I'm surprised to read this because the above picture is what I see with many single women who claim it's hard to find anyone interested in them. I obviously can't refute your lived experience, but I pray everyone can get their righteous desire answered by God.
Once again, thank you for your input. I will engage more tomorrow. God bless you sister.
One thought I had while looking at this comic -- I do agree that there is some truth to this.
I've read the common complaint that men receive mostly rejection and never get replies on dating sites, but I always wonder how much of this has to do with Christian culture. In most circles I've been part of, the man is to to be the pursuer and the woman is to be pursued. Some Christian communities believe women are not ever to pursue, (some even say it would be a sin,) so I do think that can be part of it.
And here is yet another funny double standard of modern life:
1. You mentioned in your post that women who work and earn money are now demanding to be an equal, or at least more prominent partner in a marriage.
2. On the flipside, many men seem to think that since women are working and have independent lives, they should also be equally responsible for pursuing the man.
I understand that no one wants to be rejected, but there seems to be a this assumption that women are now expected to help pay the bills, but be good submissive wives -- and yet also actively pursue the men to be their husbands before marriage.
"Be bold, get out there and show him a sign, offer to take him out on a date! But once you get married, no, no, no. You have to go sit in the corner and be quiet and submit and never show initiative again!" Talk about mixed signals.
Here's another problem I see with that double standard.
Yes, there are plenty of times when women are guilty of rejecting nice guys. It's been said in this very Single's Forum before that some women would even reject Jesus if He showed up on their doorstep.
But let me also tell you about all the women I know who are humble, hard-working servants of the Lord, still virgins, but maybe a bit heavier or "plainer" in the looks department.
And do you know what happens? They're immediately passed over for the ex-stripper who just became a Christian, is trying to get off drugs, and is still struggling with leaving her old life behind. But she's also a 15 on a scale of 1-10, and every guy in the church knows it. All other women fade away in her presence, and no male in the church is interested in anyone but her (true story from a church I once attended.)
I'm certainly not knocking the repentant young lady who is trying to turn her life around. I applaud anyone who comes to Christ and have spent a lot of time talking to people with darker pasts than most.
But what I am saying is that these guys are doing the exact same thing as the girl pictured in this meme -- it's just packaged up in another way.
Another problem, and I'm sure some guys have dealt with this, too -- are pursuers who are just a bit too desperate, and maybe even on the verge of being a stalker.
I don't know how long you've been reading this forum, but over the years, we've had SO. MANY. single people say that they are DESPERATE to get married. And if you read in between the lines -- plain and simple, it's because they want to have sex. Now to their credite, they are trying to follow the infamous "for it is better to marry than to burn with passion" verse we've all been told a million times.
The problem is that many, many people come across as if they would gladly grab most anyone of the opposite gender who had anything in common with them and any sort of interest -- and immediately turn that person into their own personal sex outlet.
We've seen that time and time again here. Well-meaning people, trying to find a Biblical answer, but coming across as if they will hunt down and capture ANYONE with the right body parts who might possible be interested in offering relief for their suffering.
And it's NOT AT ALL attractive to be the victim of someone's affections who is coming across as wanting to possess you -- or anyone else -- as their own experimental doll.
I'm sure men have gotten this vibe from some women, too. I can only speak of my own experience as a woman, and I can tell tell you I've gotten that feeling from guys over the years -- and again, it's another big part of why I'm single.
May I suggest a much more realistic version of that meme/comic above:
1. For the female version, instead of all the male hands trying to push through the door with flowers and hearts, portray it with what so many guys are trapped with instead of a real woman.
Instead of flowers and hearts, they're holding up images, videos, fantasies of surgically enhanced body parts and actions -- that no real woman could actually live up to.
No wonder she isn't opening the door.
2. And for the male version -- show the femaie hands holding Tik Tok images of people with perfect lives, beautiful kids on exotic vacations, coming back to beautiful houses -- all of which these women expect HIM to fulfill for them.
No wonder the poor guy is sitting there alone.
I certainly don't have the answers. But doesn't it seem obvious?
And it's astounding to me that people seem to wonder why everyone is so lonely in this world.
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