This video by Allen Parr is incredibly insightful, especially in regard to married couples considering this topic.
We all can sense the vibes of others, not that we always like to acknowledge what we sense, especially if the person is someone we're supposed to trust. If your girlfriend, fiancee, or wife has a sexual or sensual vibe with a male friend-- or a boyfriend, fiance, or husband has those vibes with a female friend-- that's bad news and is an affair waiting to happen.
We all can sense these vibes. Children can sense these vibes. If grandpa is dangling his six-year-old granddaughter on his lap and his thoughts turn sexual, his granddaughter will sense the change in his vibe or in the emotional temperature of the room and will know, "This is uncomfortable. This isn't good." As adults, some people are in denial and choose to not acknowledge the innate sense that we all have when a relationship or interaction is wrong or 'off'.
Some people don't want to seem jealous, paranoid, etc., so they might shrug off red flags that their significant other is starting to become emotionally attracted/attached to someone besides them. Other people are too busy and preoccupied to see the signs. Many husbands whose wives have cheated on them will often initially say that they didn't see any signs, but when they go back and look or as they tell the story, then they begin to see signs. The fact is they saw those signs at the very times they happened; but they didn't want to believe that their wives were capable of cheating on them.
I think it's simple (like, the type of simple that a lot of people would like to deny): the vibe a man has with his mom, the vibe he has with his sister, the vibe he has with his woman, and the vibe he has with his daughter are all different vibes. There is only vibe out of those four that if he has with another woman is bad news: the vibe he has with his woman. A married (or taken) man's vibe with women who are not his woman should be close to the same vibe he has with his sister. The vibe he has with his woman is a sensual/sexual one. If he has that with any other woman, he's already being unfaithful emotionally. The same applies to women and the vibe they have for their dads, their brothers, their men, and their sons. The vibe they have for other men should be closest to the vibe they have for their brother and shouldn't resemble the vibe they have with their man.
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