Can a Christian re-marry?
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Hi Pearl,
Simply put, there are different opinions on the matter. Most Christians agree that if your former spouse committed adultery (and the divorce has been finalized!) then you are free to remarry. This follows from Jesus’ teaching in Matthew 19:9.
Generally, Christians also accept Paul’s teaching in 1 Corinthians 7:15 that if an unbelieving spouse abandons the marriage, then the believing spouse is free to remarry. I suspect this is far less common.
Other views include abuse as a legitimate reason for divorce resulting in freedom to remarry, but whether you accept this is between you and the Lord. My view is that Malachi 3:16 justifies this, but most translations are awkward and unclear.
Simply put, there are different opinions on the matter. Most Christians agree that if your former spouse committed adultery (and the divorce has been finalized!) then you are free to remarry. This follows from Jesus’ teaching in Matthew 19:9.
Generally, Christians also accept Paul’s teaching in 1 Corinthians 7:15 that if an unbelieving spouse abandons the marriage, then the believing spouse is free to remarry. I suspect this is far less common.
Other views include abuse as a legitimate reason for divorce resulting in freedom to remarry, but whether you accept this is between you and the Lord. My view is that Malachi 3:16 justifies this, but most translations are awkward and unclear.
Job 42:2
“I know that you can do all things; no purpose of yours can be thwarted.
Ecclesiastes 11:5
As you do not know the path of the wind, or how the body is formed in a mother’s womb, so you cannot understand the work of God, the Maker of all things.
1 Corinthians 10:23
The Believer’s Freedom
“I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive.
You as a believer are not under Law to do to get cursed, when you do not do it, and is what under Law does to many, did to me, no freedom and stressed out with no rest. So God revealed to me I am free to choose and learn from mistakes made.
I was married twice before, my wife now, a gift to me from God over 40 years ago now.
There are those that condemn me, there are those that do not. I am not under captivity for anyone else to be God over me. nor are you.
God loves you and will teach you even through mistakes made. Understand Earth Marriage is not easy, since both of you come from different backgrounds. That will be confronted. Every inconsistency from each of you, will bring out arguments.
You are allowed to remarry, you decide between God and you if you are to go through with it.
Col 1 and 2 might reveal truth to you about our freedom
Yet harm no one as much as possible, do your best and continue to move forward daily. Put past behind you Phil 3
God just loves us all, wants the best for us all, as in Jeremiah 29:11 states to me personally, now you too
I hope you choose to be married to God above it all first, Spiritually, to learn daily truth over error, as you have been doing and not always aware of that. Just daily when wake up, acknowledge God simply continues to love you and I bet you will make the right choices more often than not. Let the learning begin Phil 1:6 Congratulation's!
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Blue155
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Matthew 19:9. Any interpretation that goes against the plain and clear teaching on the words of the Lord cannot be correct.
A person can remarry if their spouse commits adultery for they have broken the covenant between them.
If the person forgives the person and does not want a divorce then they cannot bring it up again wanting a divorce.
If a person's spouse dies they can remarry for the covenant is then over and they are now free from that covenant.
But the spouse that is dead cannot remarry for they are dead.
But I am being funny.
If it is not for those 2 reasons they cannot divorce.
But they can separate and it is permitted but they cannot remarry.
And while separated every person they fornicated with they are committing adultery.
Which goes in degrees.
The first time in the first degree.
The second time the second degree.
And so forth.
Some people go so far in adultery that they earn their master's degree or their Phd degree.
But I am being funny again.
But I know don't quit your day job.
But not a lot of people claiming Christianity give it attention not to remarry.
For some will be married 3 times and it was not for the 2 reasons.
But like a lot of people it is no big deal as well as the other sins.
But the whole time they are married without the 2 reasons they commit adultery and not legal they are married.
So how can it be forgiven.
God teaches in the case of spousal death & adultery, a person can get married again. many believe you can remarry if an unbelieving spouse leaves.
1st marriage, permanent? explain. marrying a divorced woman is not a crime anyway. you need to refer to the Bible again.
