Big mistake...

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Well, there's a 75% chance I'm going to be a 14 year old dad in 8 months! I'm not even in the 9th grade yet! I'm not really taking this very well as I'm worried about my future, social life, and how DIFFICULT this is going to be. I really did not want my life to start so early... I made a big mistake and I've already talked to God about this, this just seemed to be the right place to vent and talk about it seeing as this situation started my relationship with God. My girlfriend isn't really noticing how serious this is, she's talking as if it's no big deal. I already know the complications of raising a kid at such a young age from seeing others... but I never thought this would happen to me. I regret it so so much, I just hope nobody here ever makes the same mistake! I'm telling you now... ABSTINENCE. Wait for that special person, don't give into that peer pressure bull****. Ignore the temptations! Wait until your married, and if your partner can't wait then that person is NOT the person for you! I'm already planning my future and what I have to do to take care of my child... I really do want to be a good dad. I at least wish I was a couple years older so I could get a job and bring in a decent amount of money to help, I don't want my/her parents raising my kid all by themselves. I'm just giving out some advice and looking for some comforting words to get me through this..
 
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I'm so sorry that this might happen to you and the girl. Pray to God always, always go to him first. God always loves you. No matter what you do God loves you.
 
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Well, there's a 75% chance I'm going to be a 14 year old dad in 8 months! I'm not even in the 9th grade yet! I'm not really taking this very well as I'm worried about my future, social life, and how DIFFICULT this is going to be. I really did not want my life to start so early... I made a big mistake and I've already talked to God about this, this just seemed to be the right place to vent and talk about it seeing as this situation started my relationship with God. My girlfriend isn't really noticing how serious this is, she's talking as if it's no big deal. I already know the complications of raising a kid at such a young age from seeing others... but I never thought this would happen to me. I regret it so so much, I just hope nobody here ever makes the same mistake! I'm telling you now... ABSTINENCE. Wait for that special person, don't give into that peer pressure bull****. Ignore the temptations! Wait until your married, and if your partner can't wait then that person is NOT the person for you! I'm already planning my future and what I have to do to take care of my child... I really do want to be a good dad. I at least wish I was a couple years older so I could get a job and bring in a decent amount of money to help, I don't want my/her parents raising my kid all by themselves. I'm just giving out some advice and looking for some comforting words to get me through this..
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I can't say I know how you are feeling but I can tell you I'm glad that you started a relationship with God. Your situations looks tough for sure and I'm so impressed that you want to make the right choice and actually want to be a good dad. That's a good start because not anyone in your situation could say that, I applaud you that.:) We all make mistakess and have consequences from them...but we can turn a bad situation in something good. I know a baby doesn't sound good at your age and it will probably be hard for both of you and the mom at the start, but I'm sure that you can work things out. Have patience, courage, and most important of all....rely in God. With Him everything is possible. Forgive yourself, you made a mistake but that's not the biggest one ever made. The biggest one would be rejecting God in your life, and it seems you didn't do that. You have hope with Him, now have faith.
God bless you, you are in my prayers.=)
 
I appreciate the responses...I know God will help me through this.
 
Bro I will keep you in my prayers. What you must do now is really just work hard at school for your kids sake and lean on God for strength... God bless you bro
 
Well it's going to happen, except you're praying for something bad to happen.. Wish you had known this earlier.. May God give you and your family wisdom and strength to go through this...

And by the way CONGRATULATIONS :D
 
Bro youre young, far too young to have a child, and if you regret it this early I feel i should advise you to adopt it out. There are many loving families out there begging God for a child and yours could be their little blessing. Consider this seriously.
 
I don't envy what you're going through right now. The best thing you can do now is be there for the mother, if she is in fact pregnant, get both of your families involved as scary as that may be (idk how your parents are about situations like this but I know mine would kill me and I'm 22!), and all of you decide what the best course of action is. In the end you and her will make the final decision as to whether you'll adopt out of keep it, but this isn't something either of you two can handle alone, you will need each other and the help of your families if you can get it. Be responsible, don't leave her to handle this herself (and no I'm not assuming you would), and if you both know you can't raise a baby and your parents wouldn't be able to help make that possible to give the baby a real chance at life, then adopt it out, and again work together through every step of the process. I hope the scare is just a false alarm, but if it isn't don't let panic and anxiety get the best of you. I know you're only 14, but if she is pregnant you'll have to man-up and take responsibility, no matter what choice you two end up making in the end.
 
When she told me that she was pregnant, adoption was my first option. She wants to keep the baby and I respect her decision.... but honestly, I believe we will end up adopting at the end once our families get involved (nobody knows but us yet). We are way too young to have a kid, I know that, and my family wouldn't be able to help that much as we already have 2 little ones running around the house already.
 
Maybe somebody close like an uncle, family friend or somebody you trust and see otten and is willing to care for the baby should adoptie him/her. In that way youll not lose contact with your baby.
God bless
David
 
WOW, my heart goes out to you. I know a guy who went through the very same thing at 15.........She ended up not being pregnant, but it was definitely world-shaking. Sex outside of God's plan is NOTHING to play around with, as you now know. Good for you for deciding to man up, but if you both decide to surrender the baby, maybe you can find an adoption agency that will let you meet and choose the adoptive parents. It's neat that you met God through this....I'd love to hear your testimony, if you want to share it. Good luck!
 
I have said a prayer for you and the girl and your families. I know God will help you through this, no matter what the outcome.
 
Am I the only one whose going to say this?
How can you be 75% sure about a baby???? it's either yes or no lol
 
Wow!!!First of all I am REALLY praying for you. There are adoption agencies that have you pick the parents BUT also have all rights to visit and see your baby. The parents also must stay in contact with you and your girlfriend. They also inform the baby once he/she is starting to grow up that they are not their birth parents BUT adoptive parents. If I were you I would look into that option. I know that everyone makes mistakes which is why I have chosen to keep praying for you.
 
Pray to God for the protection of the child and your girlfriend. If she does have a miscarriage, continue to be there for her and ask God to give you both strength. He is your best source for guidance, and He knows what you both need. Your Christian Chat friends are here for you too! Keep us updated ;) I will keep you in thoughts and prayer.
 
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