@All Ya All,
It's apparent that a lot of mommas around the medical center of my state warn the same about mature Christians. You aren't saying this Suze, but every one of you women with young families need reminding of something your pastors may have left out.
Many of the local parents teach their daughters that rather than a stable mature Godly man, they should hook up with a wealthy medical Dr. or lawyer. Don't worry, there's no reason for the bad lawyer jokes. There's no truth in those.
If the lawyers are in the subjective age range of the wise council of elder singles, and have a 6 digit income, the rest will just fall into place, right? It's in the Bible!

Instead of nursing their man (any age) and children when they get sick, this city prefers to make $ nursing strangers and serving physicians. This is probably just a local trend, but it applies to the topic. I've had both in the family and don't disparage the decent exceptional ones. We have a lot of hospitals here.
There are some exceptions and virtuous believers, but I'm talking about the earned reputations of many. Virtue is not even on the list unless it's like "red flags" or virtue signals.
I've also done a few nursing home and hospital visits. Guess who fills most of those beds? Take a guess.
The
minority are older and younger men .
Perhaps we middle aged men should advise the younger to forget marriage because they are going to likely get a weaker vessel, high maintenance and have needs at times that will require discomfort, inconvenience and perhaps husbandly nursing. When those weak creatures get pregnant, "chances r u will end up being their nurse , if u don't mind that go ahead ."
But something God provided, is the strength, weaknesses and interdependence that are supposed to be motivated by love. Nobody's an island.
I think that the women and men who are so selfish that they are not willing to nurse their husbands in time of need should do their future families a favor and NOT get married to an older OR a younger man. If they are not willing to commit for richer/ poorer, sickness/ health, better or worse, then they obviously are Not marriage quality ladies. Some of those younger guys I've taught aren't all that healthy. I wonder what their momma's fed them?
It doesn't matter if those college freshmen have a full carton of eggs and pretty as the prom queen. Her schools spent 8 hours/ day, 5 days per week for 12-14 years training her to be a the wife or husband they prove to be.
For answers, start with the divorce rate.
The spiritual maturity level sometimes never changes for either immature men or women.
It saddens me when a wife leaves her husband at the hospital with a broken body from an auto accident, job accident or health setback for another guy.
Perhaps if her husband had the quality of health and good looks of a youthful teenager or tall twenty something, he'd have something going for him? Huh?
She certainly can't be expected to be taught by the older ladies to stay committed, virtuous and close to God. Sometimes I see that and encourage them too.
They are honorable and valued by their family. Their children will praise them.
But for many, Age is the BIG Biblical mandate that I must've missed the last time I read the Bible. Perhaps you can help me find that?

There are times I've said something to the men or the shameful flirtatious women at the hospitals when young attractive men invited them on dates while I was trying to save their dying husbands' lives. God sent me at the right time to hear the conversations that were going on.
One case was an older husband who was diabetic and given a vancomycin resistant gift by the hospital care.
He was provided what the hospital antibiotics could not do.
He got saved and went to Heaven.
In spite of being athletic, healthy in my prime, I've been in situations where the Lord humbled me with complete weaknesses and a crippling injury. An on the job accident about kept me in bed. BTW, it was
not age related.
The sorry excuse for my older fiancee, Melanie M. never visited, prayed or called to encourage me.
I was in too much pain and couldn't hardly sleep.
That's Nothing unique to me. Other ladies are also encouraged to find a younger fit one when theirs is down; shop around for a newer, healthier model. Kinda like a car.
Same goes for the ladies whose guys abandoned them when ready to give birth. Sure don't want to " end up being their nurse , if u don't mind that go ahead ."
I recently visited Kim O. who's boyfriend just abandoned her when her water broke. And contractions started. Nice time to have a man leave you, isn't it?
When I had the injury, I was building a business, a ministry and working a full-time job to provide what we would need so when we would marry, she would, at the appropriate time, stay at my home as a traditional wife and have her dream come true.
I had a serious job accident crippled me. Dad thought I was going to die. No worries ladies, the older woman would suffer the trouble you ladies warn your younger competition about. She would
not nurse or so much as check on this younger man. Maybe she needed you ladies to set her up with a teenager. That would
really be the virtuous Biblical thing to do.
The Dr insisted over and over that I submit to his orders and be admitted to the hospital. I talked to Dad and refused the Drs stern demands. I told him there's nothing the hospital has to offer that wasn't at Dad's home. If there is, he could prove that to me when I was able to come to appointments.
My Dad left his business for over a month to wait on me and provide all of my needs. It took me 2 excruciating hours to get out of bed, into a wheelchair and then the car to be driven to the Drs office for his expensive, worthless, painful tests and waste my money. This was the head Dr of the top rated orthopedic hospital in my state, Ruby Memorial Hospital.
He had no clue, but was paid cash out of pocket as I went to my appointments. The tech was a piece of work too.
Same went with the rheumatology.
My
main Physician was waiting for me to come to the end of my rope before healing me. I'm sure there were more than one purpose.
God used that painful, long event to show me His true love expressed through my awesome Dad. I didn't realize how much my father loved me until then. My parents were divorced and I was turned, for no good reason, against my own Dad by the second husband. (There's a woman on this forum who did likewise, who badmouthed me to another lady like that. God reward her according to her deeds.)
Mom's second, younger husband, named Dick A. psychotic trash who murdered my little brother tried to kill me and Mom too, poisoned my mind, as a young child, against my Dad.
Those younger ladies are so tempted by those charming young snakes/ Devils. It seems like a few take after their grandmother Eve.
That venom wasn't washed from my brain until this chapter of my adult life when God turned that painful curse into a blessing.
The Lord used that opportunity for my Dad to care for me, yes
"be my nurse" to prove to me how much a father can care for his grown, only begotten son.
Dad brought food, water and everything to my bed. I had zero help from any woman young or old.
Then the Lord healed me miraculously. He answered my fervent tearful prayer based on a Bible promise. I was so surprised that I could walk!!!
He even restored, at that day, my atrophied muscles to beyond their previous physical strength when I was working out daily!
There's times when both men and women need grace. We get sick, injured, have children, family members are slaughtered by worthless Dicks and medical workers. They need God's people to show grace in times of need. This goes especially for husbands and wives. If women don't think they should nurse a husband in need, they should certainly expect their children to abandon them in time of need too.
Think about it. What kind of example do parents show? What classes do schools teach on this subject as they are never even allowed to connect with the elderly and crippled? Hey, at least they are segregated into groups within 2 years. THAT'S what's important right? Age segregation is the virtue of the century according to this godly generation.
No wonder the older women are supposed to teach the younger to love their husbands and their children.
Titus 2:4