Just to throw a spanner in the works 
strictly speaking , if two people , willingly have sex with each other then , they r married . Therefore , everyone should b and in my opinion is , married to the first person they had sex with and all other sexual relationships r adulterous ! How's about that then guys and gals ?! 
Yes , I'm back and I'm annoying but , I do love God and Jesus and all of my family in Christ . Just thought I would stir the pot a bit , c what transpires 
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strictly speaking , if two people , willingly have sex with each other then , they r married . Therefore , everyone should b and in my opinion is , married to the first person they had sex with and all other sexual relationships r adulterous ! How's about that then guys and gals ?! Yes , I'm back and I'm annoying but , I do love God and Jesus and all of my family in Christ . Just thought I would stir the pot a bit , c what transpires .
Marrying a divorced woman isn't considered a crime. Nowhere does the Bible explicitly authorize a man having more than one wife; rather, Scripture mentions that some men do, and for the Church, such men are not to be elders or deacons.
The law gives us reasons to judge each other , to look down on each other and condemn each other whilst elevating ourselves . This is the point I was trying to make with my previous post on this subject . We r all , each and every one of us sinners . Any of us that's doesn't recognise his / her own filthiness before God is fooling themselves . If we were to judge ourselves correctly , then we wouldn't b so quick to judge each other . We r all completely dependent on God's mercy and love and His desire and willingness to forgive us when we acknowledge our sinfulness before Him and ask for His forgiveness . We all have personal , individual relationships with Our Heavenly Father , u don't know what God has forgiven me for and I don't know what God has forgiven u for and that's how it should b . To our own Maker we stand or fall . Trust in Him and in our relationship with Him and let's all stop judging each other . Advise ? Yes , try to guide ? Yes , but judge ? No .
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Blue155
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Any teaching that goes against the plain meaning and teaching of the words of the Lord on this topic is unbiblical.
Jesus says “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality [fornication] and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”
Jesus says in Matthew 5:32 But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality [fornication] causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.
Jesus says in Luke 16:18 Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from herhusband commits adultery.
Thus, if a divorce is not for the reason Jesus gave [fornication], then whoever they marry and whoever marries the divorced whose divorce was not for fornication commits adultery.
And the same for the man who has been divorced for any other reason except fornication. It goes both ways.
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Blue155
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Right. That’s the only exception the Lord gave. Jesus gave one exception: fornication (sexual immorality). And we are to follow the Lord’s words and teachings.
You stirred a hornets nest. This thread could turn into a high-entertainment venue.Just to throw a spanner in the works
My first marriage was not permanent. The divorce was a blessing from God in disguise.
My point for that post was not to condemn anyone but to highlight that very few people r still with the first person that they had sex with , so the vast majority of us r adulterers , we r all filthy sinners ! We should not b judging each other but judging ourselves and , acknowledging our sin before God and asking Him to forgive us through Christ . If we have done that then we r forgiven and whatever state we r in , is our starting point .You stirred a hornets nest. This thread could turn into a high-entertainment venue.
Both my husband and I had previous relationships . I have prayed to God and asked Him that , Steve and I might b man and wife in His eyes . I believe my prayers were answered positively so I'm content and confident about our relationship being valid in God's eyes . That's all that matters . Getting close to God is a journey . It didn't start when we first heard about Him , it started when we were conceived . He brings us to Himself and He uses our life experiences to teach us , about ourselves , this world and Himself . It's an on going process and along the way we will make mistakes , some of them big ones ! But He is faithful , faithful to teach us and bring us to Himself at the pace that He knows is best for us as an individual . We r a flock of sheep for sure , but we r also individuals , we learn and process things in different ways and at different speeds , this is why we can't judge each other . God knows us better than we can ever know ourselves and He knows how to keep us , safe and close to Him . All we have to do is surrender and love . We should not judge each others journey / learning process , that what life in these kingdoms of men is , a journey of learning to bring us to a better understanding and relationship with our Faithful Father . He wants us and He will get us
God bless u .