. So sadly she passed during covid but he did get to the Philippines to be w/her a few times, thank God. Generally it just makes life easier the closer one is to the other. In person stuff is a lot more romantic than blowing kisses and long hugs through the screen, right? lol
 
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I definitely believe it can work for some people. I have a few siblings and friends that did long-distance (across different countries) that made it work and are now married. Personally, I can't see myself doing that, and I love seeing it work well for others!
 
Absolutely.

In my personal experience of relationships that were not long distance and relationships that were long distance, I felt that the long distance relationships had a much better/deeper bond. Also, I don't mind traveling. Mind you, I have only been in relationships in my own country.

I think it works better for some people more than others. Some people have a hard time coping with LDRs, while others are much more comfortable with them.
 
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I do believe in long-distance relationships.

Right now, I feel a bit alone, and I would be open to a long-distance friendship. With messaging apps and free calls, it is possible to build a close friendship over long distances. A friendship maintained through calls and messages can sometimes feel closer than one where you only meet in person once a week, because in a way your friend is always with you and you can share moments from your everyday life.

When it comes to a romantic relationship, I also believe a long-distance relationship can work. However, I would wish the distance to be only temporary, and if things work out, we would eventually get married and live together. Physical closeness is my love language, so in the long run, I want a romantic relationship to become one where that is possible. In a way, it reminds me of the Christian experience. We would rather be with Jesus in heaven already, but because of our current circumstances, we live in what could be described as a kind of long-distance relationship with Him.
 
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Pierre2026 said:
Do you believe in a long-distance relationship?"

According to the Bible, a long-distance relationship requires patience , strong communication, and unwavering trust in God's, treating the separation as a temporary season. Key principles include remaining faithful (Proverbs 5:15-20), maintaining emotional support (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10), and relying on prayer, with examples like Jacob’s long wait (Genesis 29:20) offering encouragement for endurance.


Love Lives in the Heart: The person you love is always with you, in your heart, not just physically present.

Maintaining a long-distance relationship requires active commitment, trust, loyalty, and intentional effort, like calls, messages, and shared dreams.
When you love deeply, the physical distance feels smaller because your hearts are connected.
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I don't know so much about the Bible supporting that... One of the rules for drafting men for war was, don't draft anybody who has been married less than a year.

Mind you, I'm not saying long distance relationships cannot work. I'm just saying don't be too quick to claim the Bible for support.
 
faithlife said:
Offhand I say ldr puts added challenges to a relationship. Two people would have to be 100% trustworthy and 100% committed to a relationship that's not at hand. I know a young man who fell in love with a Filipina gal and could not get her a Visa to come to the US. So sadly she passed during covid but he did get to the Philippines to be w/her a few times, thank God. Generally it just makes life easier the closer one is to the other. In person stuff is a lot more romantic than blowing kisses and long hugs through the screen, right? lol
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Oh my, that is heartbreaking. :cry:
 
a myriad of possibilities depending on the individuals. i very much enjoyed a long distance relationship back in the 80's for about 5 months. i was in mass., she as in n.y. she eventually moved to mass. we were together for 5 & a half years. i was much younger so i din't mind traveling to n.y. she was younger than me. we took turns traveling for visits. if i was single now, i would not travel long distance for a relationship. in fact when i asked the lord for a wife, 1 of my requests was that she lived close to me.
 
engblom said:
I do believe in long-distance relationships.

Right now, I feel a bit alone, and I would be open to a long-distance friendship. With messaging apps and free calls, it is possible to build a close friendship over long distances. A friendship maintained through calls and messages can sometimes feel closer than one where you only meet in person once a week, because in a way your friend is always with you and you can share moments from your everyday life.

When it comes to a romantic relationship, I also believe a long-distance relationship can work. However, I would wish the distance to be only temporary, and if things work out, we would eventually get married and live together. Physical closeness is my love language, so in the long run, I want a romantic relationship to become one where that is possible. In a way, it reminds me of the Christian experience. We would rather be with Jesus in heaven already, but because of our current circumstances, we live in what could be described as a kind of long-distance relationship with Him.
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I love the way you put this, comparing it to the Christian experience. Very good post engblom, I had to save it.

"For now we see through a glass, darkly." How wonderful that day will be when we are with our beloved here, and how incredible it will be when we are with our Beloved when we get there.
 
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Another point is that long distance changes with technology. What was long distance a few decades ago is a mere nothing now. What was long distance two centuries ago is less than a daily commute now.

When we invent the Star Trek transporter, long distance will be on another planet... in another solar system.
 
