As An "Older" Single, What Advice Would You Give to Younger Singles?

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Adstar

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CharliRenee said:
Aweeee sounds a wee harsh, hope you are just a wee skewed. Well, I don't want you holding on to hurt or resentment, but I do hape your assessment isn't as founded as you perceive it to be. God Bless you, brother.
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Why would i be hurt ?
 
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With how bad things are today, especially the family law courts being aganst men in many places, staying single in my opinion is the way to go. At least by not having a family, you don’t have to worry about your children being brainwashed as many are today.
 
SecondHandHippie

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You must be comfortable in your own skin as a single person before you will be ready for a relationship. See God as your partner first and foremost, and be at peace even if he never sends an earthly partner your way.
 
garet82

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Being single is not as bad as we though. Enjoy what we have to do lots of possitive things. Be focus to God, your self, family n friends.
Never think that being single is a something worst or burden but accept it as best thing in live.
When we are single means we hv responsibility to God n ourselves but when we hv supooses you need to be responsible to hom/her too.

So single is one step to keep us responsible to all things, be more confident and be more independent. Blessings
 
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I sat here debating on whether to reply or not. I have been single and still am single at 49 years. It's not that there hasn't been offers...even in the last few years. The thing is...as I've said many times, if it isn't the right one it will be a living hell. Being a PK...I've seen the lives of families where marriage was rushed into. Or worse where a person grasps onto the first offer. It turns out to be where the husband and wife spend their day tearing the other down, or complaining about some pathetic little thing. Some have even been abusive cases. I've also seen what the children have learned from this environment and the pain and scars. I REFUSE to live my life in that situation. As much as being lonely and a fifth wheel hurts...it is nothing in comparison to living with a person who despises and loths your existance. Especially when I gave them my heart and love. It's not worth it.
 
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Gracie_14

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ToastAndTea said:
Focus on improving yourself. Allow God to work in you to make you or prepare you to be the best person you can so that you can sow into someone else's life when that person arrives (or God chooses to bring that person to you).
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Oh my gosh! Is that Thanos on your avatar? With a side hat thingy....o_O wait....are you Thanos himself?:eek: Oh myyyyyy
 
Lynx

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It's Thanos revealing his alter-ego as the Marshmallow Man.
 
Leftheri

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It's amazing that nobody considers that in the beginning men "took" a woman to wife...arrangements were made and sons were born. There are biblical passages that describe a good wife...not a husband...and divorce, although existed, was more likely avoided by snagging a second and third wife. There is no answer to a perfect marriage partner because this is the time of "hardness of hearts". Men actually hold the responsibility and women are not subordinate today. The word makes most women cringe. Furthermore, men have been indoctrinated out of their head of household positional responsibility.

Good luck with today's concept of marriage. It is void of biblical standards. Find someone you're attracted to a go make babies and be happy.
 
Lynx

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Yeah... Wat
 
trofimus

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My advice would be - better to be single and wait for the very good partner than to try, jump to relationships and then break it with people not so good for you, just because you are afraid of being alone.

Its better to be alone than to be with a wrong person in a difficult relationship. So, do not haste.
 
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