Part of the reasons why it’s difficult to make headway with others is…because if we say we have a hand in being saved…they will take that to be demeaning God’s sovereignty.
What is your view on God’s foreknowledge? Some people believe He knows every single thing that we are going to do before we ever do it, but it’s hard explaining to someone how they have free will, or why someone would be born if they were already known ahead of time that they’d be lost. If God knew someone wasn’t going to be a Christian before they were ever born, does that person have the ability to become one?