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wgeurts
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Another point you can ponder about;
There is nothing wrong about having a friend who is a boy, if you are just going to be very good friends you can even date for all I care. Just never do something you wouldn't do with a real family related brother or sister. We are to love everyone, but once again if things get more serious, think wether you want to eventually marry them.
There is nothing wrong about having a friend who is a boy, if you are just going to be very good friends you can even date for all I care. Just never do something you wouldn't do with a real family related brother or sister. We are to love everyone, but once again if things get more serious, think wether you want to eventually marry them.
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sunburn
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Have a boyfriend because you met someone worth your time and efforts and God intended it to be..don't have one because everybody is doing it…
when I was 15 i realise that most teens are filling a void…and the more they engage in relationships, the more empty they became…most boys are confused…they just want sex, learning how to be man and use they instrument as much as they can...most girls end up being dumped, passed on to other guys, get mocked…the lucky ones survive they early relationships, only to keep looking for better ones trying to put up a front masking their teary hearts…and life goes on…self esteem as a girl is very important…develop that first…not giving yourself away to a boy...
dating as a teenager is no fun…
I have seen some teen boys very mature…different…noting stops you building a good pleasant relationship with a boy getting to know him but at 15…it's best to delay the boyfriend tag
when I was 15 i realise that most teens are filling a void…and the more they engage in relationships, the more empty they became…most boys are confused…they just want sex, learning how to be man and use they instrument as much as they can...most girls end up being dumped, passed on to other guys, get mocked…the lucky ones survive they early relationships, only to keep looking for better ones trying to put up a front masking their teary hearts…and life goes on…self esteem as a girl is very important…develop that first…not giving yourself away to a boy...
dating as a teenager is no fun…
I have seen some teen boys very mature…different…noting stops you building a good pleasant relationship with a boy getting to know him but at 15…it's best to delay the boyfriend tag
Kendrick that verse doesn't necessarily mean God will give us what we want. Because we can want evil things sometimes. I take that verse as God will give us the holy desires we have. So if someone has the desire to praise god through music then God gave him that desire etc.
Yet if you truly live for God ( as prefaced) then your heart desire will be inline with Gods and so not evil desire.
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Mysty97
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Hey Grace I had a boyfriend recently that I broke up recently because of things he was doing. He was nice at first but than things went down hill. Don't be in to much of a hurry to be in a relationship. God has someone in mind for you and when you are ready he will put that guy in your life. Just because your friends have boyfriends doesn't mean you need one. They are just going though that stage where having a boyfriend is cool. I learned at winterfest a few years ago that you shouldn't follow the crowd. Just because other people have a boyfriend doesn't mean you need one. You are still young and guys will come and go in your life. Don't be in to much of a hurry to get a boyfriend. God has a plan for your life. Guys aren't very mature at that age wait a couple of years before you get a boyfriend. Your still young go and have fun with your life and don't let boys ruin anything. Hope this helped if you need anymore advice feel free to message me at anytime.
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Tintin
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I think it's very important to honour God and each other, but when you say this, it seems to cancel out even cuddling and most definitely kissing.
For some people, they feel it's wrong. There are countless stories of pastors waiting til their wedding day to kiss their girlfriends. It depends on the individuals.
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wgeurts
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Would you cuddle a sibling? Probably yes, I know I do at least
Kissing is an odd matter, if it's just a peck on the cheek I see no harm. You would do the same with family members.
However kissing sets off hormones which could lead to things you don't want to do, at all until marriage. People say they have self control but when your brain gets set off and you get caught up in the moment you may regret what you do later. The Bible says to flee temptation, this is only making it a lot harder and causes a lot of temptation for "going further". Why would you need to kiss anyway? You can show love and affection without a kiss or good snog.
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jakayden2
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You shouldn't date yet because you aren't eligible for marriage.
1)Being ineligible means you're not of marriageable age.
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2)You guys aren't physically and/or financially capable of managing the responsibilities of raising a family.
If youre a christian you need to be both eligible and directed by God to your soul mate. Otherwise 'dating' may lead to; cheating and breakups, abortion and guilt, being dumped and suicidal thoughts, geographical separations and breakups, incurable STDs and a ruined life, teenage pregnancy, horrible marriages and divorce etc. Media and this world teaches ''blind dates from love at first sight and happy ever afters'', when in reality this is the opposite;
Just be patient ignore the feels and fantasies, focus on whats more important like school , being a better person for your wellbeing and your future soul mate, keeping yourself and not giving into temptation, then when your an adult and independent say 20 something, you can always ask God to reveal your future partner. That's the best way to do it IMO
1)Being ineligible means you're not of marriageable age.
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2)You guys aren't physically and/or financially capable of managing the responsibilities of raising a family.
If youre a christian you need to be both eligible and directed by God to your soul mate. Otherwise 'dating' may lead to; cheating and breakups, abortion and guilt, being dumped and suicidal thoughts, geographical separations and breakups, incurable STDs and a ruined life, teenage pregnancy, horrible marriages and divorce etc. Media and this world teaches ''blind dates from love at first sight and happy ever afters'', when in reality this is the opposite;
Just be patient ignore the feels and fantasies, focus on whats more important like school , being a better person for your wellbeing and your future soul mate, keeping yourself and not giving into temptation, then when your an adult and independent say 20 something, you can always ask God to reveal your future partner. That's the best way to do it IMO
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WolfGaming
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guys guys all she wanted was some help man and I agree with some of the posts but come on guys we need to speak in love and pray for her 
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Ugly
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guys guys all she wanted was some help man and I agree with some of the posts but come on guys we need to speak in love and pray for her
Sorry, you're 16. I have 23 years more life experience than you do. So i'm pretty comfortable in knowing i gave a valid answer.
Most often Christians idea of 'speak in love' means 'coddle a person'. If Christians want to speak in love they need to speak in truth, not only going 'oh you poor thing, lets pray'. Some people are put here to sympathize and pray, others are truth speakers and that's what they Should be doing. It often amazes me how quick Christians are to put down people who speak truthfully to others and call that 'unloving' yet when someone gives no truth, but gives pats on the back, a quick prayer and sends that person back into the things they were doing wrong, and that's considered love.
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WolfGaming
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I agree with the too much coddling thing. And ugly doesn't do it but there are certain people who go two far and turn to discriminating and putting people down. As Christians we are to build each other up. And yes sometimes we have to be straightforward but there is a fine line between loving criticism and just being mean. Ugly hasn't crossed that line so I agree don't start calling him mean. And about the boyfriend thing, I felt the exact same way and got myself in a bad relationship and made mistakes because I thought I was gonna marry her. There's no way to know at this age what's gonna happen. Now dating isn't wrong necessarily but you do need to be careful. Keep it friendly don't make it too serious and NEVER compromise your beliefes and standards and just pray that God will send the right person at the right time. Until then be patient God bless.
I so know what u mean. The guys I know my age think...... - actually most don't think. I really don't care what boys think of me or if they think i'm pretty. But I know wot u mean - everyone likes to be liked. So I hang out w friends that r smart n funny n ...well....who like me. I wouldn't make it more complicated than that - but then that's just me
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WolfGaming
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Boyfriends are nice but ask yourself: would you be willing to endure the pain of a VERY possible breakup? Wait until you know who YOU are first. Get more secure in your idenity as a child of God.
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WolfGaming
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Kendrick that verse doesn't necessarily mean God will give us what we want. Because we can want evil things sometimes. I take that verse as God will give us the holy desires we have. So if someone has the desire to praise god through music then God gave him that desire etc.
amen and long time no see Jack