Decided not to date...Support Please!?

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Late reply, but I just want to say some words.

I really do support you, however, try not to be judgemental for those who are unsaved and doing the opposite way. Preserve love, as it is something precious and always refer to God's love. Love and lust are two different things - you need to understand that any relationship that does not lead to marriage is not worth going for. This, is what God wants us to think about.

love - is about how much you can give. love grows over time.
lust - is about how much I can get. I me myself. "love" at first sight
 
its a very smart thing deciding not to date at the age of 14 GOD has things in store for you, you may not know what they may be but if your in a relationship it may take away from what GOD wants you to be doing if you do decide to date just set some very high standards for the guy you want to date and don't settle for less...see im dating my pastors son and we met 4 months ago ik that he was sent from god to be my one to marry he meets my standards so perfectly and i do the same to his so when you do decide to date jus set the standards high dont settle for less
 
I don't plan to start dating until college. It will be easier for you to concentrate on God, plus school this way. I know lots of people in my school who don't plan to start dating until after High School either.
 
This is your one and only life, in keeping this decision you will safe yourself from unnecessary and hurtful heartache and pain, and wasted time and energy. All things do work for good, you will learn from your experiences, but prevention is always better.

And in the future a guy, a man, a husband may appreciate your decision to live this way more than if you had dated alot.

But still those of us who have not lived perfectly, God still loves, and a husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for it, so he is to lay down his life for her, not all, as he is an individual also, but he is to love her.

And many men have made mistakes also.

It will all come together some day.:)
 
OMGGGGG!!!! I am turning 14 too and going to be a freshman in September. I have chosen to keep my head in the books too BUT if a young man comes along and he is CHRISTIAN and he respects me and my values, I will not push him away! I wholeheartedly support you!
 
Jkbyers97 said:
So I am 14 and I am going into my freshman year of high school this fall. I have been praying a lot lately and I have come to the decision to not date. I know that this is a smart decision because most dating at my age leads to deeper and later, unwanted, intimacy. Now that I have come to this decision with God... I need a LOT of help keeping with this commitment. Does anyone have any advice to help me?? Absolutely ANYTHING is appreciated! Thanks(:
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A boy your age range will only hurt you. Keep your heart with God. Do well in school. And then, maybe you find Prince Charming when you come to that age when you think you're mature enough to date.

You just never know with God.
 
Yes, 14, definitly an age where most people, most likely your parents and teachers, and even yourself feel you should not mess around with boys.

Honestly in my experience, and hearing of others experiences......even simply being a boys friend as a teenager can bring harm to a girl, because they seem to be going through more changes than teenage girls.

Rough, abusive, hurtful words, changing their minds every day or every week.

So, be careful.

It may be a challenge, suffering, or painful, but it is worth it later on when you do find a more mature boy who has grown into a man and you don't have past hurts haunting you that need christian healing and counseling.

But if no harm in being friends, that I think the consensus would be go ahead.
 
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