Hi Everyone,
I'm looking for a spouse and church hopping isn't working that well, in the last year and a half I've been to every church in a 250 miles radius (maybe not every church but a lot of them). I've come to the conclusion that young women stop going to church at the age of 17 and come back to church around the age of 40 lol. I was just wondering if anyone knew of any good get-togethers for Christians?
I've heard of a shindig they have in Florida and Mississippi, but that's a kinda long way for me to go because I live in the Midwest.
Any suggestions would be great!
Thanks!
It's not just the women that take off, although seems like a lot of the men don't come back until their wives coerce them to. But yeah it's tough being single in church and most churches are almost afraid to form any sort of singles group because they're concerned that well I assume they're concerned that single people might actually meet other Christians they're attracted to and then face even more sexual temptation and they don't know how to deal with that in any kind of useful way. And honestly singles groups done wrong can easily devolve into little more than a hookup social, but that's not a good excuse for not learning to do it right.
Bottom line is that most of the time for various reasons church and singles (especially never married singles) have a rather difficult relationship and very little is done for Christian singles over the age of 35 or so. And that's why a lot of us hang out here.
Practically, your best bet is to find a church or church group that doesn't make single people feel completely invisible, excluded, or used ( I think the most egregious example of this was the church I visited that advertised the married adults game night; no idea why they thought single people shouldn't be allowed to play games with married people; but there's also the more general idea that single people have more time to volunteer or work at church or staff all the events for married people that aren't applicable to them, or as a woman I can tell you that so many women's group meet around 10 AM on a weekday when most singles have to be at work); then supplement your life with activities that may not be expressly Christian but can widen your social circles. Before Covid I had a monthly board game group and hopefully there will be another improv group in the not too distant future. But yeah past couple years have been even more difficult to get out into social groups and do stuff with people.
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