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Lynx said:
Another point is that long distance changes with technology. What was long distance a few decades ago is a mere nothing now. What was long distance two centuries ago is less than a daily commute now.

When we invent the Star Trek transporter, long distance will be on another planet... in another solar system.
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Pierre2026 said:
Do you believe in a long-distance relationship?"

According to the Bible, a long-distance relationship requires patience , strong communication, and unwavering trust in God's, treating the separation as a temporary season. Key principles include remaining faithful (Proverbs 5:15-20), maintaining emotional support (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10), and relying on prayer, with examples like Jacob’s long wait (Genesis 29:20) offering encouragement for endurance.


Love Lives in the Heart: The person you love is always with you, in your heart, not just physically present.

Maintaining a long-distance relationship requires active commitment, trust, loyalty, and intentional effort, like calls, messages, and shared dreams.
When you love deeply, the physical distance feels smaller because your hearts are connected.
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Where the person dey make wu start the Long distance relationship.
 
Lynx said:
Another point is that long distance changes with technology. What was long distance a few decades ago is a mere nothing now. What was long distance two centuries ago is less than a daily commute now.

When we invent the Star Trek transporter, long distance will be on another planet... in another solar system.
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oh oh can it be created now I have love ones who live far
 
Merci de me répondre. Je tiens à préciser que je n'utilise pas la Bible comme justification.


Thanks you for our answering, but I want precisely we have no choice to choose in our country or another country. The majorities has their own choice. If you don't like to choose to long distance relationship, the majority of peoples discouraged the others persons to do it. If in a Long Distance Relationship God is not in the center it's normally he can't difficult to realize. But a Long Distance Relationship where the partners respect GOD and put JESUS first this relationship is on the controls of God.


Lynx said:
Je ne connais pas grand-chose de la Bible qui soutient cela... L'une des règles pour la conscription des hommes pour la guerre était ne pas enrôler ceux qui sont mariés depuis moins d'un an.

Attention, je ne dis pas que les relations à distance ne peuvent pas fonctionner. Je dis simplement qu'il ne faut pas se précipiter pour trouver du réconfort dans la Bible.
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Karlon said:
a myriad of possibilities depending on the individuals. i very much enjoyed a long distance relationship back in the 80's for about 5 months. i was in mass., she as in n.y. she eventually moved to mass. we were together for 5 & a half years. i was much younger so i din't mind traveling to n.y. she was younger than me. we took turns traveling for visits. if i was single now, i would not travel long distance for a relationship. in fact when i asked the lord for a wife, 1 of my requests was that she lived close to me.
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Not sure about this current obssession with LDRs on this forum.

The internet is a cool place to hang out with people from all over the world, without having to pay for airfare...if being in a relationship involves typing things out and maybe a bit of facetime or whatever, yea but if its just that exclusively and you never actually meet in person then I don't know what to say. Fantasy?

The only LDRs I would consider would be if I met that person maybe travelling and really fell in love with them or had a connection with them I wanted to pursue perhaps, but we lived in different countries.
 
Biblically this doesn't hold up. Israel is pretty small. Pauls long distance relationships with people just involved a lot of letter writing, but he actually travelled to other places and saw them first.

Also God in the OT didn't like his chosen people marrying their enemies.
 
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Let me telling you something I put my post in public here just for listening of ideology of person, so he wasn't obligated for to reading and answered about it, you can just ignored.
If you don't like it it's our problems how much is free for choose what she/he believes.


Lanolin said:
Biblically this doesn't hold up. Israel is pretty small. Pauls long distance relationships with people just involved a lot of letter writing, but he actually travelled to other places and saw them first.

Also God in the OT didn't like his chosen people marrying their enemies.
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You have of understanding what you said and what I write here, you create a confusing totally, but we need to know what you said, and what the period he is write and what I said now. I thinking when we read and we take the verses about our ideology to create of confusing.

Pierre2026 said:
Let me telling you something I put my post in public here just for listening of ideology of person, so he wasn't obligated for to reading and answered about it, you can just ignored.
If you don't like it it's our problems how much is free for choose what she/he believes.
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You have of understanding what you said and what I write here, you create a confusing totally, but we need to know what you said, and what the period he is write and what I said now. I thinking when we read and we take the verses about our ideology to create of confusing.

Pierre2026 said:
Let me telling you something I put my post in public here just for listening of ideology of person, so he wasn't obligated for to reading and answered about it, you can just ignored.
If you don't like it it's our problems how much is free for choose what she/he believes.
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oh ok I will just ignore everything to do with LDRs then. Sorry for wasting your time.
I have experience of them because everyone here in NZ is a long distance from everyone else on the planet.
 
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