While I have run into two or three Calvinists who were nice, my many years of talking with others was not always so pleasant. One Calvinist in particular was really nasty to me in a private chat. I have also heard stories from people who said that when they converted to Calvinism, their behavior started to take a turn for the worse. Granted, this is not always the case, but it does happen. I have been talking with believers on Christian forums for about fifteen years now, and these patterns have come up more than a few times. Then again, it should not be surprising that this happens. If God has the power to simply snap His fingers and save people against their will, yet chooses not to save everyone when He easily could, that raises a serious moral problem. It makes God appear selective in His love and compassion, even though Scripture declares that He cares for all. So if God is portrayed as unloving in this way, it should not be surprising when those who believe this way reflect that same unloving attitude toward others.
Again, I say this not to wound anyone here, but I say it as my own personal testimony.
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