Sorry Zack, I didn't see the rest of your response that was hidden in quotes! Let me give a more complete response:
You're actually thinking of Romans 9 there. Foreknowledge is a noun, as used in 1 Peter; foreknew is a verb, as used in Romans 8. Romans 9 is a discussion of the nation of Israel and how God chose them corporately. The verse you're referring to is not talking about the individual salvation of Jacob and Esau, it's talking about how God chose them as heads of separate lineages for His own purposes.
Aye, you're right about that - my bad. I couldn't remember if it was Romans 8 or 9 - I did know that 9 talks about vessels of mercy and vessels of destruction.
I never talked about the individual salvation of them - I meant just as you said. However, God didn't look and see what their actions would be - He chose their roles before they even did anything, good or bad.
It's not about Him "bending," it's about Him loving. God loves us and wants our love in return, which if we have no free will, isn't really possible. God chooses to allow us to have freedom so that we can freely choose Him and love and serve Him.
The point is, we are dead in our trespasses before we accept Christ. Only those that the Father has chosen will come to Him - He calls them out of darkness into light through His Son Jesus Christ, who will raise all that come to Him up on the last day to salvation.
We are not our own - we were bought by the blood of Christ. He chose us before we chose Him, not the other way around. He uses us for His glory and His own purposes.
But then you would say, "Who can resist His will?" and I would say "Who are you, O man, to talk back to God?"
So because God didn't "make" them believe, He is not powerful enough to do so? You seem to be jumping all over the map here. Sodom and Gomorrah had enough grace, as we all do, to repent and do what is right if they had chosen to do so. Could God have "done more?" Sure. God could open up the heavens right this moment and come down in all His glory. But He doesn't. Why? Well, it seems to me God is interested in us having this little thing called faith. As Jesus told Doubting Thomas, "Blessed are those who have not seen, yet have believed."
God is all powerful. He can do so. But you seem to believe that He did all He could to lead them to believe, but they didn't. Unless you believe that He didn't do that, but instead only did that with select people like Paul.
God is interested in us having faith. The question is, where does this faith come from? Is it out of the "goodness" of our hearts (the ones that were dead in sins and rejected God), or could it be that God gave it to us as a gift, and truly saved us by His mercy? Is it that we truly *didn't* deserve it, and that He saved those He had chosen out of His sovereign grace, as He is still doing? Or do we take credit for it, seeing as we, of course, believed in the first place?
I would say, He gives us the gift of faith, pouring His love into our hearts through the Holy Spirit whom He has given to us.
I don't have a problem with this description, as long as it is understood that, on an individual level, each Sodomite and Gomorrite had the opportunity to repent and do what's right, and chose not to do so.
I don't think it's an either/or choice there. As with many teachings of Jesus (and the rest of the Bible), there is certainly a down-to-earth, in-the-moment practical application that is involved. But there are simultaneously deeper levels that point to more fundamental theological and spiritual truths. So yes, Jesus was making a point...the people He was talking to were being stubborn, hard-hearted idiots who needed to wake up and smell the miracles. But in making that point, Jesus revealed that His knowledge (and by extension, Gods knowledge generally) includes all things possible, not just all things actual.
I wish I had a quote from the Bible to back up these claims.
Grace and Love